I met a guy in april, weve had sex numerous times, he dont want a relationship what should I do?

He has alays been a good listener, Id miss that and I think I got feelings for him. He says hes been hurt and dont want a relationship, he dont have a lot of time to see me cause of his job, I know for sure this is true, he works for a delivery company like dhl, ups, and he dont get home till 7 in the evening sometimes. Basically right now we are just "sex buddies" but it hurts me when he sees other women even if they are his friends whats wrong with me?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    you like him.

    you want a relationship and he doesnt....

    go find another guy who wants what you want or you will end up getting hurt.

    if you can stand just to be his "sex buddy" then go for it. if it hurts too much then you know what to do

  • 1 decade ago

    Well sweety, I'm telling you this because I truely do not want to see someone go through what I went through. I had "sex buddies" in the past. If it starts with sex then it will probably end with sex. Also he might just want sex and nothing more. Jus think back. Do you guys cuddle, does he show you affection after sex and does he atleast show that he cares about you in some way. If yes, then maybe he has been hurt in the pass, and maybe you should jus be real with him and tell him how you feel. The next time that he calls you and asks you to hook up or somethin tell him that you feel that you're relationship is based mainly on sex and that you don't feel comfortable to see what he says. If he doesn't call you and gives you a weird answer chances are he just was in it for the sex and doesn't really want anything more, but if he gives you something positive then he might really be heart broken over his past, or may not be able to handle a serious relationship at this point in his life. But if you really like him make him like you, and one thing guys love is a girl that respects herself, so show him you care but having sex all the time with him and basing your relationship mainly on that might not help. I wish you the best girl, cuz trust me i know you feel. But just have confidence and let him know you feel.. and hey sometimes theres nothing wrong with jus having sex, but when there's feelings behind it its another level, and you can end up heart broken.. Best of love sweety

  • 1 decade ago

    theres nothing wrong with you. you just became attached to someone who isnt looking for any commitments right now. the hard part is you have to make a decision: you can go on and stay the way you are and just hurt from the inside about not being able to be with him, or you could tell him the way you feel and say you dont want to be just sex buddies. the only problem with that is the way hed react to it, but youre gonna have to find out sooner or later.

  • 1 decade ago

    You walked into that type of relationship with your eyes wide open. Now you want to change the rules??? I think it's a little too late for that, don't you? Besides, why should he want to commit to you full time when he still gets the "goodies" without the commitment? Sounds like this guy has everything he wants from you.

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  • 1 decade ago

    sounds like he's been honest with you. you have decide if you can handle it or not. he doesn't want a relationship, sex does not equal a relationship in the minds of many men. if you can't just be his friend, w/occasional benefits, you need to walk away from this situation before you get hurt any longer.

  • 1 decade ago

    you already know what the other womens are not doing so you should had thought about the decision you made before you took that leap and he not going to commint to you cause he is getting what he want so the decision is yours stay and be use or leave and start out fresh with some one different and don't give up the poo poo good luck get to know them first

  • 1 decade ago

    Why have sex with a guy before you actually have a relationship!

    Write this guy off-because your nothing more than a peice of tail to him!

    Don't be so hot to jump in bed with a guy-if he is worth it-he will wait!

  • 1 decade ago

    Ask him why he would be having sex with you if hedoesn't like you maybe he really does he just wants you to make the first move talk to him about it!

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  • 1 decade ago

    ahh sweetheart. hate to say it... sounds like you are hot and sexy and this guy is taking advantage of that. he doesn't want a relationship, just sex. guys just want sex. i can't say it enough. guys just want sex.

    -s

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you have fallen for a guy that wants nothing more than pleasure...the best thing to do is to learn to get over him.

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