So, is that it?

He says "It just wouldn't work with us." because I remind him of his ex. He says he knows it's unfair. I feel I am being punished for something I had no control over.

Does that mean he has basically made up his mind, and that's it?

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  • Tones
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
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    Chances are that he sees too many patterns that his relationship with you reminds him of a past one that didn't work out.

    It could also mean: "Thanks for the fun time, but that's all I wanted so I'll just act passive and hopeless."

    If I were you, I'd dump him before he dumps you and you end up with the egg in your face.

  • 1 decade ago

    Not necessarily. He might come back & realize he made a mistake. Or, worst case scenario, you could really remind him of his ex, & it might really be over. This is one of those problems that are kind of left in the air, until a few days has passed to really know the answer. You just have to remember that this ISN'T YOUR fault! You did nothing to push him away. He's the one who has issues to work out before getting into a relationship. Hope everything works out for you.

  • 1 decade ago

    atleast he's being honest ok...he's telling you how he feels cause he doesnt want it to get to the point where your too attached...sounds like this guy isnt over his ex he still has some unresolved feelings for her...yea it sucks but you know...sometimes when we are the ones getting hurt we usually search for answers...all we could say is why me....now what you need to do is accept it and move forward...acceptance is the first step...but what ever you do...do not beg this man to stay let him go...cause your going to find yourself hurting alot more... i truly believe he wants his ex back...and thats why he is not able to move on.... thats why he said it's unfair to you...the one thing you should thank him for and that is being up front with you...some guys would have just left you in the dark...but see he brought it to the light...and i really do believe he tried to make it work with you and the reason i say that is because of his honesty...see my point... because he didnt have to tell you ...most guys just leave and we never hear from them again...and yes i do think he made his mind up...you should make yours up too cause you don't want to be that woman he comes running to when things aren't working out with the one he truly wants to be with...so once he's gone out of your life let him stay gone...trust me you'll feel so much better...time heals all wounds *good luck*

  • 1 decade ago

    He probably screwd up with his ex. Broke up, bailed out. Time out has happened. The weather is getting colder out. He misses her, she is still talking to him, (maybe trying to work things out) he might think he still has a shot with her, so OUT you Go. He let you out with a lame excuse, so as if things don't work out, he will be calling to say he got over it. YOU WATCH---homeboy's looking for some one to snuggle with for the winter. OR-----he met another chic and you were the re-bound chick who got the lame ex-cuse. Sorry kidd.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Yes, he has made up his mind about you based on something that is out of your control. It isn't fair, but it is over.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i guess he means its over, if he had a bad past relationship with his ex and being with you upsets him then its not your fault and you had no control over it. If he can judge you enough by that then hes not worth it anyways.

  • 1 decade ago

    Sounds like it. You are better off without him anyway. You wouldn't want him to be thinking of someones else whenever he's with you right?

  • yumyum
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Yes, hon. I'm sorry, but you don't want to be in a relationship with a guy carrying that much baggage anyways.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I'd say that's it. It sounds like a cop out to me. F*ck him. Go find someone else.....

  • 1 decade ago

    He's not interested..Move on with your life and find Mr right..

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