Why always in a divorce the wife have to benefit, even if she have not done nothing? and Why?

Meaning done nothing is in helping or contribute to first home purchase, Rent, bills etc....But the wife is working, but not helping in a relation on the economic way.

Any opinions or sugestions, I just cant understand why the husband always work so hard and wifes always end up with the house and their check accounts.

Do you think Justice is fair on that aspect? Dont you think should be better in case or a divorce everthing be split it 50/50 but only on the things that both have contribute equally and they can prove.

Not because you bought a house 2 years later you get a divorce and your wife get to keep 50% and she only contribute with the 10% or less, She should have the right on that 10% plus the husband should have the right on the 90%...what you all think?

This is all cofusing and I am trying to help a friend in which have put me to think. Thanks

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Same here, my friend. I have always railed against this unfairness. Women want to have everything. They scream out about inequality, they demand that they should be working and not staying home to be the homemaker. They seem to want everything. And when a man gets fed up and wants a divorce, they demand alimony. Now what kind of thing is that? The arguments for alimony, in my opinion, can be turned right around in favor for the man too. In today's world of so-called equality, it's just madness. If I ever get divorced, I'd settle it nicely without a big dispute. If the couple is getting divorced and they can't settle anything, then it ought to be 50/50, as you say. That is the only way to be fair.

  • 1 decade ago

    Ok, here I go. I am a woman first of all. Not all women think that they should make out like a thief in the night. I certainly don't. I think it should be 50/50 in most cases. I have 2 women friends that just got.........! One had been married 8 years, they had bought a house with land, She came of the marriage with nothing, but a car. He got the house, the land, the truck, the motorcycles, and most of the household goods. Why because she couldn't afford an attorney worth squat, and he was harrassing her everyday several times a day. He kicked her out, then wanted her back. They did this several times in the marriage, and the last time, she didn't go back this time. But because he had a good salary he could afford a good lawyer, who keep him out of jail for stalking charges. She just signed the papers giving him everything to just be rid of him for good.

    Another, about the same thing...but she had been married 25 years, they owned a fine home, cars, trucks, and a business, she helped with, but after she had enough she just signed the papers to just leave. She worked most of the 25 years espcially the last 10, but again, he could afford a better lawyer.

    So, don't think it's all one side, even though I have to agree that it is men that is the ones that need the vaseline more often than women. I know my brother was taken to the clearners by his 1st wife, and when we thought he could ever-ever picked another like her, wife #2 came along...and he's still paying on her and that was 8 years ago. She was having an affair the whole time, and her boyfriend called my brother less than a year later wanting my brother to testify in divroce court because she done the same thing him.....So, men do get shafted but women do too...There should be some better laws that no one gets it up the rear.!!!

    God bless us all.........................

  • 1 decade ago

    When you sign the marriage contract the rules are clear. If you have signed, then you have to stand for it, like any other documents. I personally dont think it is always fair, anyway how to prove that she has contributed 10% and the husband 90%? it is quite empirical. Not to mention that in this kind of union, each person is considered ecqual and if she has contributed less cause she made less money it does not decrease her value as 'half' of the marriage.

    Anyway not always the wife ends with something. My ex husband is getting to his third divorce and he has never give any of us anything, being that he got with the house on the 2nd marriage.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Read "The Enlightened Stepmother" by Perdita Norwood as a first step. Realize there are things you cannot control in this relationship. Find out what power the ex is holding over your man - is it visitation ("if you don't do exactly what I say, you'll never see your kids again!")? Is it child support ("I'll call the support agency and have a warrant issued!")? does he know what his rights are? (my husband's ex used to have him running scared mostly because she acted like she knew what the legal rules were, but was making them up to browbeat him into submission. Boy was she pissed off when I showed him what the REAL laws were!) Read his divorce papers - some of that stuff (who does pickup/drop off, and visitation schedules) should be spelled out in the divorce/custody papers. SHOW them to your man, and ask him why his ex is allowed to modify a court order? His ex has castrated him. It takes a while, and gentle encouragment from you, for him to get his balls back from her. But it can be done.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    well bc she can claim that she stayed home to take care of the kids and if she does that then its concidered work as if she was at a job doin the same thing she would make about 25-45K a yr for it so thats why yet also if u dient have a pre-nup and u placed her in a life style she grew accustomed to u then cant go and take all that away from her as well thus the reason for pre-nups

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    There are other ways of contributing besides the financial aspect. did she cook, clean, take care of the kids, run around with the kids, do your dirty laundry.....If you add the cost of all that up, she probably would make more than you!!

  • 1 decade ago

    There is this phrase.

    Its a mans world, but it wouldn't be nothing without a woman or a girl.

    James Brown

    Good Song

  • T Time
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Got a cheap lawyer, huh?

  • G.
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    You should have got a prenuptual. Too late now.

    Cut your losses and move on.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you moron......just by her marrying you was enough work....who kept the house in order,...who cooked you dinner..lunch..breakfast...who wash your clothes....who was there for you with emotional support...I can go on......

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