hi yes you will catch it eventually. It may take a while, i read anywhere between 4 months or so. Me and my bf have been together for 1.5 years and he hasnt got it yet but i know he eventually will be my ex caught it too after a while. The only way you wont catch it is if your bf takes medications everyday and lets you know when he is going to get a prodome. I can usually tell when something is going to happen b/c i will get itchy or swollen or tingling. Ive also gotten a rash just from constant friction down there when i ride my bike for hours. I have to take meds when i think im going to break out and i usually refrain from intercourse until i know im safe again. But you cant tell when you are shedding the virus!! You will catch it though condom or not depending where his lesions are located. If he has the lesions on the base of his penis or near the scrotal area, you will get it b/c a condom cant cover this part up. you catch herpes skin to skin contact.
Now as far as having a baby, man o man!! I have gotten so much research on neonatal herpes b/c im due any day now to have my baby. Luckily, ive had herpes for 5 years so my chances of giving it to the baby are very low 2/10,000 but ifyou catch herpes while you are pregnant you have a 60% chance of giving it to your baby and neonatal herpes is very dangerous. Causes blindness, neurological damage, organ failure, and sometimes death. Please do alot of research first before getting pregnant. Yes your boyfriend can get you pregnant. There is nothing wrong with his sperm but if you catch the virus while pregnant it wont be nice and you will have to get a c-section and that still doesnt guarantee a healthy baby. Im worried still even though my chances are low b/c ive develop maternal antibodies and my baby is protected but there is still that risk.
I advise you to read about neonatal herpes before you decideto have kids so that you know what you are up against. You also know that you have to refrain from intercourse in teh last trimester so that the baby doesnt catch it if it already hasnt. This is also a must! You will also have to take meds while pregant in the last 4 weeks of your pregnancy.
I think having a relationship wiht your bf is a wonderful thing and you shouldnt judge him by this. I have it and am lucky t be with a man who understands and we have had a good sex life. Honesty is key here. I will be honest and say that its not that bad after the first breakout. The first time is the worst. It hurts so bad and i could barely walk!! But afterwards its just an annoynace but goes away quicly with meds and it isnt that bad. The only thing is that when you start dating new people, you will be stigmatized or people may get turned off. It sucks. Some celebrities that have herpes are: Angelina Jolie (she had all csections), Posh spice and her husband (she also had csections), tony benett, liza minelli, jessica alba, dennis rodman, pamela anderson, brittany spears, paris hilton, and a few other stars.