James, you are in a conflict and again I must quote Albert Einstein: "One can't solve a problem out of the same mindset that has caused it!" What means that you can't find back your balance by using your mind to find an explication for what disturbs you. The identification with their mindset keeps people in the limited level of consciousness and that makes it that they are that arrogant and stupid, with the result of causing destruction and suffering. You are in the conflict of still holding on this mindset, but your individual growing urges you to go beyond. So you question yourself and the situations and conditions around. But as these questions are coming out of your mindset and when answered are limited to it, so this can't really help you. That's what is Einsteins saying is about.
To find the answer and the balance, you have to realize this within yourself, - beyond the mindset.
How to do this? For sure not by making a split hating humanity because of their stupidity and also not by joining into the materialistic games.
Understand and accept that humanity is still in a quite primitive state of evolution. At this step humans are stuck in their identification with their mind and emotions. They are getting their feeling of existence out of this. So they are acting and reacting, because they are programmed with goals and values as part of the common mindset of the present society. This of course includes limitation and manipulation and has made a 'big game' out of life, where a few clever people are pushing some buttons and so using all others for their own benefit, - even making people believe that they are 'philanthropic', probably they are believing this themselves'! Because they are caught in the same mindset! Does this make clear, that the most essential and significant is, that you go beyond yourself and that is the identification with your properties: Body, mind and emotions.
To do this your daily life is all what you need. Why is every thing as you encounter it? Because it is what it is, just that you see every thing out of your personal background from which you are interpreting it and also comparing with how you would like it to be and so accepting or rejecting it or trying to manipulate it so that it fits into your expectation. Right? Observe your pain and suffering! Now you know where it comes from and you might also be able to recognize the background and when it happened that you received this program. Seeing this, you might be able to let go of it...
So freeing yourself from dependency...
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Just let me tell you what has happened: I wanted to write this answer, even though I have plenty of urgent other things to do, - so I started. People came and needed to talk with me. I continued writing. The van hit one of our cats and she was seriously hurt, I had to deal with this... I continued writing. An other interruption. I continued and nearly finished. The fire fox crashed! And so what I wrote for two hours, disappeared. All lost! I really hate computers and all what has to do with it!!! This is the most stupid thing on earth!!! Like this I could have reacted! But actually it was my fault, knowing about the possibility that this could happen, as it has happened before, so I should have saved what I was writing. But I was so much sucked in my doing, that I haven't done it, so I am not wasting my energy giving the fault to the outside and instead looking for a solution. OK, I made a 'restore' to an earlier time and after some hassle: Tahtah! It was back! You see? If I would have gotten lost in my reaction, then indeed it would have been lost and even willing to write it again (what I hate!) like now that is much better...
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OK, now you might see, that no talking can bring you out of your confusion. You need to trust your own inner *growing force* and accept every thing that shows up in your life as what it is: part of your reality and see it as a challenge. Relating and responding with this attitude, will give you the opportunity to clear up yourself and find new spaces within yourself. I suggest, that you start with meditation if you are not already doing it. This will give you the basic to go forward and beyond your mindset. (See links!)