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Anonymous asked in 社會與文化其他:社會與文化 · 2 decades ago

怎麼幫助一個叛逆的小孩子?

我有一個乾弟弟,從認他到現在有兩年多的時間了!

當初,我的好朋友希望我可以好好照顧他的表弟,但我不知道我認的這個乾弟弟就是他的表弟,是後來才知道的,所以我們還算有緣分的啦!

剛開始的那一年,他都還算乖乖的啦!

只是,到了他國二的時候,他真的很叛逆,打架鬧事,這些我都可以接受,甚至願意幫他解決。

直到最近,他翹家也翹班,讓大家都找不到他的人,後來,我得知他在我朋友家住了3天,我才找到他的人。

剛找到他的時候,他堅持他不回家也不回去上班,甚至就這樣奪門而出了,我只好在那裡等,等到他回來之後,我才請他哥哥和媽媽出面來跟他談,他聽了他媽媽的話,也哭了!

他之所以要上班,是因為他媽媽希望他學個一技之長,所以讓他去學美髮,但是翹了三天的班,他被開除了!

我一直覺得,他是一個還有別人幫助他機會的人,只是這幾天下來,我覺得他好像沒救了!他出爾反爾,讓大家對他一再的失望,這樣子的他,我還能幫他什麼嗎?

唯一看的出來的是,他正不停的學壞和叛逆。

Update:

第一,在他每次闖禍,我都會和他談談,我是他的姊姊而不是他的長輩,我和他的相處就像朋友一樣,不可能是以長輩的方式去限制他的。

第二,學美髮,在他開始學的時候,有一半是他自己的意願,只不過他媽媽的希望佔大部分。

第三,不是我們不願意了解他,而是我覺得他只覺得他的世界,只有他那些朋友,而把我們一次又一次的諒解和關懷,當作理所當然。

Update 2:

第四,就算這是他用來學習的方式,但是這是不對的,這不該糾正嗎?就要讓他這樣下去傷害自己嗎?

第五,我並不是用他的行為來判斷他?如果是這樣子,我就不會發問了!

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  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago
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    Treat him like an adult!!!

    Ask him what he wants in life, what's his dream, and what's his plane for life. Then, maybe you can help him. Make sure to let him know that you (all of you) love and care about him. I am sure he knows, but he is just frustrated.

    In fact, his action is his way to letting you know that he is not happy with how he is being treated.

    Correct me if I am wrong, teenager is not a child. So stop treating him as a child. Give him the respect that he deserves. Talk to him as an adult, as he knows what he is doing (even though he may not know what he is doing.) Have some faith in him. Let him decide what he want for life and let him know that you will back up his decision as long as it's not against the law or your believes. But, never just to run his life for him!

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  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    這樣就是壞小還孩?

    為何不好好談談啊?

    就向朋友談談,而不是以一個長輩的態度來談。

    然到他生下來就這樣???

    她或許有煩惱啊?

    你們應該要多多了解他的心,而不是他外在的行為。

    她或許不想學那個啊?他媽媽應該那他選擇他想做的事。

    然不他只是在學壞和判逆,告訴你,他,正在用他的方法去學習,不要光從行為來判斷一個人,你們太不了解他了!!

    Source(s): ME
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  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    如果真ㄉ想幫他..就記得有時候去關心他!!假如他要鬧什麼事情,都不要去管他!!因為要學壞和叛逆,也必須該學會為自己所作ㄉ事收尾和負責!!

    這時候ㄉ小孩子,什麼話都聽不進去!絕ㄉ好像要自己去闖過,才真ㄉ知道大人說ㄉ話是對ㄉ...與其降子,就照他ㄉ話..讓他自己去闖!!

    不過讓他自己去闖以外,也告訴他~家永遠是你最好ㄉ避風港,累了..記得回家了,我們會等你低^^

    Source(s): 自己感受..
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