• Have you ever stumbled unto other people's secrets and wish you hadn't?

    I learnt that my cousin has been raped when I stayed at his place and he was away. He put a map of his forensic medical exam in the bottom of a box where he also put his old books and papers, which I happened to open (just to kill time). I didn't know what it was when I opened it, as I thought it was his old... show more
    I learnt that my cousin has been raped when I stayed at his place and he was away. He put a map of his forensic medical exam in the bottom of a box where he also put his old books and papers, which I happened to open (just to kill time). I didn't know what it was when I opened it, as I thought it was his old term papers and I wanted to see what he wrote. I only skim the first page and put everything back in. I'm back home now and don't know what I should do, or think. We're like brother and sister, but I couldn't bring myself to tell him what I've learnt. Perhaps he'd be angry, although I didn't mean to snoop and we were in the habit of borrowing things from the other's room when we were still living in the same building. I know he was suddenly very withdrawn early last year, and my aunt said at that time that he was having troubles with his studies, and that it would clear up. I don't even think my aunt (his mom) knew, because no mother could have said that casually (as she did), had she known the real story. I don't know if he has told the police (I don't think so, or we should've heard, right?), or gone to a shrink. He's still with his girlfriend, though, who lives near us. He stayed at her place last Christmas, but I don't think she knows either. I remember telling him during Christmas dinner at my place that he always looked sadder now, and she said (without malice) that it's called becoming an adult. What should be done in my position? I feel sad now knowing this.
    16 answers · 2 days ago
  • My mom said the best help I can give her is to go die?

    How can a mom say this? Is that even normal??! I know my mom is going through something really difficult right now, but is that an excuse to say that? Then I said I will not go pick up the delivery and she can go pick it up herself because of talking to me this way. She said she does not care and will go herself... show more
    How can a mom say this? Is that even normal??! I know my mom is going through something really difficult right now, but is that an excuse to say that? Then I said I will not go pick up the delivery and she can go pick it up herself because of talking to me this way. She said she does not care and will go herself and that she does not feel guilty for what to say and does not have a need to apologize.
    4 answers · 15 hours ago
  • I hate my mom?

    Recently I quit/took a break from my sport because it really wasn't something that I enjoyed doing anymore. I've done it for about 7 years and have achieved lots in it. I was on the top. It caused so much pressure constantly and anxiety for me. Our practice schedule was so intense, and I had little time for... show more
    Recently I quit/took a break from my sport because it really wasn't something that I enjoyed doing anymore. I've done it for about 7 years and have achieved lots in it. I was on the top. It caused so much pressure constantly and anxiety for me. Our practice schedule was so intense, and I had little time for anything, our coach lacked interest in the team and was not supportive in anything we did. I wasn't motivated in it anymore and I'm worried that my other teammates will think that I'm a loser. Doing the sport made me feel very unhappy and a little suicidal. After long talks with my parents, I eventually decided to take a break and see how I felt after a few weeks. My mom always complained about how I achieved so much, and now I want to throw it away. She "respects my decision" but every time we have a conversation, she has to bring up my sport 24/7 and talk about how much of a quitter I am. I know deep inside she hates that I took a break/quit. She says she needs time to "process" this. I understand this, but she always has to make it about her. To me, I was doing my sport for her happiness. Every time I won, she would be very happy and proud, but I wasn't, and acted like I was. My mom said that I can find other hobbies, and so I did. I asked her politely to take me there, and she said she didn't want to. I got really really mad today and wanted to vent my feelings somewhere. I honestly don't know what to do. I can't talk to her because I know what she's going to say.
    13 answers · 16 hours ago
  • Parents refuse to take me to medical treatment . What do I do?

    Parents refuse to take me to medical treatment . What do I do?

    Best answer: Your a Dork and shouldn't be allowed to reproduce
    Best answer: Your a Dork and shouldn't be allowed to reproduce
    15 answers · 1 day ago
  • What do you think of large families?

    16 answers · 2 days ago
  • I'm trapped in my mom's basement?

    I tried using my strength to bust out of my mom's basement it's not working. I'm locked in like a prisoner.
    I tried using my strength to bust out of my mom's basement it's not working. I'm locked in like a prisoner.
    8 answers · 10 hours ago
  • Brainwashed by controlling mum - now I'm suicidal...?

    I grew up in a very strict, religious household. From the age of 12 or so, my (middle eastern) mum in particular would tell me stories about what had happened to girls in her community who weren't virgins on their wedding night, among other stories.                  Now, at 26, I still don't know if I could... show more
    I grew up in a very strict, religious household. From the age of 12 or so, my (middle eastern) mum in particular would tell me stories about what had happened to girls in her community who weren't virgins on their wedding night, among other stories.                  Now, at 26, I still don't know if I could get intimate with a guy. I'm introverted by nature and don't get comfortable around new people easily. The thought of having a first kiss makes me feel anxious.            I tried to speak to her about how I felt I'd been brainwashed, but she told me she was disappointed in me, and refused to apologise for weeks. If she'd shown some sympathy I might be ok. I'd move out but London is crazy expensive and my job is here.            I feel as though I'd been lied to my whole life and want to stop speaking to her. What should I do?
    7 answers · 13 hours ago
  • Can my mom get my boyfriend put in jail? I am legal and an adult?

    To sum up the situation: I am 19 and I plan to move in with my boyfriend to Texas due to my abusive household and I told my mother in advance so I wouldn't leave her in the dark. She then tried to tell my siblings that I was leaving because I didn't care about them. She has always been very manipulative and... show more
    To sum up the situation: I am 19 and I plan to move in with my boyfriend to Texas due to my abusive household and I told my mother in advance so I wouldn't leave her in the dark. She then tried to tell my siblings that I was leaving because I didn't care about them. She has always been very manipulative and abusive because she wants me to stay to take care of her 4 other kids despite the father living with her too. She said that if I left that she would cut all contact and that I'm not one of her kids anymore if I disobeyed her. We don't but he told me to contact him when I'm ready to leave. I announced again yesterday that I planned to leave and now she claimed she'd call the police if I leave so that when I get to Texas, he'll be in jail and I'll end up homeless.
    50 answers · 6 days ago
  • My parents are against shacking up and keep telling my brother he's in the wrong. They say they should get married soon. What do yall think?

    Best answer: Your brother is wrong to think a 20 year-old can even handle cohabitation (let alone marriage). Pushing him into a doomed union is pointless. If she gets pregnant there's a reason abortion is legal. No one under 25 and/or who doesn't have a good job has any business getting married.
    Best answer: Your brother is wrong to think a 20 year-old can even handle cohabitation (let alone marriage). Pushing him into a doomed union is pointless. If she gets pregnant there's a reason abortion is legal. No one under 25 and/or who doesn't have a good job has any business getting married.
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why am I too attached to my mom?!?

    Best answer: It is not really very surprising following the emotional upset of a family break up even if you were not especially close to your father. I am sure that your mother appreciates your love for her, but she will want you to start to develop more emotional independence from her - which you will in time. Concentrate on... show more
    Best answer: It is not really very surprising following the emotional upset of a family break up even if you were not especially close to your father. I am sure that your mother appreciates your love for her, but she will want you to start to develop more emotional independence from her - which you will in time. Concentrate on your boyfriend when you are with him, school when you are in school, etc. Good Luck! :o)
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • My grandma died not that long ago and I can't get over the fact that I didn't say anything when I went up to her coffin before the funeral?

    Everyone else was going so I didn't want to be only one who didn't go up but I was crying too much to say goodbye like everyone one else was. Now I feel sad because I never said goodbye or I love you or anything. How can I get over those feelings?
    Everyone else was going so I didn't want to be only one who didn't go up but I was crying too much to say goodbye like everyone one else was. Now I feel sad because I never said goodbye or I love you or anything. How can I get over those feelings?
    6 answers · 8 hours ago
  • My sister says absurd things and as soon as I prove her wrong she says “shutup I don’t care”? What do you call this person?

    She will say something that completely wrong. I will tell her she’s wrong - and she will be stuck on what she says. When I prove her wrong with facts... she will say “oh shutup I don’t care” She does this all the time. She also gets annoyed when I tell her she’s wrong about what she’s saying and then we end up... show more
    She will say something that completely wrong. I will tell her she’s wrong - and she will be stuck on what she says. When I prove her wrong with facts... she will say “oh shutup I don’t care” She does this all the time. She also gets annoyed when I tell her she’s wrong about what she’s saying and then we end up arguing about the topic... Help? How do I call her out on doing this? It’s getting very annoying
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • I've never felt so worthless, I have no one.?

    I don't have much family left, my mother and siblings left me after they borrowed money from me and refused to pay it back. I disowned a large amount of my family that stood by and watched me get abused throughout my childhood, some even helping to cover it up. I only really have my Dad, Grandad and... show more
    I don't have much family left, my mother and siblings left me after they borrowed money from me and refused to pay it back. I disowned a large amount of my family that stood by and watched me get abused throughout my childhood, some even helping to cover it up. I only really have my Dad, Grandad and Grandma... I'm not really close to my Dad anymore, we seem to be just getting further apart every time I meet him he just talks about how I'm wasting my life away. My Grandad doesn't understand emotions and my Grandma who is the kindest person I've ever met has cancer so I can't stress her out. Truth is I'm really struggling, I have constant nightmares which leaves me tired 24/7. I'm spending a lot of money on weed, I don't feel supported by my family, I'm lonely and miss all the family I disowned however can't face it happening again. These people had chance after chance until finally, just recently I gave in and stopped bothering with them. I have friends but it just feels like they're using me and taking advantage.
    8 answers · 1 day ago