There is a guy that I really like, but I am confused....?

There is a guy that I really like and he calls me from time to time, but not a whole lot. Whenever we hook up, we usually have sex with each other, and he bails out. I don't know why I'm so confused, because it's probably obvious that he's using me. This has been going on for about six years. What should I do? When I tell him to get lost, he continues to call me and asks if him and I can at least "be friends," and I feel he is just trying to trick me into getting his way. I'm so frustrated and exhausted from this guy, but I love him, I truly do.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    im sorry to say but from what you are telling everyone it sounds like he is using you to get what he wants....men are pigs

  • 1 decade ago

    Your right he is using you and you need to get rid of this guy ASAP. Its going to be hard because your emotions are involved with this guy but he will never respect you or want to be serious with you if he gets to have sex with you every time he wants. I think you need to really think about what is more important and let that guy go. You guys could never be friends because you already past the border of a regular friendship with a person. So let him go and move on. Its not going to be easy but be strong. Its for your own good. and plus you'll never be able to be in a real relationship with anyone if you have a booty call by your side.

  • 1 decade ago

    if he really liked you or loved you, he wouldn't be treating you this way. people who love/like each other want to spend as much time together as possible. they don't bail out after every sexual encounter. if they do, then it means he's using you. you should realize that love doesn't treat you like a booty call. if he really liked you and cared about you, he'd want to be with you all of the time, not just once in a while, that shows concern and interest. but if he's bailing out after every time you guys have sex, then it means he isn't concerned about you or interested in you to the degree where he wants a relationship. i'd just quit messing with him and move on. if you don't, then YOU will be the only one missing out on life, because i'm pretty sure that his life goes on when you aren't around. good luck

  • 1 decade ago

    If there hasnt been any form of comitment after 6 years then something is def wrong. My advice, ask him what is going on with him, why after 6 years of being we'll say friends with benefits, he can't commit. If he doesnt answer you or give you the answer you are truly seeking, leave him alone. When he calls, don't pick up, or tell him your busy. It's obvious he is just getting the milk for free if you catch my drift. If you want things to change be the one to change them.

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  • Lady S
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    The question is: what do you want? Do you want this man to continue to be a part of your life and use you as a "friend with benefits" or do you really want to get rid of him for good? I honestly think that he is using you and you're allowing him to do that. If this guy really "loves" you, he wouldn't be using you like that. He would treat you with respect. You deserve so much better. He's using you for a piece of a*s and that's it. You don't need someone in your life who will not treat you with respect. It is all up to you. Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    ok if you feel that he is just only using you b'coz the two of you are having sex tell him to leave you alone the only problem is you think that you love him you just like him girl you dont love him

    he always bail his self out b/coz he's afraid that he might get you pregnant try to meet new guy so that you will forget him so that he will totally be lost in your life.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think you totally get what is going on... 6 years is too long.... imagine all the worth while relationship you could have gotten in by now! Forget him ... he just wants friends with benifits... he is a no go!

  • i totaly understand... i have had a relationship like that for 12 years.

    you need only ask your self what you truely want.

    if you do not want to be in this anymore tell me and then stick to your guns.

    if you want it to stay the way it is then let him now how you are feeling and who knows good things can happen,,,, hell we are aloud to dream and dream big.

    so really you are the only one who can answer your own question.

    good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    He is obviously using the term "friends with benefits". If you are looking for more of a relationship, kick him to the curb because he obviously is only into you for one reason.

  • 1 decade ago

    just because you love him, it doesn't mean the feeling is mutual. he's not worth your time...seriously. when you tell him it's over make him know that you mean what you say or he'll see that you're weak and keep taking advantage of you... there are other men in the world don't get caught up on one.

  • 1 decade ago

    Be true to yourself. Do you find satisfaction in carrying this any longer just because you 'love' him?

    Can you still live on after you break off ties with him?

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