Its better not to shave at all if you want your beard to be soft. When I started to grow a beard, after 9 days it got very itchy but only for a few days, not all the time, after 12 days it then got soft and comfortable with the itch gone. It does look scruffy for about the same time as the itch lasts. Once a man has a full beard all that happens is a slight tickily feeling some of the time. As the days and weeks go on you are aware of your beard growing faster, they say that after 6 years of non stop growing the beard finally stops, it might be a bit sooner or later, it depends on a mans genetics. I saw a university student the other day, he looked about 22 and had the longest thickest beard I had seen on any young man of that age, more like a guy of 32, not 22, of course with a thick beard like that its difficult to say what age he was, but as he was with his friends all around about that age, I think he was about 22, some beard for such a early age, I assume he had never shaved ever in his life since his facial hair probably started about 12 or 13, he looked the kind of guy that probably had a good beard at only 14. Some men are like that, others can t grow a beard ever and even after a year without shaving they have only got the same amount of facial hair that a man with a thick growth has a 3 DAYS let alone 3 months.