• My new boyfriend won't let me talk to my family?

    So my new boyfriend stopped letting me talk to any of my family or friends. He took my iPhone away from me and even changed the password on his phone to keep me from using it. When I asked him for my phone back he told me that he sold it. He says that he's just doing it to protect me. He's much older than... show more
    So my new boyfriend stopped letting me talk to any of my family or friends. He took my iPhone away from me and even changed the password on his phone to keep me from using it. When I asked him for my phone back he told me that he sold it. He says that he's just doing it to protect me. He's much older than I am and more experienced in relationships so I want to trust him, but I really miss my mom and my sisters. I was going to sneak out to visit them two days ago but he locked me in the bathroom and braced a chair up against the door so I couldn't leave. I haven't even been to school in like two weeks. I borrowed the neighbor's phone and called my mom to pick me up but I'm really worried about what he's going to do when I eventually go back home to him. Is this normal behavior in a new relationship?
    46 answers · 3 days ago
  • Is it right to be mad about this?

    So I drive a car that my stepdad bought a year ago for himself. He doesn’t really use it because he works and he has his own truck for his job . So my point is the only reason I’m allowed to use it is because I drive to where I work and my mom convinced him to let me use it . I only use it for a couple minutes a... show more
    So I drive a car that my stepdad bought a year ago for himself. He doesn’t really use it because he works and he has his own truck for his job . So my point is the only reason I’m allowed to use it is because I drive to where I work and my mom convinced him to let me use it . I only use it for a couple minutes a day and when he uses it he takes it for more than a hour . So he’s basically using up all the gas . I’m just saying, yeah sure he pays for the car insurance. The car is pretty old cause it’s from 1998 . So he paid it off. I get mad cause when I use it and use up all or half the gas I refill it and he doesn’t seem to care about wasting the gas he leaves it to almost empty. But I mean he is using his car so why have to be mad about refueling your own car . I use it to get to where I need to be and I still will refuel it to use it again. I’m just mad cause he thinks that because I work or earn money, I may have all the money in the world. I don’t know wheather I should confront him or just let it be .
    19 answers · 24 hours ago
  • My brother saw me naked plz help?

    so i was getting in the shower and my brother saw me naked i think . is it weird
    so i was getting in the shower and my brother saw me naked i think . is it weird
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • I'm black and raised by whites?

    I was adopted when I was 2 years old. I've been with my foster parents for 12 years now. I've attended schools with rarely any blacks. I don't know anything about the african American history. I love my parents but they are very strict and religious. I wanted to attend a rap concert but my parents told... show more
    I was adopted when I was 2 years old. I've been with my foster parents for 12 years now. I've attended schools with rarely any blacks. I don't know anything about the african American history. I love my parents but they are very strict and religious. I wanted to attend a rap concert but my parents told me no. They allowed me to attend Justin Bieber and Lady Gaga concert with out even hesitating. How do I ask my parents to allow me to be around blacks more, learn black culture and to trust me more?
    88 answers · 5 days ago
  • Why do I keep thinking about my dead brother?

    He died in 1998, and I haven't really thought about him much the past few years but for some reason lately I just miss him more than I have since the initial loss so many years ago. I used to torment and tease him all the time (he was ten years older than I), but we had some really great times and he knew I was... show more
    He died in 1998, and I haven't really thought about him much the past few years but for some reason lately I just miss him more than I have since the initial loss so many years ago. I used to torment and tease him all the time (he was ten years older than I), but we had some really great times and he knew I was just being a brat when I would bug him. I don't expect answers I just miss my big brother and want him back.
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • Am I a bad son?

    Like every teenager I just like to be left alone and I over heard my parents saying I’m never talking to them What do they expect. Mostly every teenager is anti social I am always watching a series or a movie am I doing something wrong?
    Like every teenager I just like to be left alone and I over heard my parents saying I’m never talking to them What do they expect. Mostly every teenager is anti social I am always watching a series or a movie am I doing something wrong?
    70 answers · 5 days ago
  • Is it possible to truly hate your sibling?

    I wouldn t say that my brother and I have ever had the best relationship but recently it has gotten a whole lot worse. I am 16 and he is 13 and honestly right now I feel scared to be the house. He is constantly verbally awful to me but today he physically attacked me and my parents were right there. He was... show more
    I wouldn t say that my brother and I have ever had the best relationship but recently it has gotten a whole lot worse. I am 16 and he is 13 and honestly right now I feel scared to be the house. He is constantly verbally awful to me but today he physically attacked me and my parents were right there. He was kicking me and screaming at me and I was crying and when my parents broke us apart my mum just said "go have a shower" and my dad just stormed off to the study room. Its not fair he always gets away with this stuff. I have been sitting in my room crying for the last half hour and no one has come and he will for gods sake get way with this and I will get the blame as apparently I was provoking him. I just feel so alone right now. I love my mum and dad and 2 sisters but I just have no love for my brother at all. Is anyone else in this situation or has been? Does it get better? My brother has my parents thinking that he is a nice person by honestly after today I don t think I ever want to see him again/ vice versa. But if he were to die I reckon I would feel sad but I reckon he wouldn t care if I died.
    23 answers · 3 days ago
  • Kid won’t clean pet rabbits?

    Got my daughter a bunny after she begged and pleaded, she promised she would keep it clean but she ends up leaving it filthy for long periods of time, an awful smell and I eventually end up cleaning it in the end. I’m afraid to get rid of the rabbit, my daughters one to hold a grudge and I’d have to listen to a... show more
    Got my daughter a bunny after she begged and pleaded, she promised she would keep it clean but she ends up leaving it filthy for long periods of time, an awful smell and I eventually end up cleaning it in the end. I’m afraid to get rid of the rabbit, my daughters one to hold a grudge and I’d have to listen to a month full of unbearable screeching and tantrums
    55 answers · 5 days ago
  • Is My Mom Wrong?

    I have never touched my mom's paint in my life now, when she needs it the most she asks me for it because she thinks i took it. I DIDN'T TAKE HER PAINT. She took my phone because i cant find her paint and said i didnt take it! HELP
    I have never touched my mom's paint in my life now, when she needs it the most she asks me for it because she thinks i took it. I DIDN'T TAKE HER PAINT. She took my phone because i cant find her paint and said i didnt take it! HELP
    6 answers · 2 days ago
  • Convincing husband to use condoms?

    Best answer: "Your turn." I actually got on a form of birth control that has a far lower dose of hormones: the Mirena IUD. But when I said I'd rather not use any hormonal birth control between having kids, it wasn't an issue. We just got condoms and used them until we were ready to try for a second child. No... show more
    Best answer: "Your turn."

    I actually got on a form of birth control that has a far lower dose of hormones: the Mirena IUD. But when I said I'd rather not use any hormonal birth control between having kids, it wasn't an issue. We just got condoms and used them until we were ready to try for a second child. No convincing necessary.

    Did he need to convince you to use birth control in the first place? Any good guy would understand that putting on a condom for sex is a lot less invasive than you having to deal with the side effects of the pill ALL the time.

    Once you tell him you just don't want to have to deal with these side effects any more, it should be a no-brainer for him to respond, "Then we'll just have to get condoms instead."
    14 answers · 1 day ago
  • Am I a bad daughter?

    When I get in a fight with my mom it always results to her saying "What you say hurts" "Do you know how much you hurt me?" and she makes me feel guilty and says those things if I say something she doesn't like.. When we're in fights if I don't sit down or stand whichever she says she... show more
    When I get in a fight with my mom it always results to her saying "What you say hurts" "Do you know how much you hurt me?" and she makes me feel guilty and says those things if I say something she doesn't like.. When we're in fights if I don't sit down or stand whichever she says she yells at me and once when I accidentally hurt my brother it was eating me alive and on the way to school she told me "Do you know how much your brother cried last night because of you? He was up till 4 in the morning crying because of you? You're a cold person." It seems like I'm turning out to be my father I think in her eyes.. If I try to apologize to her she says "You're only apologizing because you want to shut me up isn't it?" and if I say no I'm not she says "yes you are." I'm usually afraid to say something cause I want her to be happy and I'm afraid if I say something wrong I'll ruin her day.. These fights happen a lot if I say something she doesn't like but it's not disrespectful either I love my mom very much but sometimes it seems like she doesn't love me..
    5 answers · 2 days ago
  • I have toxic parents?

    I have toxic parents. My dad drinks almost every night. My mom and I often end up fighting because she is extremely critical and puts me down a lot (has called me fat, a moron, etc.) and my patience is short after a long day of studying (i am in med school and stay on campus until as late as I can so I don't... show more
    I have toxic parents. My dad drinks almost every night. My mom and I often end up fighting because she is extremely critical and puts me down a lot (has called me fat, a moron, etc.) and my patience is short after a long day of studying (i am in med school and stay on campus until as late as I can so I don't have to go home- i don't feel comfortable there) it becomes a yelling match with harsh words (things never get physical). My dad (who's drunk remember) gets mad at my mom because she's being mean. My parents start fighting and then my mom blames me for my parents fighting ( you don't know when to keep my mouth shut, look what you did now- is a typical response). I have to live at home because my parents are paying for my schooling and i am grateful for their financial support, i don't get much else from them. at 23 my mom still says "let me look at you" before i leave the house almost everyday "because she wants to hug me goodbye" but always ends up looking me up and down and often with a comment (don't wear that headband, put your hair up/down, whats wrong with your makeup, you name it). she is most critical of my appearance and also my schooling. she makes me feel guilty that my parents sacrifice a lot to pay for my school and i am ungrateful, not getting good enough grades (I am passing all my classes), make me feel bad if I'm ever not studying, etc. I still have to ask permission if i want to go out even though I'm an adult. i know this is a lot thank you for reading
    15 answers · 4 days ago
  • I’m beginning to dislike my parents?

    so nothing bad has happened between my parents and i, but i think i’m starting to dislike them. every time their cars pull up in the driveway after they’ve been to work, instantly kills my mood. i start to find my mom and dad very annoying. they’re nothing special, don’t really have special traits to them. i barely... show more
    so nothing bad has happened between my parents and i, but i think i’m starting to dislike them. every time their cars pull up in the driveway after they’ve been to work, instantly kills my mood. i start to find my mom and dad very annoying. they’re nothing special, don’t really have special traits to them. i barely see them as they work all day. but most of the time i stay at my grandmas. but when i do stay at my own home, i go to my room to read and they go out onto the porch for hours at a time to have a smoke. what do i do? i know they’re my parents, i love them and i know they haven’t done anything wrong, i just can’t help feeling like i don’t like them very much. is there something wrong with me?
    10 answers · 20 hours ago
  • How should i tell my parents i don't want another sibling?

    the reason i don't want another sibling is not because of attention or jealousy but because i already have a younger sibling who's five years apart from me and he's 11 who constantly torments me by stealing and/or breaking my things, insulting and cussing at me, and take his anger out on me when... show more
    the reason i don't want another sibling is not because of attention or jealousy but because i already have a younger sibling who's five years apart from me and he's 11 who constantly torments me by stealing and/or breaking my things, insulting and cussing at me, and take his anger out on me when something happens to him. I don't want another sibling because that sibling is gonna irritate me as well.
    21 answers · 4 days ago
  • How do I get my parents to stop talking bad about me?

    seriously, they constantly talk about me. when im upstairs in my room doing homework, i can hear them talk and fight about me. my bedroom is right next to theirs, and i can hear them talk about me and compare me to others. if i ask them if they talk about me, they say "we werent talking about you, we were... show more
    seriously, they constantly talk about me. when im upstairs in my room doing homework, i can hear them talk and fight about me. my bedroom is right next to theirs, and i can hear them talk about me and compare me to others. if i ask them if they talk about me, they say "we werent talking about you, we were just trying to improve your weaknesses" should i talk bad about my parents behind their backs, or should i sue them?
    9 answers · 19 hours ago
  • What would you do if you were watching your favorite show, and your 20 year old kid turned off the TV so that you couldn't watch it?

    I pay all the bills at the house. I normally watch AHS once a week with my kid. This week, she told me to go watch it in my own room. I told her my TV wasn't working and we would just have to watch it in her room. She turned off the TV so that I couldn't watch it. Then, she pompously pulled out her... show more
    I pay all the bills at the house. I normally watch AHS once a week with my kid. This week, she told me to go watch it in my own room. I told her my TV wasn't working and we would just have to watch it in her room. She turned off the TV so that I couldn't watch it. Then, she pompously pulled out her iPhone and proceeded to watch it on her iPhone. What would you do if this happened to you?
    16 answers · 3 days ago
  • My fiancee's dad wants him to do something that will make our lives more difficult and costly right before we get married?

    Long story. When my now fiancee was a teenager, an unexpected pregnancy came about the night he lost his virginity. When the baby was born, he was still a kid himself. That same year his mother had suddenly died and that caused his dad to run away to the north where he started a new life immediately. Yeah, ... show more
    Long story. When my now fiancee was a teenager, an unexpected pregnancy came about the night he lost his virginity. When the baby was born, he was still a kid himself. That same year his mother had suddenly died and that caused his dad to run away to the north where he started a new life immediately. Yeah, he abandoned his teenage son. After she had the baby her entire family lost their minds and pressured him to stay around or they'd sue. Please believe me when I say neither I or him have dramatic lives and deal with heart breaking decisions every other day. That was just an unfortunate set circumstances that happened to a regular teenage boy. Mistakes were made, but he learned. When he was 19 he got away from her and that family. He wanted nothing to do with any of them, not even the kid. Had he been older when all of this happened, he may have had more of an obligation. Because he was so young and his Ex-girlfrirnds parents took legal custody of the kid at the time, he managed to escape. Modern day: we're in our mid-20's and two weeks away from getting married. Suddenly, his dad wants him go see his ex and the kid. He hasn't spoken to those people in years, and he's expected to just get up and do this for... Whatever reason? When he said no, his dad actually replied with: If I were you, I would do it. I didn't abandon you. Except he DID. Something about all of this feels off. Advice, please?
    9 answers · 24 hours ago
  • GROUNDED FOR AGES PLEASE HELP?

    Best answer: Guess you will be discovering a new life, then. Just last-night I watched "This is Life with Lisa Ling" and the topic was how too much technology makes us mentally unwell and screws up our happiness and ability to function well in life. So it looks like your parents have just saved your life. Read. Learn... show more
    Best answer: Guess you will be discovering a new life, then.
    Just last-night I watched "This is Life with Lisa Ling" and the topic was how too much technology makes us mentally unwell and screws up our happiness and ability to function well in life.

    So it looks like your parents have just saved your life.
    Read.
    Learn something.
    Exercise.
    Volunteer at the local soup kitchen for the homeless.
    Get some therapy.

    Depression is self-caused. What you are telling yourself is what is making you depressed. You cannot change your punishment, but you CAN change what you tell yourself. Unless you LIKE being depressed ... change what you are telling yourself.
    Break free from your media addiction, and see this as an adventure to learn new ways of being.
    8 answers · 16 hours ago