Mother and a Nanny??!! I would assume that one needs to be well off, to hire on a full-time Nanny.
A Nanny is nothing other than a babysitter...sitting in for the mother, when the mother is not available, for whatever reason.
Mothering for me, firstly,..was being pregnant, taking care of myself while I was pg and giving birth to my own children. Mothering is a 24/7 job...anyone can read a bedtime story, anyone can give a child a hug and sit on that person's knee, all children have to be bathed and mealtime as a 'bonding experience'...you have got to be kidding me?? Mothering is much more than that, it includes the bad times as well as the good times. Mothering isn't just stories being told, or eating one meal together. (I can go to McDonalds and eat with a lot of people once a day...doesn't mean it's a 'bonding experience'). Mothering also incorporates discipline, lessons in self-respect, teaching children to do things..like picking up after themselves, tying one's own shoes, proper table manners, learning how to cook simple dishes, how to speak respectfully to other people, lessons in being responsible for one's actions, helping with homework (but not doing it for them), lessons in compassion set by example. As they get older and just possibly screw up big time....you still love them even though you are so angry with their actions, when they are terribly sick or have need of surgeries...mom is there, even if she has to miss work. Mothering is a ton of ACTIONS...with geniune doses of much actionable love and caring...words are not enough...but LOVE can move mountains (and people) and it has. I had babysitters that read stories, changed my one son's diapers, fed my children the meals I cooked, put them to bed...but at the end of the day...my children knew 'Charlotte' as their favorite babysitter....never as their mother....even on my worse days of 'mothering'! Mothering is a full-time job and at times can bring us to tears.
Me...a Mother who birthed and raised 3 more children...yes indeed I am a Mother...even if not one person in the world will recognize me as a 'Mother' to my firstborn newborn lost to adoption. And I am my eldest child's 'mother', but never to the degree I was to the children I raised....sadly.