Should I even try .. or just get over it?

my ex and i have been friends only for about a year, he has always wanted more but i didnt, i lost my mum recently and really needed his support , then he went on holidays only supposed to be gone a week or two but he just got back after a month and he didnt come back alone. i was really looking forward to seeing him again and maybe starting a relationship, now i am overcome with grief. he says he is sorry and dosnt know what he wants and is coming to talk to me tomorrow. should i even try to get him back or just get over it.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    I don't know that you should waste anymore time with him - you were grieving and needed him at a very important time and he goes away and doesn't even have the courtesy to call and let you know he won't be back when expected and then comes back with someone else - no consideration for your feelings or needs - Even if he was with another person - he could have waited since you needed him and that would be uncomfortable for you.

    We can always see the "real person" when we need them - if they are there for us - we can trust them and should keep them in our lives but if they disappoint us - why would we want them?

    You deserve someone who will be there for you and not just think about himself and his needs ~

    :o)

  • Sheila
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    He didn't come back alone? Then there is someone else in the picture?

    You are emotionally vulnerable at this time and shouldn't be involved with someone who doesn't know what they want.

    I know you are hurting and need someone familar to help you through this difficult time. But it sounds to me like your sitting yourself up for more hurt. Be careful, let your mind overrule your heart right now, not the other way around.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Get over it. You're looking for something to fill the whole left by the loss of your mother. Reach out to other friends and family. You need to grieve. This has got nothing to do with your ex.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think you should get over him! He didn't even try to be next to you when you're experiencing this loss?What kind of a relationship this could be?Even as friends.İf you can't count on him,why would you even consider ? You need much more,dear friend...Sorry for your loss and good luck:-)

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  • 1 decade ago

    just tell him exactly how you feel. dont make it.."tryin to get bakk" together...just make sure you let him know that you need him in your life. that you love him and tell him how you could only wanna talk to him about what happen and he is the only man you feel close enough to be around at the hard time in your life...

    and all that..make sure he understands that you were thnking about getting back together..and make sure you let him kno exactly how you feel about every single thing....it matters so he knows..

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Get over him. U 2 should only b friends, why would u wana be wit sum1 who doesnt know what he wants.

  • 1 decade ago

    if you really love him then i suggest you should go back to him only if he is Mr.right for you..... but to tell u the truth i dunt think he is because if he was then why would he even think about going sumwhere for 2 weeks n *** back after a month with sumone else... n especially if he knew your mom was taken away from you......my mom was taken away from me too....i kno wat youre going through.... i feel you on that one... but really i think you should move on to tell you the truth i dunt think that he cares about you.... if he did he wouldnt do all that that he did...sorry shouldnt matter because he should have knew wat a gurl goes through he she loooses sumone close like that...u dig... n i guess i should let go of my long lecture.....cuz this isnt Kris the guy thats email im using is my boyfriend...n i was just going through this n then i decided to leave u an answer so i did....well gurl have fun with your life watever decision u make hope u r happy.... one love gurl... i got mad love for you... cuz i dunt have a mom either n i kno ecately wat youre going through right now...so take careee

  • 1 decade ago

    You had your chance now he has moved on, let him go and move on yourself. You always want the things you can't have , ask yourself if you really want him, or if you just want him now that someone else has him...

  • 1 decade ago

    Move on. It seems you're still looking for what you want as well.

  • Pipi
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    you can't "get him back"

    you can't make him want you

    you can't win him over

    if he likes you, he likes you. if he's not interested, he's not interested. let's not make this a big deal. there are millions of men to date. i'm sure ONE of them has a possibility of being better

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