Do you think it bad if you push others away because you been hurt by your first love so its hard2love again?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I think that its only natural for you to feel this way at first. I've been there and im sure plenty of other people have too. Pushing others away will only hurt u in the end. Pushing others away only makes u cling onto the emotions u had with your first love. Giving others a chance is a good way to start getting over it. Remember you're only in this state of mind because u choose to be. The hurt from your first love should be a lesson learned, not a hindrance towards future opportunities to explore and try other experiences in relationships which u may like. Just remember to take it slow. No matter how u look at it there's other fish in the sea and other colors in the crayon box. Just find one that's worth swimming with and one that makes the picture complete.

  • 1 decade ago

    Wow, I hope that you are young. Love is a wonderful thing. I think it takes time but you have to be ready for it. Look at what you will be missing, hugs, kisses, nice conversations, snuggling in the night, whispering in your ears, romantic nights, and so on. I have to say that you can't let your first love be your fate for the rest of your life. Learn from that mistake. What was the reason you were hurt, was it something you did or he did? One of the main thing about a relationship is to have communication. Without the communication, it is hard. You have to give love a chance. Just like some of people say, you can't judge every relationship just because you have a bad one. Give love a chance, if you really want it. You might be letting go of your real love by doing this. Just be careful not to rush in just because you want some of this stuff: the kissing, the hugging, having someone next to you. Your heart will let you know. Listen to it sometimes. Good luck!

  • Mary*
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    1 decade ago

    I don't think it's "bad", but I also don't think it's healthy.

    Give someone else a chance and take it slow if you want, but make sure he's not like the first guy that hurt you. If he reminds you of your first love in personality traits, RUN! You don't want to repeat the same pattern over & over and expect different results. That's the definition of insanity!

    I met my TRUE love after being hurt by my FIRST love and he's the greatest!

    I just let love find me, I didn't go looking but I didn't give up on it either.

    Don't give up on love, it rocks!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    no one can find love if they have too much baggage from previous relationship, because you just block out any chance you encounter to finding real love , and it is out there for everyone.....some people are fortunate to find it first time, for others it takes a bit longer, you must only love again when you feel the time is right for you, because if you go into a relationship on the re-bound you could end up in the same predicament as you are now, give yourself time to heal, and grow from this hurt, and then you can move on feeling new and ready to love again.

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  • 1 decade ago

    No, it's not your fault that your not ready.It takes time to mend a broken heart, and if you ever date after braking up with someone your making that someone a rebound date.Dont ever do this, i dated a guy last year we split and i ended up dating an ex, i never lost what i had for the first guy and it hurt up until we dated again and got those feelings and emotions out of the way.

  • Mrs. M
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    1 decade ago

    You have to give people a chance..Not everyone is going to hurt you .....I know what you mean but if you push everyone away you will never find anyone to love you and spend your life with..You have to learn to trust again

  • 1 decade ago

    Just continue on loving.. don't be cynical about love just because you got hurt before? Give your self a chance to love again and others to love you.

    Source(s): How To Deal With Rejection and Heartaches http://deal-with-rejection.blogspot.com/ Secrets In Love http://2lovebeloved.blogspot.com/ Single? Not Anymore! http://singlenono.blogspot.com/
  • 1 decade ago

    Oh my dear, don't punish yourself just because you've met someone before and it didn't turn out to be good at the end. You definately deserve better man and better love. so bad if you push someone away for that. I don't want you to push me away for that...hehehe

  • stop pushing people away,that y i see alot of people who try getting pushed aside for a guy that is hot to lots of girls but the guy wants is a one night stand

  • 1 decade ago

    no, but then you will miss out on the greatest feel ever. LOVE. it's hard to love and trust again. i know. but loving others is apart of life. R u willing to hold that part of you back.

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