Here's your problem.
This guy is taking actions and behaving in a way that makes you feel special, beautiful, etc.
But deep down, underneath it all, you don't feel like you're special on your own. And the underlying fear here is that you don't deserve the attention and affection that he's giving you. It's an issue of inadequacy that you're dealing with.
What you have to realize is that we don't decide whether or not we are, in fact, special. Others around us decide this. Our friends, our family. We become special and beautiful and good-hearted through our interactions with these people.
If you surround yourself with people who think you're an ugly cave troll then you -ARE- an ugly cave troll.
If you surround yourself with people who believe that you are a beautiful, independant and special woman... then that's what you are.
And it sounds like that's how this guy sees you.