1) Sometimes it is hard, but when you get the letters and cards, and pictures of the dog happy in its new home, and see the loving faces of its new family, it's all worth it. I try to keep foremost in my mind that if you keep them, there's one less you can foster and help out in the future.
2) Yup. It's part of my contract that I be updated once a year, and I usually tell adopters that a card for Christmas is good. Most are much closer.
3) Keeping a foster dog is irreverently referred to as being a "foster failure". It's not meant to be mean or insulting. I have only been a 'failure' once. And it was just a couple of months ago. Not bad when you consider I've been doing rescue for aobut 20 years. A dog that was supposed to be "some kind of collie mix" showed up at my door. He was filthy, and matted, and only had one eye. He was also a golden retriever/alaskan malamute mix! Much bigger than I was led to believe. Once I shaved him down, treated his infected skin, and watched his previous owner walk away without so much as a glance back, (sorry, wrong order) and after I had rinsed aobut a half inch of mud and filth off the bottom of the floor, I fell totally in love with him, and so did my hubby. My hubby doesn't ask for much, but he asked to keep this dog. Who am I to say no? Ok, yeah, he had to twist my arm... ;-) And if you are wondering, he was dumped at 9 years old because her boyfriend's American bulldogs picked on him, and he drank too much water. (?!?!?)
4) Depends on the needs of the dog. Some are puppymill dogs that need lots of socialization. Some are great dogs whose family has hit a rough spot, like a death or having to go to a nursing home, and they are quick to be adopted because they don't have many issues.
5) Children are never endangered in a good rescue's foster program. I've had my sons grow up with rescues. Many good potential homes have kids, so it is good for a suitable dog to live with them in foster care. If the dog is not child safe, the rescue will find it a child-free foster home.
Hope this helps. E-mail me if you need moral support.
Rescuer, vet tech, professional groomer, and show exhibitor of Shetland Sheepdogs for 20 years.
· 1 decade ago