How should I punish 17 year old son for breaking curfew? Or should I punish him at all?
NO joke! I have a kid not keeping curfew!
- nonameLv 51 decade agoFavorite Answer
Ah yes, I remember being 17! I knew it all back then!
I think it's always been that way with 17 year olds. I was lucky enough to get my bluff in on my 3 boys when they were younger. For the most part they mind me, only because there afraid if they don't, I might throw them through a wall. Not that I ever have or ever would, but they don't know that. My wife has the same bluff on our daughter (she's a daddy's girl, I was to weak to bluff her).
Ok, If talking isn't doing any good, then you have to start taking things away that are important to him. His car, his freedom, any privileges he values. Then only give them back a little at a time as he earns them. You might encourage him to get a after school job. It teaches them responsibility and rewards them with a little jingle in there pocket. It also helps keep them out of trouble, if there working there not running the street. My 2 boys that drive have jobs. I agreed to buy them a vehicle but they had to agree to support it.
17 is not a easy age. You have to give them space but still set boundaries. Look at it this way, if breaking curfew is the only problem he is giving you , then feel lucky. There's alot of parents that are dealing with much worse. Thats how I look at it when the little things start to get to me......Good Luck
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Humm.... What is his favorite thing to do? Take it away for a while, a good long while.
The way I see it is like this, I have rules in my house,
These rules are not really that hard to follow. They are set to keep bad things from happening to those people I love. Also to teach respect and caution in young people. If we don't teach them that life is full of rules and if you break them, there are consequences to pay, who will. The jail keepers that's who.
You have got to punish the rule being broken, if it was not for a very good reason, Good reasons constitute flat tires, taking home someone who is drunk and should not drive. But with cell phones so easy to get and afford. why could they not call and tell you they would be a little late?
You have to punish a breaking of your rules so they will respect what you say. If you back down then they will run over you. I know. it is not a good feeling when they pay no attention to you and expect everything from you. Make him stop breaking your rules if he want s his life to be sweet and carefree.
- grahammaLv 61 decade ago
If you're the one who set the curfew, then you should have had the back-up plan for if/when your son broke curfew. Now is not the time to come up with that plan.
If he drives, take the car away.
Computer? Remove it from his room or take away privileges.
Asks to go out with friends or have friends over, refuse.
Are you giving him an allowance? Don't.
Does he do chores around the house? If not, start giving him responsibilities.
These are things that should have been discussed with your son when you put the curfew in place so that he knew what would happen if he disobeyed.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Deffently punish him, but let him know why you are doing so. Talk to him about why you want him home at a certin time. I would say ground him from going out for a week or so, but while he is grounded maybe you two should work on compromising a curfew that you both feel comfertable with. That way he understands why you want him home and you understand why he wants to be out longer. Comfersation with my parents never happend... If they would have talked to me on a normal level and actually listened to me I dont think I would have made the mistakes I have made.
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- Tom HLv 61 decade ago
Depends on what means he/she is using to break curfew, lock up the bike, take the keys for a weekend or 2. That should get there attention.
- 1 decade ago
Just don't let him go out the next time he asks, or make his curfew even earlier. Well, actually, it depends on how long he stayed out after his curfew.
- No SaintLv 41 decade ago
A dialogue with him on the importance of observing discipline. Observe then punish lastly crack. You know best at what level to stop.
- ?Lv 61 decade ago
A whack on the knuckles with a ruler by the nun always worked for me..... he he ha
No the worst the nun ever did was step on my fingers with her wooden leg after I forgot my xtra pencil and dropped the one I had...made me leave the room and do my work in solitary.
So crack that whip...it really does help.
- 1 decade ago
You should talk to him about it and tell him not to do it next time. If he doesn't listen, then you could punish him by taking away his time to watch TV or play the computer or something.
- Charles WLv 61 decade ago
grounding = chores as long as they are under your roof you are the boss if they don'i like it the they know where the door is
yes some kind on action must be taken the law of mother hood