Is it ok for my boyfriend to spy on me?
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GF posted a question w/o stating all facts. Reposting question with the truth on it.
We live together, and we have 2 computers...one is mine and the other is his. He put something ...show more
Update : (Such as the latest when her best friend, who happens to be male and she ...show more
Update 2: Sigh. To the people who think I didnt talk to her about it, I DID. I was ...show more
Update 3: Wow, I'm amazed by these answers. No, we will not move on, and she is ...show more
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If she is such a child and so obviously not into you and your relationship why don't you dump her instead of spying on her? It doesn't matter what the reasons for installing the spyware are, it's still her puter and you should have just confronted her about it. If she was lying and you knew it then you should have just booted her a$$ out.
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if you don't put the whole story then surely people can only act on the information given. the structure of the letter you wrote firstly is as suspicious as the keylogging. there is still massive trust issues in your relationship which goes beyond the norm. after that little trust being placed on each other what hope can there be for a relationship ? i can see how blaming other peoples responses may help but to me i stand by my first answer. i understand she may have lied to you and that it is obviously wrong. and i can understand your behaviour to some point. but the original issues are still present and i and stand by them.
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well if u have 2 do things like that in the 1st place do u think that this relationship could ever get the honesty it deserves? has she ever done something that was unacceptable? what if u get 2 know her friends as well n that way u wont feel so pressured or insecure...also prying into her stuff just shows that there is a bond lacking in this relationship that may be unfixable if it continues on this path!
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man if you not trust worthy then you shoudl rethink this relationship thing. no it's not okay to spy, if you have no trust then you have nothing. If the girl is not coming clean with you though then you do have reason to be suspicious. I have male friends and don't hide nothing from my man, cause for the simple fact that i don't have anything to hide. simple as that.
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You were wrong.
Instead of talking with her you chose to entrap her. Why did you not try to work on the relationship or just let her go. I think you are a controlling distrusting and all around bad person. I don't have anything to say in her defense either. -
I don't give a rip what this boyfriends reason are for spying, it is WRONG. If there are issues(and there are) in this relationship, spying is NOT the way to deal with these. Try counseling.
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Sounds like to me you 2 have issues you need to address to each other and not in here.
I don't think what she is doing is right but I also don't think you have the right to invade her privacy. I wonder if she will ever see this??? -
Gee found this through spying too, didn't we??
Okay...so looks like the guy has some good reason's for spying...
So..I'd just dump her..get a trust worthy girlfriend...that you don't have to spy on... -
Ok, assuming you (boyfriend) are telling no lies. I think that you have every right to wonder who she talks to online. Obviously she is giving you a reason not to trust her.
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Make you right mate, caught my wife on several occasions doing this, mind you, the guilt she had afterwards kept me in BJ's for a year... lol
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You two should be on Dr. Phil. This relationship will never have any longetivity to it. Move on both of you.
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if you cant trust her let her go you are not good for each other there is no way there can be a relationship if you cant trust each other
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wow um gosh why must you people get into this kind of problems????
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well.........if you think shes cheating on you,then..maybe...but you should probably put a little trust in her if you love her
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Is it ok for my boyfriend to spy on me?
GF posted a question w/o stating all facts. Reposting question with the truth on it.
We live together, and we have 2 computers...one is mine and the other is his. He put something called a keylog on my computer and can read all my email, all my chat conversations, even get into my yahoo accounts. changing my password would do no good, because he could use the keylog to figure out what my new password is. Is this illegal? Is this moral?
*** This is the Truth she kinda forgot: (Was posted as an answer to her question so sorry about formatting) ***
To all who have answered this question, let me clarify and give the Truth to the matter (I'm the boyfriend in question.) I installed the keylogger on her computer after finding a series of emails between her and another guy on the internet detailing a very steamy encounter that they were planning. I needed to know the truth since she was lying to me. I have only used it at times when her behavior and/or actions have caused me concern.
We live together, and we have 2 computers...one is mine and the other is his. He put something called a keylog on my computer and can read all my email, all my chat conversations, even get into my yahoo accounts. changing my password would do no good, because he could use the keylog to figure out what my new password is. Is this illegal? Is this moral?
*** This is the Truth she kinda forgot: (Was posted as an answer to her question so sorry about formatting) ***
To all who have answered this question, let me clarify and give the Truth to the matter (I'm the boyfriend in question.) I installed the keylogger on her computer after finding a series of emails between her and another guy on the internet detailing a very steamy encounter that they were planning. I needed to know the truth since she was lying to me. I have only used it at times when her behavior and/or actions have caused me concern.
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