How do you past the time when you try to mend a broken heart!!!!!?

My bf is too scared to give us another chance again. Which has lead me to be heart broken and totally psychotic. So the thing is he tells me he loves me and wants to marry me and I can only assume that means he needs time because he wont tell me how he feels. I love him so... what do I do? I can't forget this man because I feel he is the one. I cant ride by his house every night because he lives far away. Its so hard to just let go. I dont want to just stop calling but what else can I do? Other men want me and I want to know if I should forget about my true love and find someone else? MAJOR HELP IS NEEDED

Update:

Thanks for the help so far. Little detail, we were together for 3 years, he still calls, and will admit he loves me, how can I let the perfect guy go without a fight?

I mean all relationships have terrible times, right?

Update 2:

The hard part the reason I feel like I shouldn't let go is because he says "I knew I was trouble and you would give up on me when it gets hard" I feel like he wants me there. He also doesn't tell me how he feels about us so I dont know if I should close the door on us. Dont want him to come back and I'm with someone else

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Girl i have been in similar situations too many times to count and it is really hard to get through. My advice in passing the time is to stay as busy as possible.If u work or go to school don't miss any days staying home depressed cause you'll end up feeling worse cause all u can do is sit around thinking of your problems.Try to keep ur mind on whatever work ur doing and don't forget to talk with ur friends about how ur feeling that's probably the best thing u can do right now at this point.It really helps to keep ur mind off of things and hear someone elses look on ur situation and see how they would handle it.Plus they can always console u which will make u feel better for a little bit.Why did u guys initially break up for?Maybe he just needs some time to heal or maybe he does love u but he feels it's too much and would like to just move on and there's nothing u can do about that. I know how u feel and it hurts but what can u do cause the mor eu try to get him back the more he's gonna push u away so just try to stop calling even when you get all crazy and feel u have to talk to him right awat cause in the end u just look desperate and no one wants a desperate person.Remember i speak from personal experience.And i hate to tell u this but when u really love someone ur gonna always feel like they're the one even if it's not the case cause u want them to be.I think u should go on some dates with other guys and try to move on and if he calls u again then maybe u two should be together but other wise just play it cool.

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  • 1 decade ago

    if both of u where each others true love then well u would not have 2 deal with this.

    back off, start doing things 4 urself.....grieve 4 love lost I have a three day thing that I have done that helps me.

    first day....cry, and let urself break down

    second day allow urself 2 continue grieving but start 2 think about things that u always wanted 2 do in ur life but did not get the chance.

    day three......pamper urself and start making lists of things u want 2 do.

    now on the fourth day stop thinking about ur lost love....period everytime u start 2 think about the past force urself 2 stop n start thinking about other things. each day look at ur list and do something off of it.

    when u go out meet people have fun or atleast try 2.

    good luck hun

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  • 1 decade ago

    It's so hard to know what to do in this situation. I'm going through the same sort of thing and i'm afraid the only thing to do is try and get on with your life. I know it's hard to do, but i obsessed for about 6 or 7 weeks about my girl and she didn't want to know. So i just got on with my life and tried to improve myself a little. Word of mouth got back to my beloved and we're on good terms, but she just wants some space. Your fella probably needs some time to gather his thoughts and, with a little time, he will probably realise his love for you. I wish you all the best in this.

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  • 1 decade ago

    it seems very complicated. He says that he loves you but seems like he needs some time. the best thing for you to do is respect that. Try to focus you time on the things that you like to do and spend more time on friends. You should also take this time to reflect on what you want. During this time off, you may realize that it was what you needed, maybe you would even find someone else that isn't afraid to commit...

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  • 1 decade ago

    Oh my gosh, I HATE that feeling. The heart ache will become less with time, but it's agony going through it.

    You have to force yourself every minute of everyday... not to dwell on it. It will become easier with practice.

    Going out with a nice guy or two would help also.

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  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    Listen to Al Green song

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  • 1 decade ago

    you may never forget him. but you need to move on anyway. push him to the back of your heart if you can't push him all the way out.

    i'd cut off communication, too. he is sending you mixed signals by telling you he wants to marry you, and you don't need that jibber jabber. it'll be hard, but tell him you can't talk to him or see him for a few months.

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  • 1 decade ago

    How to past the time? charity would be a good option... take some time and ponder on the finer things in life... if possible, get him to join u... u'd probably see some improvements from there on...

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Go F U C K someone else. That should take your mind off of him.

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  • 1 decade ago

    got through the motions first

    tears

    shock

    denial

    hurt

    anger

    then go out with friends an denjoy yourself

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