Guys!!! I need some advice.... I recently moved to Virginia from N.J. to be with my fiance, he was always a?

big computer geek and was always playing games on the comp. Lately he has gotten into pool, and I feel like its an obsession, when it was the computer it was 10 hrs a day, now with pool its almost every day.... I don't know if its just me blowing this out of porportion, I don't want to tell him what to do but I wish he would just balance his hobbies and his relationship out 50/50.... should I let it be or should I say something?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Are you following your own advice, or just waiting on him. Find some hobbies of your own to fill your own time. He's taking you for granted. When you are no longer available at his every whim and wimper, maybe he will realize that he should spend more time with you. Make time for the important stuff before it gets away!

  • 1 decade ago

    Mr. Chivalry says, "If you want your fiancee back, then don't play the finger-pointing game. Sometimes, women have to be the bigger person too, unfortunately. Find a positive approach. Usually, you wouldn't intimate warfare to be a sensible approach, but in this case, you could. Candlelit bedroom is always good. Nightwear will set it off. Since pool is his thing now, how about using some pool terminology. I'm sure you can some up with something. Like, if you tell him to come to the room so you can stroke his cue, I'm sure he'll find that the bed is a better pool table. Put it on him so well that he won't think about another game of pool. Then, let him play pool. Let him know that you enjoy time with him, but you also respect the fact that he wants some alone time to do his thing. You're a woman. Women have an extreme amount of charisma. The fact that men are predators alone should be an advantage to you. Trust me, you can win. If not, then he is not the right guy for you."

    Mr. Chivalry has spoken.

  • wmp55
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Learn to play pool.

    And if he's going out to play, get a pool table.

    If money would be a problem, there was an item Fisher-Price sold years ago that was a "3 in 1" game table about 4 feet long that gave a near perfect to-scale simulation of pool, ping-pong and table hockey.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think you need to be honest with him and tell him he needs to pay more attention to you. Tell him the best way to do it is by playing pool a few nights a week and spend the entire weekend with you...or some sort of a schedule so it limits his pool playing and you get the attention you are looking for.

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  • 1 decade ago

    the best thing about Bing in a relationship is you can tell your other half what your feeling are i suggest you talk to him and see if the both of you can come up with a happy medium. my wife and i do this all the time so we don't over step each other hobbies .. good luck and best wishes

  • 1 decade ago

    Sweetie, he is taking you for a ride, get off the train and head back home. Any man who puts his hobbies be for you, is worth about a dime, and that dime cant buy you anything today including your love, if you are a smart girl. Aloha from Hawaii!

  • 1 decade ago

    Go play pool with him. Then mention balancing out his life.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    I don't think either of those hobbies are bad, but it sounds like you're not getting enough attention. Is this YOUR issue or his? Why don't you try picking a few hobbies up on your own?

  • Joe K
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    He is probably gambling in the pool hall.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    absolutely not..... this relationship is not all about him. he needs to know that, and so do you. tell him to get his *** out of a pool hall, and back home. good luck!

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