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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

stepmother in-law is mad at us for not being able to have kids?

my husband and i have been married for 13 yrs and to this day his stepmother doesn't like the fact that i was born sterile, seven yrs ago i needed an emergency hystorectomy in order to live and she tells my husband that he should divorce me all because of it. why is she being so cruel when her daughter and son in-law have three kids.

21 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    I sincerely hope your husband sticks out for you to "protect" you from his mother. Im sure it can be quite a challenging position (for him) to be in, I mean, he is being torn between the two people he loves most. How could this woman say that about you. That is a medical condition and you are not in control. You did not bring it upon yourself - she is just being insensitive, obvisously she doesnt even care that you are dealing with a difficult situation yourself. I think most women would want to have children, if not only 1, so to to be without like that and you couldnt change a thing about it must the most painful thing ever. Im sure God had a plan for you - I know you dont want to hear some feeble reasons, but I know He is in control. He gave you a life like that and all you have to do is actually praise Him for having given you the gift of life. Good luck with Monster in Law - she realy needs to give you a break. You dont deserve that.

  • 1 decade ago

    well first of all she sounds like a real uncaring person. If you were born sterile. did you tell your husband before you got married and he was ok with that? then he should tell her to keep quiet.. what is wrong with some people. If you can't have kids you can't have them .. If you want one you can always adopt one. if it is that important to the two of you. but if you were honest with your husband when you got together then there should be no problem and she should stay out of your lives.. interfering inlaws they don't know how hurtful they can be..

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  • 1 decade ago

    My heart goes out to you...sounds more like you have a Step-Monster-in-law. First of all it's none of her dang business whether or not you can have kids. I would confront her and let her know that it's very rude and disrespectful for her to say these mean things about you. You husband should support you on this...sounds like it if you've been married for 13 years.

    This woman has some serious issues of her own. Remind her sheis not perfect and to BUTT OUT!

  • 1 decade ago

    She sounds a little.... well, crazy. Crazy as in totally not understanding and I suspect she has never been supportive of you or your marriage.

    Is your husband supportive? I gather that as you are still together despite his stepmother's actions, he is supportive and wants to be with you regardless of whether or not you have kids. If he is willing, I think both of you should confront her and make it clear to her that you two will decide the destiny of your marriage, not her.

  • rkrell
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Unfortunately some people believe the only purpose for living and being married is to have kids. Your step mom is one of these people. She believes that your husband can't possibly be happy in his life without having kids because she could never have been happy in her life without having kids.

  • 1 decade ago

    well to solve this problem u cna do 1 of 2 things: say ," listen b i t c h, i can thave kids so get off my back or so help me god i will make the rest of ur life a living hell!!!!., or, go buy her a deer outfit(like a halloween costume that looks like a deer) and have her wear it for a special occasion (tell her she needs to wear it for this occasion), so u take her out into the middle of the woods during dear season , and hey look it was an accident, he thought she was a deer. hope this helps u.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If she wants kids so badly, tell her to go have some of her own.....Or buy her a doll.... A Chucky Doll, one that may have an "accident" with her..... Seriously, your husband really needs to talk to her and have her accept the fact that she is not going to be a grandmother to any of his not-to-be kids... Does that make sense?

  • 1 decade ago

    Just try to ignore her. She's just selfish. Talk to your husband about it and try to get him to talk to his mother. If that doesn't help, maybe you can confront her directly. It is not your fault that you can not have children. She just wants to control her son. I'm sorry your stepmother in-law is so cruel to you and I hope that you can work something out.

  • 1 decade ago

    Why is she being so cruel? Because she's evil. Tell her he married you, not your uterus, and THAT'S why he's not going to go off and divorce you to find a chick that has big hips that are good for breedin'...Your hubby needs to tell her he won't tolerate her bringing up the subject again.

  • 1 decade ago

    Your fertility issues are none of her concern . . . it's between you and your husband only! If the two of you want children, you can be foster parents, you can adopt and/or you can look into surrogacy. Your step-mother-in-law should keep her meddling to her own affairs and leave others alone.

    Good luck and try to stay sane!

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