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my cousin has this boyfriend that she loves, but he doesn't really love her back.?

i hang out with them like all the time on weekends cuz were the same age. on saturday, i was noticing my cousin boyfriend flirting ith me alot behind her back, and i am NOT interested in him. how do i tell her that her boyfriend wont stop flirting with me behind her back?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    You shouldn't tell your cousin until after you speak with the boy, explain to him that you do not appreciate him flirting with you, and you do not want to see your cousin get hurt. Explain to him that you plan on going to her if he does not stop.

    If he continues to do this, then yes, you should say something to your cousin, you wouldn't want her to be with anyone like that anyway, she will end up getting hurt.

    She is your blood, and she loves you, and she is going to appreciate you looking out for her.

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  • 1 decade ago

    If telling your cousin is something you feel you need to do.

    Do so by saying it like this, Suspect that you are not the only other person he has flirted with behind her back. Because chances are hes cheating on her with someone else. So just say that you have when you all are hanging out you have seen him flirting with other girls when her back is turned. Unless you are the only other girl that is in the picture at the times you hang out.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Only tell her that if you want to lose her friendship. This would kill her pride, cast aspersions on her insight, and she has the option not to believe you, and you would risk that in telling her. A lot of the love called "love" is what people who who don't know what love is, call "love". It may be more common among young people today than true love. You don't have to tell the truth but you don't have to tell anything. Let her find out from her own experience unless you want to gamble on it but she's a cousin, why alienate her?

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  • 1 decade ago

    Of course you know about the saying " two is company; three is a crowd. If you are not interested in him just tell the guy and if he doesn't stop, then I think it would be a good idea to confront him with the facts in front of your cousin.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It is best to pull her aside and tell her. I know that she says she loves him, and it may hurt her, but it will hurt a lot more in the long run if he cheats on her with someone else and will lay on your conscience that you knew he was that kind, but didnt wanna hurt her by telling her. I had that same problem with my sisters boyfriend. he flirted with me all the time and I didnt tell her. Finally he cheated on her and they had 2 kids together, so it hurt so much more for her to find out later when it could have been prevented sooner.

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  • 1 decade ago

    sit her down in a quiet place where you wont be interrupted by phone calls, ppl walking in, etc. calmly explain the situation to her. carefully prepare your words before hand (make sure they dont sound like you're saying she isn't a good gf, or that you dont like him or their relationship (she may go on the defensive)). try something like, 'i've noticed that __ has been..." or 'i thought i should let you know that _ has been _(whatever you define as flirting, making googly eyes, touching inappropriately)_ with me' i hope this helps and everything works out.

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  • 1 decade ago

    then she needs to wake up if he does not really love her now he never will and she could end up being like me married to someone who just wants to beat her all the time---i took the beatings for 15 years and am finally getting a divorce. today is my anniversary and friday 9/15 is the day my divorce will be final

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  • 1 decade ago

    Just brush it off, tell him you dont like him like that and leave it alone. No matter what you say to her, shes gonna make her own decision about him, so just sit back and be there for her if need be.

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  • 1 decade ago

    You don't. Girls are jealous creatures. Plus no one learns anything not getting screwed over by others. Let her learn the hard way so she can put up walls of bitterness like the rest of us.

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  • 1 decade ago

    i think his just one of those persons that love to flirt with everyone without caring for the one that really loves him .

    tell your cousin to leave him ..she will be hurt worst if she stays with him.. and like they say ..if he loves her he will come back if not then it was not ment to be on the first place ..wish you and your cousin lots of luck ..

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