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I caught my son having sex with a guy and I think he might be gay. Is there a definitive way I can tell?

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This could be a phase. Is there a way I could find out if he's gay? He's only 19.
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Yup. Ask him. He's 19, he ought to know.

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  • Witness answered 4 years ago
    at 19, it's probably not a phase. if he's having sex with guys there is a huge change he is gay. just ask him, say that you will love him anyway and that you want him to be happy. also, he's probably pretty embarrassed that he was caught having sex, so be nice.
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  • Donnie answered 4 years ago
    Daniel..if ur son is gay...it's non of ur business...would it different if u caught him having sex with a girl??? dang dude...he's 19 not 12 and he knows what he is...i knew i was gay when i was like 9. Ur son is G A Y....love him no matter what...love is unconditional. But u probably knew that.
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  • Mode 1 answered 4 years ago
    I would say he is no less than Bi, if not absolutely gay. I think you already have your answer. If this question is for real, a parent unless blind, deaf, and dumb knows well in advance of their child knowing. A Mother always knows but then again you could be one of those absent parents that never pays attention to their child.

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  • Robert answered 4 years ago
    The only way you will find out is by asking him. That is assuming he wants to tell you and if he knows himself. He might be experimenting, be bisexual or gay. At the end of the day, you either accept it and show your support, or you don't. YOUR choice. AND possibly, YOUR loss.
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  • Jean Baptiste Langoratti answered 4 years ago
    typically when a man is having sex with another man it is probably safe to say that man is gay. But who knows maybe he was just doing it for attention or even better because he wanted to get back at his parents.

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  • sam0072 answered 4 years ago
    phases are at 16 hes either gay or bi, just ask, it'll make you closer if anything. if he knows you caught him having sex then he must be freaked out so act quick
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  • Melody♫♪ answered 4 years ago
    19 and having sex with a guy . Might be is not the word my friend . Is is the word .
    You got your answer when you saw what he was doing . Unless your blind as a bat and need glasses .
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  • ◄SNIPE► answered 4 years ago
    If he was having sex with a guy then i think that pretty much answers your question. Just sit him down and subtlety ask him if he is gay, and keep an open mind.
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  • koolaid1231 answered 4 years ago
    yes, go check his room while hes not home and snoop through his things if you find anything gay then that will fuel your efforts, after you do that look at his computer history and see what sites hes looking at...thennnn while he is asleep snoop though his text messages in his phone to see if hes messaging any guys.... these ways usually always work but it would be better just to ask and tell him straight up what you saw and that you know.
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  • Logan answered 4 years ago
    By 19 he should know his orientation. he IS gay or bi. I knew I was gay. At 15
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  • I caught my son having sex with a guy and I think he might be gay. Is there a definitive way I can tell?
    This could be a phase. Is there a way I could find out if he's gay? He's only 19.
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  • Whosss Mothere answered 4 years ago
    Have you ever seen him with a girl before?
    If the answer is no then more than likeys he gay, only sure way to know is to ask him
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  • loralaey answered 4 years ago
    Hmmmm! 19, and having sex with another guy? Yes, he is gay.
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  • Clint answered 4 years ago
    LMAO

    A phase at19? This is definitely trolling. Quite funny, too.

    Thanks for the two points.
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  • mechanicarts answered 4 years ago
    Why doesn't everyone realize this is a troll :P
    This question has been featured in failblog.com maybe this person seeks the same attention.

    Whatsoever, your son likes the wiener.
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  • Chris answered 4 years ago
    I think if he has sex with a guy at the very least he's at least bi-curious and probably knows his sexuality by now, but I don't think you should confront him about it, just wait until he's older.
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  • dusty sиypez ™ answered 4 years ago
    If he tells you he's gay, then he's gay, that's the only way you'll know..

    And he's probably just confused, and testing it out to see if he likes it or not.. or just bisexual.
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  • Maddie answered 4 years ago
    HAving sex with a guy is generally a strong indication.... wait for him to tell you on his own :)
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  • Daddys girl # 2 answered 4 years ago
    the definite way of knowing would probably be him having sex with a dude!!
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  • Jenny answered 4 years ago
    Why don't you just ask him. And if he is gay, there's nothing wrong with that and you should support him.
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  • Tundra Boy answered 4 years ago
    maybe he is just testing it out? i heard people go to gay, and back, bi, and all over the place and come back to being what they originally were before.
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  • 痴呆エニグマ answered 4 years ago
    He's either Gay or Bi.

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  • Ren answered 4 years ago
    LOL he's gay!
    If it walks like a duck.....
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  • Alejandra answered 4 years ago
    if walks like a duck, & it quacks like a duck, IT'S A DUCK.
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  • holamide answered 4 years ago
    really? you need more proof?
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