• Cousin is mooching off my parents and sharing my room. What do I do?

    so my cousin has been living with us for about year. And because I have the biggest room (the basement), he shares the room with me. This was supposed to be a 6 month thing and ended up being a one year thing. He hasn’t been looking for a new place, he hasn’t made an effort to save money, he spends way too much... show more
    so my cousin has been living with us for about year. And because I have the biggest room (the basement), he shares the room with me. This was supposed to be a 6 month thing and ended up being a one year thing. He hasn’t been looking for a new place, he hasn’t made an effort to save money, he spends way too much money on weed and just plays video games all day. It’s really stressful for me because I’ve never had my own room and when I finally got my own room he moved in. My parents are very fed up with him but don’t want to ruin their relationship with him. Him and I fight all the time mostly becuase he doesn’t clean up after himself and I am physically tired of cleaning up after him all the time. Recently we got into a big argument because he’s angry that I tell my mom how dirty he is becuase she ends up yelling at him to clean up. But I have no choice becuase when I tell him to clean up he just yells at me and spoils endings of tv shows and video games to get me out of the room. He’s 28 years old and I’m a 22 year old woman. I can’t even bring my friends or boyfriend over because his clothes are all over the floor. I just really don’t know what to do at this point. What do I do?
    17 answers · 2 days ago
  • I don't want to teach my kids how to drive or drive them. Am I normal?

    Best answer: It's my opinion that you are raising your children to hate you.
    Best answer: It's my opinion that you are raising your children to hate you.
    18 answers · 1 day ago
  • Is it rude to tell your inlaws to not take photos of your child?

    My boyfriends family (mom, sisters) are planning to come after I give birth to my son, I’m not sure if they wanted to come as soon as possible or a couple days when he’s already been home for awhile, either way my problem is I don’t want them taking pictures and posting them on social media but I don’t know how to... show more
    My boyfriends family (mom, sisters) are planning to come after I give birth to my son, I’m not sure if they wanted to come as soon as possible or a couple days when he’s already been home for awhile, either way my problem is I don’t want them taking pictures and posting them on social media but I don’t know how to go about that? I’m not close with them whatsoever, me and his family are still at the hi and bye stage, and I don’t like the idea of them posting my child to their followers on social media whom I don’t know either.. I just don’t want to seem rude about it..
    20 answers · 1 day ago
  • I m stuck, can you help me?

    My mother and brother are facing homeless very soon and I feel like I can t help them because I dont have the money to lend them for anything because I don t make a lot at my job. I m living with my fiancé and her parents right now and they won t let them move in too. I m trying to find a homeless shelter that... show more
    My mother and brother are facing homeless very soon and I feel like I can t help them because I dont have the money to lend them for anything because I don t make a lot at my job. I m living with my fiancé and her parents right now and they won t let them move in too. I m trying to find a homeless shelter that allows pets but i can t find anything...does anyone have any suggestions?
    10 answers · 18 hours ago
  • **** you dad and sister?

    I'm 30 and dad has never gave a damn about me, and neither has my sister. Dad has always treated my sister better. My sister doesn't speak. My sister was staying with us but moved out. She is 35, with kid, i have done things for her, i have given her money, babysit my nephew, but she doesn't speak to... show more
    I'm 30 and dad has never gave a damn about me, and neither has my sister. Dad has always treated my sister better. My sister doesn't speak. My sister was staying with us but moved out. She is 35, with kid, i have done things for her, i have given her money, babysit my nephew, but she doesn't speak to me. She talks to others in the family, but doesn't speak to me, she act as if she is better . I tried to have a relationship with her, but she don't give a damn about me. Dad talks to others, but with me he barely speaks. And if he do it's pretend. I try and do what i can for people, generally laugh if i talk but i get treated like crap. My dad talks to my sister and others with no issue. But quiet if around me, and if i say something to him, he doesn't wanna talk. But if i am not talking to him he is talking to others. **** u dad, i know i shouldn't say that. But i can't take it. I have faults and flaws, i have made bad decisions, i have a criminal background, i deal with anxiety and depression. But why hate me? and treat my sister better? I have spoken to him about this, and he yells if i disagree with him, or don't shut up when he want me to shut up. He doesn't apologize. And he hates if i defend myself. Is it ok for me to feel rage?
    6 answers · 10 hours ago
  • How do I respond at the family reunion this weekend when my Mom's cousin wants to discuss my late grandfather's alcoholism which I dont?

    Best answer: You have no guarantee this topic will come up. If it does, excuse yourself, and leave the room.
    Best answer: You have no guarantee this topic will come up. If it does, excuse yourself, and leave the room.
    6 answers · 11 hours ago
  • Is this weird/fair?

    So my mom and step dad are separating for a little bit so my mom and I are currently living with my grandma and grandpa until my mom saves a little bit of money to get a place of our own. Well. About two weeks ago my great grandpa died. I am currently staying in the room that my great grandma and grandpa stayed in... show more
    So my mom and step dad are separating for a little bit so my mom and I are currently living with my grandma and grandpa until my mom saves a little bit of money to get a place of our own. Well. About two weeks ago my great grandpa died. I am currently staying in the room that my great grandma and grandpa stayed in before my great grandma died two years ago. Now that my great grandpa is gone, my grandpa has decided that a BIG portrait of my dead great grandma should go into the room I’m staying in. I think it’s weird and kind of unfair to have in the room that is supposed to be mine for two months. It literally creeps me out having her look down on me. I can’t sleep. I love her with all my heart and miss her but this is just weird to me. It’s the same picture used at her funeral. What do I do? I don’t want it to be hung over my bed. Isn’t it kind of weird? Is it just me?? By the way I’m 18 and just graduated high school, if that changes anything whatsoever.
    6 answers · 13 hours ago
  • Grandmother died without a will,who gets the house ?

    Me and my grandmother were extremely close,she raised me on my father’s behalf when he had ms. Eventually she got very sick & her other son (she had two children him & my father.) I stayed with her as well to help care for her. My uncle & his wife would smoke,drink & take her pills without... show more
    Me and my grandmother were extremely close,she raised me on my father’s behalf when he had ms. Eventually she got very sick & her other son (she had two children him & my father.) I stayed with her as well to help care for her. My uncle & his wife would smoke,drink & take her pills without permission as well as would try abusing me as a minor. When I was 17 my uncle tried hitting my & my grandmother called the cops. They called my mother to take me away from the abusive household & my grandmother threatened to kill herself if I left..that was the last time I’d ever see her again. After that I got 1 phone call & never got a response,I tried stopping by and knocking,calling,even calling aps. It had been two years since I heard from her & I saw on Facebook she had passed..no one told me or let me know. I’m completely devastated. What’s worse is that these horrible people who did my grandmother wrong are still in the home & I want them out! She didn’t leave a will but my father is deceased so it’s just me and my uncle. Does part of that house belong to me?if so how do I go about trying to take it from them? I’m hurt they didn’t let me be there for her in her last days & she would always say she wanted the house sold and the money split.
    17 answers · 1 day ago
  • My daughter has become a vegan. How do I get her to come to her senses and return to meat?

    She's 13 and wants to follow this vegan trend nonsense. She has gotten into the wrong crowd online and has watched too much peta propaganda videos. I will not allow her to give up meat. As a doctor, I know the negative health risks that will happen to a young child who refuses to eat meat. I have tried all that... show more
    She's 13 and wants to follow this vegan trend nonsense. She has gotten into the wrong crowd online and has watched too much peta propaganda videos. I will not allow her to give up meat. As a doctor, I know the negative health risks that will happen to a young child who refuses to eat meat. I have tried all that I can, but she remains stubborn and rebellious. My husband and I even tried force-feeding her but she would go into the bathroom and willfully vomit immediately afterwards. Before that we would try to sneak meat in her food but she would eventually detect it. Should I commit her to a psychiatric ward to treat her?
    27 answers · 3 days ago
  • Strict mom, thinking about threatening to run away ?

    So I’m a 17 year old girl (about to turn 18 next month) and I live with my strict mother. She has always been overly protective and strict with me ever since I was born. I’m not a bad child. I was raised right from my parents and I never disrespect them in any way, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have arguments. I... show more
    So I’m a 17 year old girl (about to turn 18 next month) and I live with my strict mother. She has always been overly protective and strict with me ever since I was born. I’m not a bad child. I was raised right from my parents and I never disrespect them in any way, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have arguments. I just recently graduated and I am heading off to college soon. Keep in mind that my mom made me choose a college closer to home so that I could commute instead of choosing my first option college. It was kind of annoying because I really wanted to dorm away from home and actually have a college experience. It is now summer and my childhood friends are flying over to my state to give their last visits. They rented a house on airbnb and invited me to stay for a week. My mom would never even let me sleep over for a night over a friend’s house. The house is about an hour away from my house so I really do want to stay with them. How do I convince my mother to stay with my friends for a week? I wanted to threaten to run away or lock them out to do everything I can for her to say yes. I would do everything for this opportunity. My mother treats me like I am 10 years old. I know she wants the best for me, but I need to grow up and be independent at some point. Another reason behind this is probably because I am the youngest in my family and a female. My mother is Asian, so yes it is very difficult to have some freedom with my strict mother.
    10 answers · 1 hour ago
  • HELP Ok so my step mom whose 42 and I 19 are having sex everyday while my Dad works. She says I’m “bigger” than my Dad and it’s our”secret”?

    What do I do about this? She gets me off like no other women can. I want to be with her. But my Dad is married to her as of 8 years. The sex is so f*cking good and she’s beautiful, but she’s threatening Me to not snitch
    What do I do about this? She gets me off like no other women can. I want to be with her. But my Dad is married to her as of 8 years. The sex is so f*cking good and she’s beautiful, but she’s threatening Me to not snitch
    14 answers · 1 day ago
  • Why do schools make boys and girls swim together in gym class?

    at my daughters schools from 8th -10th grade, in PE she attends the swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable and give immature boys an opportunity to harass and humiliate girls? And cause distractions and goofing off among everyday? Not to... show more
    at my daughters schools from 8th -10th grade, in PE she attends the swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable and give immature boys an opportunity to harass and humiliate girls? And cause distractions and goofing off among everyday? Not to mention young boys will be shirtless around young girls and I think that is inappropriate especially in a school setting My daughter keeps saying she does not care but she is young and may not understand how wrong this is this just seems wrong especially at school. Giving a boys a chance to leer at girls like this this class also pretty much just gives students to look at all the other students in bathing suits. Girls shouldn't be forced to be in this situation with boys and fear harassment can people really say honestly that young boys and girls will concentrate on swimming while they are around each other in bathing suits and not goof off? That boys (who aren't known for sensitivity) won't use this opportunity to harass or tease girls? what reason do they have to put them together? They can easily separate boys and girls buy taking the boys of another gym class and putting them with the boys in the gym class doing the swim unit and the same with girls. Cam someone please tell me the benefits and why exactly boys and girls should swim together in school? What is the reason?
    11 answers · 16 hours ago
  • My mother physically and emotionally abuses me, can you give me advice please?

    So I’m a 26 year old female currently working part time, living with my mother since I was a kid. She’s been physically and emotionally abusive to me for so long but it has gotten worse. Now she wishes death on me, abuses me physically, threatens me all that nasty stuff. She yells at me constantly, she is... show more
    So I’m a 26 year old female currently working part time, living with my mother since I was a kid. She’s been physically and emotionally abusive to me for so long but it has gotten worse. Now she wishes death on me, abuses me physically, threatens me all that nasty stuff. She yells at me constantly, she is approaching 50 and I think it’s gotten worse. It’s gotten to the point were even my brother is joining in and saying that I’m mental and how nobody cares about the fact that I’m being abused at home. He locked me out of the house yesterday and she was laughing. I really need help, I want to escape. I have no friends no family I can move in with or talk about this with. Last night she beat me up over something so little, my back hurts and I feel like it’s affecting me emotionally. I have recorded footage of her being abusive to me just in case something goes down. What can I do? Please only serious answers. Thanks
    27 answers · 4 days ago
  • My parents want me to talk to my brother about his weight. But that's very personal and we are not that close?

    My brother has always been a little chubby. He was never obese just had a little bit of extra weight on him. As for being athletic and doing things that was never his thing. In his life he has never done sports or any other physical activity. He was a bit lazy in that sense. When he was a kid he used to measure... show more
    My brother has always been a little chubby. He was never obese just had a little bit of extra weight on him. As for being athletic and doing things that was never his thing. In his life he has never done sports or any other physical activity. He was a bit lazy in that sense. When he was a kid he used to measure which road to school was the closest so he would walk as little as possible. But now he is he getting really over weight. My guess is that in about 12-18 months he has gained like 25kg (50lbs) and weighs close to 135 kg (300 lbs). Which is a lot. My parents have tried talking to him but it's hard, which I understand. He gets upset and doesn't like to talk about it. It's all in good intention but it's not the easiest to talk about. So they want me to talk to him. A couple of years ago I had back problems because I sat too much. So I started seeing a personal trainer and she helped me with my back and got my into shape. They want me to try and talk him into doing the same. But me and him are not that close to be honest. He is a difficult person to talk to and is not the most open off people. 6 months ago I did send him my food diary and my weekly workout program and we talked about him using that if he felt for it. But other than that I don't know what I can do. He is a grown man. I can't force him to go to the gym. I can barely force myself at times. What would you do in this situation?
    11 answers · 16 hours ago
  • I'm hurt I didn't get a happy father's day?

    I've been with my girlfriend almost 4 years, and she didn't say happy father's day to me, and I'm actually hurt. I am not her child's biological father, but I sre myself as his dad. I try my best to be a good father figure, so that's why I am so hurt this year. The real father is not in the... show more
    I've been with my girlfriend almost 4 years, and she didn't say happy father's day to me, and I'm actually hurt. I am not her child's biological father, but I sre myself as his dad. I try my best to be a good father figure, so that's why I am so hurt this year. The real father is not in the picture, and took before he was even born. All she said is "I am thankful for everything, but he's not asking questions, and he doesn't call you dad. I don't want to make anything confusing, and I don't want explain things until I have too. I don't wany to jump in on the deep end if I don't have too" That statement she made only made me more hurt. Am I wrong for being hurt?
    21 answers · 3 days ago
  • My mom is really mad and threatened to kill me and called me a ***** and tried to leave the house and idk why and she's blaming me for this?

    Ever since I was a child, my mom and both parents had high expectations from me. I've always been a good student scoring A's and staying away from trouble but nothing was ever enough. I'm not so pretty and I remember my mom taking sides of people calling me ugly and stuff and it really used to hurt me... show more
    Ever since I was a child, my mom and both parents had high expectations from me. I've always been a good student scoring A's and staying away from trouble but nothing was ever enough. I'm not so pretty and I remember my mom taking sides of people calling me ugly and stuff and it really used to hurt me amd lowered my self-esteem to the point I was afraid of looking at myself in the mirror. Whenever she had a fight with my dad, she used to blame me for it. Now we planned a trip somewhere, so I woke up and told my mom I'll be ready when they want me to be and went back to my room. When I came back a couple hours later, she looked mad and to make talk I said you should've told me the plan was cancelled. Well, she never talked to me for a couple of days and then she called me a *****, a prostitue and threatened to kill me. And when I asked what I did, she said I was disobedient and never listen to her and cancelled the plan by going into my room and then she started slapping herself and now everyone is blaming me. Idk what I've done when I clearly told her to just tell me that?
    10 answers · 21 hours ago
  • How do I speak to my 10 year old son about appropriate behaviour online?

    We’ve had his school admins setting up a meeting in regards to this problem back in May. He livestreamed himself to strangers and engages in explicit conversations. Note that my son has ADHD. He doesn’t have the maturity of a typical 10 year old. The problem is that people are worried about his safety AND he says... show more
    We’ve had his school admins setting up a meeting in regards to this problem back in May. He livestreamed himself to strangers and engages in explicit conversations. Note that my son has ADHD. He doesn’t have the maturity of a typical 10 year old. The problem is that people are worried about his safety AND he says some pretty inappropriate things on there. This is all fun and games to him. He openly said that he used this website to talk to strange people, which is how others found out.
    18 answers · 3 days ago
  • I m a single dad in a wheelchair need advice?

    I ve been raising my child on my own for over 11 yrs with little help from mom. It s getting worse now she a teen. Hitting me, yelling and calling abusive names. Her mom thinks I m at fault instead of her. My child runs over me, doesnt help around house..just lays in bed on ipad..
    I ve been raising my child on my own for over 11 yrs with little help from mom. It s getting worse now she a teen. Hitting me, yelling and calling abusive names. Her mom thinks I m at fault instead of her. My child runs over me, doesnt help around house..just lays in bed on ipad..
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • What to do if the father of your child is aggressive with your 4 year old.?

    I have a 4 year old son. Hes an absolute sweetheart and so loving, but theres one thing I believe may affect his sweetness and positivy and that’d be his father. My son is with me majority of the time, he goes with his father 2x a week, sometimes more because I want them to have a bond but I cant keep pushing the... show more
    I have a 4 year old son. Hes an absolute sweetheart and so loving, but theres one thing I believe may affect his sweetness and positivy and that’d be his father. My son is with me majority of the time, he goes with his father 2x a week, sometimes more because I want them to have a bond but I cant keep pushing the fact that his father is aggressive with him away. I was shocked when I found out he even had to be with his father considering his fathers past history wih the law- assault - multiple times. Hes also been diagnosed eith bi polar disorder and was ordered to take anger management classes which he still goes to but unfortunately i see no change. Some weeks hes good with my son, other times I fear what my son goes through or might have to face in his fathers wrath. He gets upset that my son doesnt like him but my son has explained to me and him that its because he yells at him and grabs and hurts his arms when trying to stop him from moving, again my child is 4. He gets seemingly mad for no reason and needs to control my son, any sign of disobedience and he loses it. Is there anything I can do? Its been years and his dad isnt changing, if fear for my son and Im also fearing for my familys life. He owns countless guns and pointed one at my sister who doesn’t like him. Im scared if I go to court and we get full custody his father will come kill us. Im scared his father will hurt him in the middle of an episode. Im lost
    23 answers · 4 days ago