ok, why in the hell would you care if he goes to a strip club and watchs the girls/ gets a lap dance, whatever, as long as he comes home to you, "clean"?
Maybe you are not aware, but men are sexually stimulated visually, where women are usually not, at least not as much. Let him have a good time, and look forward to him coming home. It is no different than you going to a male strip show. If you have never been to one, maybe you should go. It will help you break out of your shell a bit.
The more you keep something a mystery, the more need the mystery has.... Get it?
Besides, so your married, does that mean you both are now "blind"? For crying out loud, loosen up.
If, after he goes with the boys a few times, you may find, as many women who frequent male strip reviews find, it get's a little old after awhile, kind of looses it's appeal (mystery solved!)
You know, there is nothing stopping you from going, actually, if you would quit being so paranoid, as a man, your husband would probably find it quite a turn on for you to go. Hell, get a lap dance yourself. NO, it does not mean your a lesbian...
Most of those women are really decent looking and with nice bodies, at least here in Vegas they are. But here, they make thousands of dollars a week and look like models. ( in the better clubs, like Cheetahs, or the Paradise Room)
Your his wife, not his mother, or his conscience, lighten up and enjoy a little something on the wild side. No one needs to know....