Do you think porn has hurt or helped your relationship?Why?

This is primarily for people in long term relationships, please.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Both...it works everytime, but usually it works too fast! ; (

  • 1 decade ago

    It only hurts relationships. I can speak from experience on this. My ex husband watched it. I had a very low self esteem by the time I divorced him(that's not why I divorced him though). I couldn't even look anyone in the face when I left him. I felt so bad about myself that I just looked down all the time, even when talking to other people. It took me years to feel good about myself again, and you can be sure that I'd never go through that again.

  • 1 decade ago

    It hurt my marriage. I felt that my husband of that time was tired of me and looking for something else with the porn. I did not look like the women in those pictures or movies, so I felt that I was not good enough to satisfy him. Of course, a couple of years later I found out that he was having an affair, so maybe I was right after all.

  • 1 decade ago

    Personally, I am a very sexual person and so is my boyfriend. We have been in a relationship 3 years and have hopes of marriage. We both view porn together and apart to fulfill are sexual needs, alot of times we share what we saw and how it made us feel just to communicate and spice up our sexual relationship. I've used techniques from videos for our relationship and we both have shared our desires or just tried new things we saw in the pictures and the videos like role play and stuff. We're very committed to each other and I have to say porn is great because of my sexuality. I've learned a lot of made him smile so many times, that makes me happy to know that I've made my man happy and its my job to serve his needs. I can't say that its hurt us one bit but helped us 110% with our wild desires in the bedroom (or table, or porch, or hood of the car...) Anyway.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I was married for 15 years to a man who was addicted to porn. He abused 3 young girls, made me into a mental basketcase and then turned it all on me. He also was addicted to masturbation and other devious sexual behavior. Porn definitely played a part in our marriage breaking up, but I don't blame it solely. It is merely a tool used by Satan to break up families. My ex had to make the decision to open up the 1st book and look inside. I know that porn is readily available but I choose not to look at it. There are more constructive ways to deal with your emotions other than degrading women by looking at them in the worst possible scenarios. How sad that women have such a low esteem of themselves that they need to show off private parts of their body for money and attention? No wonder we have so many sex related crimes in this country.

    Source(s): My own private nightmare
  • 1 decade ago

    With my first husband it helped because we were into it together, and it would help to put us both in the mood. We used it to get new ideas too. But in my second marriage my husband didn't like it, so I would say it just depends on the dynamics of the relationship. Never hurts to try it once.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think Porn is a disgrace to women. And it can ruin a relationship. What you share with your spouse or long term lover should be special, emotional, and compassionate. I don't know where men get off it's all about them!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    It can go either way depending on the relationship, if both parties are OK with it than it work. If one partner is uncomfortable than troubles arise and we have the foundations for long term problems!

  • 1 decade ago

    I think that it could help a lot if both are into it. My wife and I went to a porn store and spent a lot of money to get some videos. Girl on Girl, guy on girl etc and that was over 6 months ago and we have watched them numerous times since. No question for us, it helped.

  • Well I have been married to my husband for 4 years and porn has never been a part of our life I couldn't ever seeing it helping out a relationship I'm glad my husband and I are satisfied with each other I love him and he loves me we don't have to watch porno to get turned on we have each other for that anyone who watches porno in their relationship isn't satisfied porno is just a way of a person that isn't satisfied to have fantasies about someone else and get turned on cause the person their with doesn't turn them on it doesn't make sense to watch porno if someone has to watch porno in their relationship I feel sorry for them that is pitiful

  • 1 decade ago

    Hurt

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