Am carring a baby for a married man.?
i have been with this guy for 6 years all my life it has been him he got married to someone else with out telling me he said he did not want to hurt me so he did not say but i still stayed with him and now he is seeing someone else and am carrying his baby am a mess that is not what i wanted because i never throught i would get preg for him what am to do it is hard when you love someone to carry on and now i have his kid growing inside me. I had sex with him for 9 years and i never got preg. why now, why now? how do you move on
- RawrrrrLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
Do yourself and the baby a favor and move on. Find someone who really loves you and wants to be with you and be a good father to your child. This guy obviously doesn't care for you or he would be with you and would have been with you years ago. Tell him it's over, no more sex, or anything like that.
- spunk113Lv 71 decade ago
Well, you have three choices: have an abortion, have the kid and keep it, or have the kid and put it up for adoption (I'd recommend one of the latter two). If you keep the kid, he is still responsible for child support, so get every dime of that you can, because the little one will need all the help you can get. As for the rest, it's going to be like any break up--it's just going to take time to heal. Honestly, I'd leave him alone except for child support, because any guy who'd be with someone and then go off and get married to someone else is a sleaze. (I really am sorry you have to go through this. That sucks.)
- 1 decade ago
How could you possibly think that pregnancy wasn't an issue if you were having sex with him? Let's be adults about this and be realistic.......This man never cared about you if he married someone else while seeing you. And he's proving how much he doesn't care if he's seeing another woman in addition to you and his wife. I hope you're not looking for someone to feel sorry for you because what you're going through could have been avoided. Your pain is self-inflicted, you should have hit the road when he said "I do" to a woman who wasn't you. Now you're about to involve an innocent child in your self-made mess...way to go mom.....Need you to pick up the pieces if not for yourself for your child. Your unborn child is now your main concern and priority....get over it and start thinking more responsibility for the sake of your son or daughter.
- avarcaLv 44 years ago
My first reaction on your question (after examining the completed element) is that are you stupid or what? He grew to become into married to somebody else. Get a clue. i'm hoping you advance up quickly using fact your son desires an person mom, not somebody into playing manipulative video games. If he's not paying toddler help, she'll locate out quickly adequate while he's served. Be a grown up.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
umm well you are in a hard time so sorry to hear this. but if i was you i would just move on and try to find someone that will love you and only you and it might be hard know cuz you are having a baby but there are lots of ppl that find new loves that have kids. i hope everything works out for you.
good luck with your baby,,
i am having a baby too one more month away.. anyhoo take care.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Wow.... at least you know what to expect for the rest of your life if you try to keep him around. I'd say milk him for everything you can and move on as fast as you can. I'm sorry but you've given your heart to somebody who doesn't care. All that's left is his wallet- and I never give that as advice unless I think somebody's really been screwed over. You have to move on, you've made mistakes.....but you can survive for sure. Read a book called "Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours." It's pretty insightful. Good luck.
- Lady GeoLv 51 decade ago
well its called karma hun n its a *****.
he will be in ur life now 4ever, thats why its so important 2 choose right.
all u can do now is be a big girl n suck it up. cause u ****** up n u know it. he never cared 4 u, that is apparent by how he treated u.
stand up 4 urself n go on hun its not that hard if u really think about how much of an asshole he is. he never loved u hun only used u. it sounds like the idiot does not have a clue what love is.
- jodieLv 61 decade ago
Well, it takes a while to learn something when you want the question and answer to be different from the solution.
First of all file for support for the unborn child and its future. Pull yourself out of this bog and move on with your life without this louse. What has to happen to convince you this guy is not a man and does not respect you?
- Arthur WLv 71 decade ago
Youre right, you have a huge mess here but remember it takes two to make a baby. It sounds like this guy has used you for his needs thruout the years and still used you after he got married. I would say youre a woman scourned. Usually I wouldnt say this but for what he did to you, and youre going to need help with your baby, Id notify him of such and give him an ultimatum, help or youre going to put his name on the birth certificate and sue him for child support, which is well within your rights to do so. All that matters now is that youre pregnant with his child and youre going to need help raising him, so let him figure out how he wants to accomplish that. Its just not right for you to raise the baby alone, after all you didnt get pregnant alone. What it does to his current marriage should be of no concern to you right now. All you need to concentrate on is you and your baby. Give him his ultimatum and let the rest take care of itself. Good luck and God blessSource(s): Florida Paralegal with a BS degree in Social-Pyschology
- 1 decade ago
Call mom or dad, sister, brother you are going to need some help with this one. As for the guy that got the milk and the cow for free, it's time to send him down the road.
Make sure you let the wife and the new girl friend know everything, they need to know.