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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

To what extent Am i thinking rite?

Out of possesiveness i lackd trust and always suspect and checking my bf.After 5yrs he's now fed up.Wen he stop texting and calling i was nearly dying.I paused for a week to take a breath,and contact him if we can stay frens?(just for the sake of having his attention n for him to text me) HE AGREED!!I now want to know if thro this frenshp can i win him back, by trusting and showing him i dont pester again?Show dat i changed?On this ground could it be dat he loves some1 else?(i asked he say he's ok the way he's no1 to pester him) and gota no1 in his life.cud he be lying?wud he agree to text me if he loved some1 else?ur suggestions plz wen he text wat to tell,i cant ask for any chance nor meet him nor call he fly this time!!wat u think

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Girl my wife was the same way and it made me want to leave her but I stood by her and let her just talk her S H I T then I said if you dont stop accuseing me of cheating ima leave you I wouldnt really leave her but I wanted her to under stand that if i get wit you let alone marry you dont think for one sec dat ima get wit another little chicken head even for a sec but girl all I can say is try to get his trust back and mean it cuz if you go back on your actions you will never get another chance

  • 1 decade ago

    I think at this point, it is u who has a problem trusting him. U said he's txting girls but u don't really have proof of that, so stop thinking that. In order to win him back, he has to see that you've changed. Being friends with him is a good start, although u should still learn to give him space and not pressure him into getting back with u until he's ready to. Just remember that nobody wants to take in the task of reassuring u every minute 24/7. Your insecurities are enough to drive anyone away. It is something u have to work with in order to even be in a relationship.

  • 1 decade ago

    if yall been together for 5 years qeustion one did yall live together if not why qeustion 2 why are you so obsessed love is tough but annoyance breeds spite and will drive some one away and he probably has become vain because of you always thinking theres another woman is there and if there iswhat are you going to do there probably has been just out of spite because of your pestering remember people can fall out and in love never acuse until you have proof and dont be so damn obsessive thats scary to begin with let a man breathe and dont give him a big head just be calm and dont think of him cheating you havw issues are your parents divorced you felt alone and betrayed as a child people have done a lot of wrong to you in the past let it go remember he cant love you unless you love your self and if you loved your self you wouldnt have the thoughts yor having at the moment your every waking moment shouldnt be on a man any damn way grow up its a big world any way i hope your an adult to be in a relation ship five years and are not under 18 because if you are a young landy then you shouldnt be worried about any one other than your self school is more important if you are grown deal with it grow up and become a mature worry free woman be strong hun weakness doesnt last in this world so if you want him back dont acuse unless you know for sure shpw trust but always use a condom just in case

  • 1 decade ago

    Why dont you stop worrying about what hes doing or thinking and work on getting some self esteem!! If you felt good about yourself none of this would be happening. If someone has stayed with you for 5 years hes in for the whole thing. Just chill out and remember why hes with you in the first place.

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  • Let the guy go free rather than be mentally tortured.You have done enough to him,you put him through mental abuse,which is often times worse than physical abuse.I'm sure it is not your fault that you are like this,you may have issues going back over many years,but you should not put another person through all this.Let him go-it is for the best.

  • John
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Show him that you have changed ... try spelling your texting in full correctly spelled words ..... next ... the actions ...don't say ... do ! Just be a good friend and show that you can trust and not nag or check up all the time ..... Or just find another guy and hen peck & follow him to death too !!

  • 1 decade ago

    A lack of trust, jealousy are caused by low self esteem,this also causes insecurity. These are not cured overnight. Before you start making promises you cant keep, I suggest you look inside yourself for the cause of this unhealthy self image and its resultant behavior.

  • 1 decade ago

    sounds like he needs a little space and time to see what he wants and needs. Sounds like you might have a bit of insecurity. you have to let people be themselves, and let them interact with other people and not imagine things. you only push people away when you dont trust them. He's probably enjoying the peace and quiet. give him some room.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Try this on the singles and dating, 13 year old section. And maybe try spell check or something.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    First of all hes only a bf.

    This is the married section.

    Your way out of your league missy.

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