Why does love and dating always have to be so hard and heartbreaking? Does it ever get easy?

I want to know this answer because sadly I am almost ready to give up on love. I just need to know does it get easier or is it always hard and very hurtfull?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Sweetheart, nothing worth having ever comes easy. Keep your chin up and keep trying.

  • 1 decade ago

    Your first question isn't so simple to answer in a short email. If you want to discuss it, then you can email me (in profile).

    The second question: It can become easier, but there's the old adages of "it gets worse before it gets better" and "no pain, no gain" -- don't expect it to get easier overnight. It takes learning, experience, hard-won lessons. There's no book that will do it, no advice anyone can give you that will be a "magic bullet" to end your pains. It takes experience. Just like getting out of school and working in some field or on an internship or apprenticeship. The thing to do is just keep working at it, and you will find a workable solution. The wrong thing to do is quit or do nothing at all.

  • 1 decade ago

    That is why people get married. The roller coaster of going in and out of relationships is brutal. Finding the right one is not easy but after you do things smooth out. If it always ends in a heartbreak, talk it over with a friend or psychologist and try to find the pattern you are repeating so you can make the changes necessary for happiness.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I am going to assume you are in your late 20's, and you are going to find it harder, and so many has said. Then again, once you find the rel thing, well, it will be better than you ever imagined, especially when it is returned back to you. Stop looking for it though, when it is there, it will come full force, and darn near knock you over. Does it get easier....the hurt? No, but you learn to deal with it better, and you learn to put it aside, and go on normally. Then again, wait until you do fall in love totally, and he with you, and he doesn't call you one time......when he said he would, and it is as bad as any hurt you have had, the disappointed, the feeling of rejection. BUT, remember, we are all human, and we all are imperfect.....but we generally all want that love I have described.

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  • Erika
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    4 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    It won't be heartbreaking or hard if you or when you've found the right person. NEVER SETTLE for just anybody because your'e lonely or desperate for a mate. Always look and accept exactly the type of person you WANT with all the expectations that you are looking for.

    Source(s): Common sense.
  • 1 decade ago

    That is part of love and dating. Some people just like to be with themselves. That is why at 51 years old , I am a very happy and not lonely. With lots of good friends.

  • 1 decade ago

    Its always hard if your looking for luv. Stop Looking!! Just have fun in your life. Remember Most of all who ever pass you by is not worth your time anyways, Really! there lost Because they R missing out on getting to known a Really Go0d person. that's You! NOW YOU JUST HAVE TO BELIEVE THAT!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    yes we always get hurt by the ones we love the most. but this is human nature. we learn by the mistakes we make with all the pain of breakups etc..... but we move on deal with it until we find that someone that matches us. but still have to work at the relationship

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  • 1 decade ago

    i hear you chica --- don't give up on yourself. the hardest part is sticking to your standards without building too many walls around your heart. learn from each relationship, figure out what makes you feel happy & secure, and what makes you feel sad & alone --- then focus on exploring the former and avoiding the latter. trust your instincts and don't trust anyone who would take advantage of your feelings. if you can break out of any harmful loops, then you can find relationships that make you happy.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Love is a two way street... And its a very hard work,, to keep the love..

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