I can't keep my daughter from stealing the baby's pacifier?
My three year old daughter keeps taking her 8 month old sister's pacifiers, she'll either suck on them or hide them. My husband and I have tried everything from punishment to gentle explanation on why this is wrong. Help! I need some advice!
I believe that my three year old is too old for pacifiers so we are trying to be consistent on making sure she doesn't have them. I think that's why she hides them. But I just need a solution to help us keep her from wanting them. Did anyone else have this issue?
- PivoineLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
when I wanted to wean my 3 year old off the pacifier, I told her she can have the cutest underware she wanted... so I bought her some, and spent some time just the two of us... She used to do the same thing, steal the pacifier from her younger sister... and I took that as a sign that she feels somewhat less important since the baby came, so I made sure I did big girl stuff with her, and after a while she didn't want it anymore..
Whatever you do, don't panic and don't make a big deal out of it, she will feed on that... :) It may take time though, so make sure you emphasize that she is a big girl now and she gets to do and have all this cool stuff and she doesn't need a pacy anymore... I went to Starbucks with mine and we had coffee together, of course hers was hot chocolate with whipped cream, but still she thought she was drinking coffee, and went to shop for her little sister and she helped me pick out stuff... don't worry she will eventually grow out of it, make sure to tell her over and over and praise her for cooperation... Sometimes we're so bogged down into our mundane things, we forget to have a little fun... They can drain you, the little munchkins sometimes, and I know it well... Good luck!
- MarvinatorLv 71 decade ago
Buy a new set of pacifiers and tell her that they are hers and hers alone. The others are for the baby. This is a good time to start the ownership thing. The baby has things, the 3rd old has her own things. The rule is, no one plays with the other's pacifiers.
Remember, she's looking for attention by doing this. She feels that the baby gets all teh attention. Be sure to give her attention and 'lap time' whenever you can, not just whenshe steals the pacifiers.
- 1 decade ago
Like Marvinator said, get her a set of pacifier, by then she won't take the baby's pacifier. And again she needs attention. She might think u are totally focused on her sister, and will find any means of distracting and getting attention. My advice is when u are with the baby, her dad should be with her, and when the dad is with the baby, u should be with her. Good luck.Source(s): Experience.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Well, if it were me, I would let her keep it and buy another for the baby. If she had her own, the novelty would wear off pretty quickly, I bet. I think that she might be doing this for the attention she is getting from her parents, even though it is negative, it is still attention. If that is the case, maybe you could do some things with her to give her special attention, things that just you and she does or she and her daddy. She probably is experiencing a little healthy sibling rivalry. Good luck!!
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- bluekitty8098Lv 41 decade ago
It is possible that she is just doing it for the attention that it gets her, another option would be to get her her own pacifier so that she will leave baby's alone. Eventually she'll get board with it. Good luck.
- brevejunkieLv 71 decade ago
I have a one year old son and a 28 month old son, and my 28 month old son was just about weaned from it. He was 16 months old when his brother was born, and was asking for it only at night, and even then, some nights he'd forget. Well, we gave our younger son a binky and my older son started stealing it. Now we have a mess on our hands. :(
We have company in town for the weekend, but when they leave Wednesday, we're cutting the boys off...no more binky...end of story. Their pediatrician said just to throw them out, cold turkey. I have a feeling we're going to have a few ugly nights around here...so pray for me!
In your case, your 8 month old is old enough to find other means to comfort her/himself, so you might just want to take her/his pacifer away from him now before you end up like I do with a nearly 2 1/2 year old who still cries for one! :)
- ChrisLv 41 decade ago
Buy her a special sippy cup, tell her that the pacifier is for babies, and sippy cups are for big girls like her. She might need more one on one attention too.
- 1 decade ago
Spank her. She's old enough to figure out what she's doing is wrong. She's just trying to get attention, even if it's negative attention. That's defiant - Mommy and Daddy said, "NO!"...she needs a spanking. Sorry, but it's true.
- 1 decade ago
get her own pacifier