• Me and my husband are always buying expensive presents for our family when it comes to our birthdays we get trash am I over reacting?

    Some people in the family who don't deserve it get expensive things we splash out when it comes to us we get stuff from poundshops why can this be and what should I do
    Some people in the family who don't deserve it get expensive things we splash out when it comes to us we get stuff from poundshops why can this be and what should I do
    23 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should I be angry at her??

    Hey guys, so my girlfriend and I of almost 2 years, are expecting a baby, and while this is normally a happy moment in our lives, it really isn't. For starters, she has a 3-year-old son from a previous relationship she was in, and when she found out she was pregnant she really told me that she doesn't want... show more
    Hey guys, so my girlfriend and I of almost 2 years, are expecting a baby, and while this is normally a happy moment in our lives, it really isn't. For starters, she has a 3-year-old son from a previous relationship she was in, and when she found out she was pregnant she really told me that she doesn't want the baby. Even asking me about abortion, adoption, and other things. My initial reaction is immediate anger. Not only do I take care of her kid that isn't mine, but when I get a chance to finally have a child of my own, she doesn't want it? She says she's just trying to be honest instead of faking like she's happy about this pregnancy. Which I understand and appreciate her honesty, but I just can't get over the fact that she doesn't want my child. It makes me so angry because for almost 2 years I've been taking care of hers and being a good stepdad. I'm not saying she owes me anything but she knows that I'll be a good dad to the kids. She knows that, but she said she feels like she can't do what she wanted to do in life with 2 kids and I told her that I'd sacrifice time so that she can follow her dreams. But that still isn't enough. She just doesn't want a second baby and It makes me so mad. Why am I so angry at her??? Please help.
    15 answers · 23 hours ago
  • I hate my dad. Any advice?

    Best answer: My parents don't get along too. I'm gonna be honest so.. Mom don't love my father when they were married. Dad's family abused Mom and non of the family liked the marriage. Now my parents have $42,857(my country don't use dollar so in my home currency, that is alot[60,000,000]) debt to the bank.... show more
    Best answer: My parents don't get along too. I'm gonna be honest so..
    Mom don't love my father when they were married. Dad's family abused Mom and non of the family liked the marriage. Now my parents have $42,857(my country don't use dollar so in my home currency, that is alot[60,000,000]) debt to the bank. My parents are going to get divorced after we sell our main business. My mother have a online boy friend for 3 years and my dad can't do anything about it. My mother want to get me into a private school(public school in my country is crap) but can't because money is too tight.Right now I'm getting shouted a lot because they don't have anywhere to let stress out.
    Look, things are bad here but you got to be stronger. Grab earphones and listen music if you want block noises. In the mean time try to get a part time job or something to get In come. Things might more bad like getting beaten up or homeless. Hang in there🌺🌎🌏🌍 🕊
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why does my family think they have any right to call me an elitist snob?

    My wife and I are in our mid 20s. We met in college and discovered we had similar childhood experiences. Both raised in pretty bad environments with parents and family who were poor, unprofessional, and irresponsible, put drugs or alcohol before their children, and blamed all their problems on everyone else. My... show more
    My wife and I are in our mid 20s. We met in college and discovered we had similar childhood experiences. Both raised in pretty bad environments with parents and family who were poor, unprofessional, and irresponsible, put drugs or alcohol before their children, and blamed all their problems on everyone else. My wife and I worked our way through college, graduated, we both have good jobs, and we got married. I've tried to limit contact with my family. I don't plan on ever helping my parents, not even when they're old and need it. They didn't help me, so why should I really. Now my wife and I are about to have a daughter, and when my family found out I told them that they weren't going to be allowed to be in her life, because I don't respect them or their behavior. Then a few days ago I got a call from one of my relatives who said I look down my nose at all of them because I have money and they don't, and that I'm just an elitist snob who wants to forget where I came from. The thing is, I haven't forgotten, and that's exactly why I don't want to speak with them. They refuse to take responsibility for the fact that they're losers and improve their lives, so why should I be viewed as a snob for actually being productive, professional, and responsible?
    24 answers · 4 days ago
  • What is my mom's problem. she called me a sneaky witch because I cooked breakfast for my dad and my brothers?

    Best answer: She's upset because your doing something that she should or wants to do, even if doesn't look that way. My mom acts that way, sometimes she says thank you, other times she yells because its something she figures isn't important or she could do better. Its because its her life and her house. My mom makes... show more
    Best answer: She's upset because your doing something that she should or wants to do, even if doesn't look that way. My mom acts that way, sometimes she says thank you, other times she yells because its something she figures isn't important or she could do better. Its because its her life and her house. My mom makes me insecure all the time. I'm a little younger 23 but I went through a seriously weird year of college pressure and family pressure, this kinda opened my eyes how to deal with my moms temperament, because everybody was the same way around me for two years. When I was younger she use to yell, even if I did something better than her like cleaning, other times shed yell for the one time I forgot the dishes. I use to think be nice hold it in, be kind or try to do what I want even if it makes her angry if I could get it past her. Its not about right or wrong save yourself the emotional pressure and don't do things you know will get her mad. Mostly because its how to protect yourself.
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • What causes some girls to be “tomboys”?

    I have seen some female children behave in masculine ways and socialize with mostly boys. Is it their environment, such as having brothers, that causes this? The parenting?? Or just how they are?
    I have seen some female children behave in masculine ways and socialize with mostly boys. Is it their environment, such as having brothers, that causes this? The parenting?? Or just how they are?
    10 answers · 1 day ago
  • How do i convince my dad 2 stop wearing short shorts?

    Best answer: not sure you can, you can pray god stops your dad fronn wearing it
    Best answer: not sure you can, you can pray god stops your dad fronn wearing it
    8 answers · 15 hours ago
  • My little sister gave me an erection. Am I going to Hell?

    I feel like crap now. She walked into my room with just bra and panties, and I got super hard. SMH! I swear I do not like her at all. I just couldn't control my erection. Ever since, I can not look at my sister the same way.
    I feel like crap now. She walked into my room with just bra and panties, and I got super hard. SMH! I swear I do not like her at all. I just couldn't control my erection. Ever since, I can not look at my sister the same way.
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • A family member turned of the utilities so I can't use them and I'm a minor?

    My family member is 50 something and I'm 17. Ever since I was 8 , he picked on me. Last week he started picking on me , so instead of confronting him I opened a few cans of "his" tomatos that somebody GAVE him months ago and I poured them out to annoy him. Right after that , he took all the food that... show more
    My family member is 50 something and I'm 17. Ever since I was 8 , he picked on me. Last week he started picking on me , so instead of confronting him I opened a few cans of "his" tomatos that somebody GAVE him months ago and I poured them out to annoy him. Right after that , he took all the food that my mom bought down stairs so i couldn't eat , he turned off the air conditioner (it's been in the 80s these last few weeks, he turned off the fridge and the oven, he turned off the water so I couldn't shower or flush the toilet ,he took the toilet tissue , he turned off the tv provider box so I couldn't watch ,and he took certain fuses out so i won't be able to use electricity. Let me remind you! HE HAS NEVER PAYED FOR ANY OF THEM! I honestly don't know what to do. My mom isn't home to stop this because she had to go to rehab for mobility reasons. And she had begged him multiple times to turn it on and he won't. So I want to know what I can do to stop this. I just want to be treated like a human being. Because of canned freaking tomatos I deserve to starve and be dirty APPARENTLY. I don't want to call 911 because it's not considered a emergancy. But is there anything else I could do?
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • How do I get my 13 year old to stop discussing (and trying to ask) adult stuff in general?

    My daughter wants to know about sexual things and even spoke to a friend about private parts. They’re things that a kid doesn’t need to know until he/she is 18 and in college! She’ll find SOME way to bring it up anyhow. For example, if we’re looking through the jewellery from her aunt’s marriage...she’ll ask... show more
    My daughter wants to know about sexual things and even spoke to a friend about private parts. They’re things that a kid doesn’t need to know until he/she is 18 and in college! She’ll find SOME way to bring it up anyhow. For example, if we’re looking through the jewellery from her aunt’s marriage...she’ll ask complicated marriage questions and birthing a baby. She was not like this before. Towards the end of 7th grade within the last four months, she’s been like this.
    8 answers · 7 hours ago
  • My mother asked me to help her and it turned it me doing everything and her doing nothing? What do I do?

    I m 21 with a job & focusing on going back to school. I m the type who always has to be doing something. can t stand to be in the house unless I have to. So it s not like I m a lazy individual. & always help ppl when needed. I live with my mom for now until I save enough & get back in school etc etc. my... show more
    I m 21 with a job & focusing on going back to school. I m the type who always has to be doing something. can t stand to be in the house unless I have to. So it s not like I m a lazy individual. & always help ppl when needed. I live with my mom for now until I save enough & get back in school etc etc. my mother is hard to live with Bc I think shes narcissistic. For anyone who knows that is it s a nightmare. Growing up it was always & still is about her all the time. She s very jealous and spiteful & also has to hit below the belt where it hurts to get her way BUT no one is allowed to do it to her. You can t tell her NO w/o a fight. Sometimes she forgets I m a human who has a separate identity from her Bc she seems to have control over every little thing in my life. She s in a eBay business. She s pretty successful but not really Bc she s addicted to shopping to the point any money she make is pointless. She constantly asks for help. I don t mind every once in awhile but Its EVERYDAY. It s not my thing. She gets angry that I don t quit my job to help her sell. She yells that we d make a lot of money off it but the funny thing is I m not allowed to touch the money. You read it right. She wants me to quit my job* FORREAL* meaning stop my way of growing as a person/ be broke/ be around her finger for the rest of my life. The moment I open my eyes til I close them she wants me to do all her work while she does nothing tells me what to do. How do I deal with this?
    6 answers · 12 hours ago
  • I think I may be a pedophile, should I do something (books/therapy???)?

    My overall socialization and development has been delayed. For years I blamed myself. I am 36 and I only recently figured this out. I am ultimately responsible but there are a few points worth mentioning: -Dad is an insecure man who abused me (mostly emotional mind games but also physical and verbal abuse however... show more
    My overall socialization and development has been delayed. For years I blamed myself. I am 36 and I only recently figured this out. I am ultimately responsible but there are a few points worth mentioning: -Dad is an insecure man who abused me (mostly emotional mind games but also physical and verbal abuse however no sexual abuse). -Mom has low self esteem and tends to socialize with people who are attracted to this. There tends to be a pecking order in which she is at the bottom. Any of my accomplishments goes into the context of her circle of friends and she is basically expected to come with bad news about me. -My Uncle (mom's brother) is a very insecure man who is very sensitive about his place at the top of the family pecking order. My dad sucks up to him (as does my mom). He has 2 sons my age and he is is sensitive about them doing better than me. All those around me basically wanted me to remain a boy forever. I was a virgin until I was in my 30's. At 15 I volunteered at a camp with kids. I didn't plan to spend time with kids ahead of time due to any sexual attraction, but I found that I became attracted to them after spending time with them (being totally rejected by girls my age may have contributed). In my 20's I had a job working with kids. Same thing happened as with the camp. It has been years since I have been attracted to a child. However it is possible that I may become attracted if I spend time with kids (not curious to find out) Should I do anything?
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • Is it possible that it just wasn’t meant to be (for me)?

    Best answer: I would say probably 85% of a person's circumstances aren't their fault. It's not your fault, it's theirs. Your circumstances have been rigged in such a way that your failures were predetermined from birth. What are you willing to do about it?
    Best answer: I would say probably 85% of a person's circumstances aren't their fault. It's not your fault, it's theirs. Your circumstances have been rigged in such a way that your failures were predetermined from birth. What are you willing to do about it?
    7 answers · 4 days ago
  • I never knew my grandfather because of my Mom and feel so ashamed when people talk about him that I didn't know him. How do I get over this?

    Best answer: Recognize it was your Mom's mistake to hold you back and not anything you did wrong. Maybe write to your deceased grandfather apologizing for your mother's actions.
    Best answer: Recognize it was your Mom's mistake to hold you back and not anything you did wrong. Maybe write to your deceased grandfather apologizing for your mother's actions.
    7 answers · 16 hours ago
  • How would you handle this issue.?

    I live in NY, my parents moved to Florida 8 years ago. I have many financial issues as well as debt and it is difficult for me to visit them due to the airfare, car rental cost etc..... Up until this year they helped a bit with the travel expense as they are financially in decent shape (at 83 my dad still... show more
    I live in NY, my parents moved to Florida 8 years ago. I have many financial issues as well as debt and it is difficult for me to visit them due to the airfare, car rental cost etc..... Up until this year they helped a bit with the travel expense as they are financially in decent shape (at 83 my dad still owns a good bisiness). I went to florida 2 months ago to visit them as dad has had a non life threatening physical condition and of course I payed for all expenses. My dad cannot travel for now. He needs more surgery and so I am going again and will have to put the expense on my already maxed our credit cards. Would I be out of line to ask if they could at least help with the car rental. dad is in pain and don't want to add to his woes. thanks
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • Was I wrong to hit my sister? Am I the bad guy?

    Best answer: She was being really actively antagonistic and deserved it.
    Best answer: She was being really actively antagonistic and deserved it.
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • I have a question about adult life for my girlfriend about if this is even legal and possible solutions?

    For anonymity sake, let s call her Grace. So Grace turned 18 last year and wants to move out. However, her parents refuse to let her. Her parents won t let her get a job so she can t get a car, and still has a driver s permit because she rarely gets to drive,and when she does get to drive it s only when her parents... show more
    For anonymity sake, let s call her Grace. So Grace turned 18 last year and wants to move out. However, her parents refuse to let her. Her parents won t let her get a job so she can t get a car, and still has a driver s permit because she rarely gets to drive,and when she does get to drive it s only when her parents tell her to. Her parents also forced her to get her own insurance that they refuse to pay off, and because she has Chrone s Disease (i forget if that s how you spell it) her debt from bimonthly treatments is high. They are now making her go to college basically against her will, and my fear is that they won t pay for that either and effectively force her to either declare bankruptcy or be in debt for the rest of her life. To add on to this, they starve her against her will during their religious holidays and even if she could leave her parents would be infuriated by the sight of any moving team for her belongings. Is there anything she can do? Is this even legal? For extra detail, the only place she has to go is with me and not only is she in CA and I now live In TN, but I also wouldn t be able to provide any health care for her disease.
    8 answers · 1 day ago