Can a woman love two men equally in a romantic sense?

and if she can, what would make her choose one over the other?

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  • Flame
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
    Best Answer

    Yes. If you're patient, the choice will become clear.

  • I believe that it is possible for a girl to love two men equally in a romantic sense. And to make her choose one over the other you'd have to just wait it out until she can decide who she wants to be with.

  • Pamela
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    Hi there. You sound just a tad harsh on yourself. Have you communicated this to your boyfriend? What is your reason for believing that he loves her more than you? Because she is a better cook? and thinner? These are not enough reasons to love one person over the other. Possibly, you are feeling jealous because you can sense that your boyfriend is not over his ex girlfriend who dumped him bigtime. This is your boyfriends problem not yours. And maybe just maybe you resent that you dont have an engagement ring on your finger yet ( As you said "I feel like if he was in love, and wanted to spend the rest of his life with someone like her, how can someone like me ever mean as much to him??"). Do you believe in your heart that you have been a loyal and caring girlfriend to him- you havent used him, cheated on him or taken advantage of him in any way? If so, do you believe you deserve a proposal? If the answer to both of these questions is yes and you dont have an engagement ring yet, then maybe its time to be strong, stand up for yourself, pack up and leave in the most gracious way possible. Dont even mention that you want a wedding ring on your finger. Most men know when a woman deserves a proposal, also they know they can postpone it. There is this book written by Sherry Argov that has interesting insights and advice on men entitled "Why do men marry b!tches?". It worth every cent. I think it especially suits your mans profile considering his history of getting engaged to a b!*ch. What men fall for in women is independence, mystique/ intrigue, fitness, femininity, not being needy or nagging, generosity, and often kindness. Its not always about cooking or being thin. You are just as worthy as she is... Best of luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    You will get girls say that you can,but they are the ones that don't love,they desire,because it is not possible to give your heart up to someone and then let another in.It would destroy you mentally and spiritually.

    What she will do is like too guys a lot and sooner or later she will choose one,what one depends on her personality and the personality of the two,will she take the risky one or the stable one,and it is always this way.

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  • It could happen. But, it seems like eventually you would realize one is better for you than the other. Or maybe you like qualities in one and qualities in the other, but what if you found an entirely different person that had both the qualities that these people have? Maybe you love them both but neither one is right for you. It would be tough to go through that though. I hope everything works out.

  • 1 decade ago

    It is possible. It could be for different reasons but it is possible to love two men at the same time

  • 1 decade ago

    It is possible.PPl like different things in different ppl.Some things are more important than others, and those things vary from person to person.It depends on what qualities are more important to her.Never be offended if you are not the chosen one.You will find someone looking for the qualities you have.

  • 1 decade ago

    there really is no way to judge equality when it comes to love. she most likely would love each man for differnet reasons making it impossible to put a limit or standard on it. so equally??? probably not.

  • Watch Pearl Harbor and the Brothers Grimm.

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes. It depends on what she values the most now, wouldn't it? Some will choose the one with the better prospect, eg., money, career wise etc. Others will go for simpler stuff like who makes her laugh, etc.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If equally is she does not love them much

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