How do you know you truly love someone?

He has two kids, is in debt, is divorced, likes to spend two much on his clothes and for me. He lives out of town because I graduated and left to my new job. He is very clingy, controling demanding, insecure we are very serious but I have mixed feelings because I get tired of all the questions and accusation and I'm always breaking up with him. I fed up and tired but I love him so much when I let him go. I'm not sure if I'm ready to be a mom to his 7 and 8 yr old sons. I know I love him but being out of that town I feel so much more relieved. When we brake up its hard not only on him but me too.

17 Answers

  • G. M.
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    I believe you know the answer, as you have answered the question yourself.

    very clingy-controlling -demanding-insecure-spend-fed up


  • 1 decade ago

    Give it time. Time will tell.

    When a relationship is new you feel very clingy and attracted; later you will tell if it's true love. So, be patient and wait.

    Love is long-suffering and kind.

    Love is not jealous,

    it does not brag,

    does not get puffed up,

    does not behave indecently,

    does not look for its own interests,

    does not become provoked.

    It does not keep account of the injury.

    It does not rejoice over unrighteousness,

    but rejoices with the truth.

    It bears all things,

    believes all things,

    hopes all things,

    endures all things.

    1 Corinthians 13:3-8

  • 1 decade ago

    From your short description, I dont think you love him, I think you are afraid to be alone and will miss all the things he buys for you. Since you recently graduated you must be relatively young, Im assuming.. and it seems to me like you are not ready to be a fulltime mother and wife to a man that just doesnt do it for you. Settling down is a serious matter, you only do it because its what you want, and there is no other person on this earth you would want to be with. Trust me you will know when you are in love, and you will know when you find the person you want to be with forever. Love and marriage are serious matters, you shouldnt toy around with you future by getting involved with someone you are unsure of, that should answer for you if you arent sure then you must not be in love with this guy and you should risk getting trapped into a situation you already know you dont want to be in.

  • 1 decade ago

    If you truley someone you wouldn't be breaking up with him so much. Nobody is really in love with you if they are controling, demanding, clingy, ect!!! Think to yourself do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him and have kids? Do you want him to be a dad to your kids? If you love being away from him then hes not the guy for you!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    do you like the guy if you did you would not feel this way I don't think you should get marry but its all up to you . Just set down and think do you love him so much that you are ready to be a mom for two to clean, cook and take care of them.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think basically u love him...but u gotta love urself b4 lovin n-e-1 else and is bein in a relationship lyk dat realy wats best 4 u? who knows n e thing can happen, even stayin 2gether 4 ever.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I feel that when you know that you are in love is when you think about this certain someone 24-7 and that hearing his/her voice makes you feel good and if you are having the worst day, just from seeing them or hearing their voice will make you on top of the world and you will forget about how bad the day was. That is my opinion on true love

  • 1 decade ago

    how long have you been with this man? think about what if he left your life forever and there was nothing you could do about it? would you miss him dearly? could you still go on alright or would you be dragging your feet through life?

    who says you have to marry him or anything.

    P. S. try to think of all the good things you two have together.

  • 1 decade ago

    This is how you know: Think about him being in a situation where he is going to die if you don't intervene and "trade" your life for his--that is, by throwing yourself in front of a bullet or a speeding car. If you are willing and happy to trade your life so he may live, you love him. If you hesitate, you don't.

  • 1 decade ago

    u kno because there is no one else who can take that persons place in ur life.. not matter what bad habits they have u still love them. u would do anything just to make them happy . u will think about their happiness and most important u will respect them and they will do the same for u... when u can trust them and always kno u can count on them no matter what ....thats love ...

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