• My boyfriend said he’ll never be excited to have a baby?

    He has a child all ready, I have none. He’s very wishy washy about this subject. He’s told me he plans on marrying me and that he wants to wait until we’re married/two years to have a baby. Then he said he’ll never “try” to have a child, be excited or jump for joy if I tell him I’m pregnant. So I asked him “well if... show more
    He has a child all ready, I have none. He’s very wishy washy about this subject. He’s told me he plans on marrying me and that he wants to wait until we’re married/two years to have a baby. Then he said he’ll never “try” to have a child, be excited or jump for joy if I tell him I’m pregnant. So I asked him “well if you’re okay with having one once we’re married but you don’t want to try how am I supposed to know when I can stop taking BC” and he said “once you have a ring on your finger.” I don’t get it.
    22 answers · 4 days ago
  • My niece is newly married and her and her husband asked to stay with us while their home is being built. the only rule we have is no sex.?

    Best answer: It sounds reasonable. How exactly would you know if they did anyway? Sex isn't always about the bed falling through the ceiling. It can be done quietly.
    Best answer: It sounds reasonable. How exactly would you know if they did anyway? Sex isn't always about the bed falling through the ceiling. It can be done quietly.
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • What should I do?

    I don’t have a life. I spend every day and night in bed watching tv and living off of benefits. I am on anti depressants and propranolol for anxiety. I am 28 years old and dont know where to start to get a decent life.
    I don’t have a life. I spend every day and night in bed watching tv and living off of benefits. I am on anti depressants and propranolol for anxiety. I am 28 years old and dont know where to start to get a decent life.
    10 answers · 3 days ago
  • I made my boyfriend cry (he who never cries) and I feel so bad and guilty?

    He never cried before, he was always strong and the one who took care of me. Today I had a bad breakdown, things arent going well at all at school, I'm facing bullying and racism to the point of wanting to end my life. Instead of having suicide thoughts I decided to go back to my homeland, I habe an old aunt... show more
    He never cried before, he was always strong and the one who took care of me. Today I had a bad breakdown, things arent going well at all at school, I'm facing bullying and racism to the point of wanting to end my life. Instead of having suicide thoughts I decided to go back to my homeland, I habe an old aunt who lives there. She has no children and she agreed to take care of me and made me attend school there, hopefully a group of spoiled teenagers wont hate me all together. My parents are not haopy about this and dont want to leave me. Mom cried today and she told my boyfriend. He cant believe I will go to the other side of the world. He tried everything to convince me, and saw the signs of my self harm and started to cry, and ended up begging me and he hugged me in a weird way, with his head on my chest, hugging me tight, too strong like he didnt want me to go. I decided that either I will kill myself or I will live a normal life in my homeland with people who don't want to hurt me. I told him if you love me let me go... though I hate having to be far from him, I need to go back cause I cant find peace here. He cried on my chest like a baby and begged me not to. I feel so sorry for hurting him so much. But I cant do it other way
    6 answers · 1 day ago
  • Need advice on a mother in law issue..?

    We are going to get my mother in-law soon. It’s 500 to where she lives and 500 miles back home. She’s staying 2 weeks and my husband is taking her back. We are on a very tight budget right now. Trying to get out of debt. Last night my husband tells me that she is wanting him to take her to parts of southeast NM and... show more
    We are going to get my mother in-law soon. It’s 500 to where she lives and 500 miles back home. She’s staying 2 weeks and my husband is taking her back. We are on a very tight budget right now. Trying to get out of debt. Last night my husband tells me that she is wanting him to take her to parts of southeast NM and West Texas to see her cousins. That’s probably another 4 hundred miles. I let him know today that it’s not practical to take her to those places when we’re already driving 2k miles so she can come visit. He’s now, not answering my calls and is mad at me. We buy her groceries, give her money. The last time she was here she had me take her to a department store, goes to check out and whispers in my ear- “it looks like I don’t have the money in my account to cover my purchase”. It was 400 dollars that I had to pay. She pretended to be sick the whole time she was her so my husband would call in and stay home with her. I’m so stressed out over this visit. How do I handle my husband? Do I cave? Please help!
    10 answers · 3 days ago
  • Guys I need your advice on my boyfriends behavior?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 12 years. He is 29, I am 30. He now tells me that he wants to participate in Palo mayombe religion. When I first met him he told me that his father was into that religion. I asked him if he was or ever was considering it. He said No, never. So I stayed with him. After all... show more
    My boyfriend and I have been together for 12 years. He is 29, I am 30. He now tells me that he wants to participate in Palo mayombe religion. When I first met him he told me that his father was into that religion. I asked him if he was or ever was considering it. He said No, never. So I stayed with him. After all this time he tells me he wants to join this. I told him that if he was considering participating that I couldn't be with him anymore because I am not comfortable with it. He said, people change, I'm narrow minded, and am only thinking about myself. He said " I dont want to break up with you, you want to break up with me. I told him to call me back when he gets his life together. He calls me yesterday telling me that he misses me and he cant change his decision because its going to help him out. He said we will find a way to fix it. He calls me again later that night and dosent want to talk about the religion, when i bring it up he says hes not changing for me, its his way or the highway and he dosent want to be told what to do.This is very confusing for me, I seem to be getting mixed messages from him. Ultimately he knew a long time ago if he were to get involved with this that I would leave. If a guy really loves a woman wouldnt he do everything in his power to keep her or am i not being understanding?
    6 answers · 1 day ago
  • My dad try to control me. what should i do?

    Best answer: If you live under his roof and eat the foo he pays for and you are at school and underage - then he's entitled to control a large portion of your life because you wouldn't be able to cope in the outside world without him. On the other hand, if you are an adult, independent with a job and a home of your... show more
    Best answer: If you live under his roof and eat the foo he pays for and you are at school and underage - then he's entitled to control a large portion of your life because you wouldn't be able to cope in the outside world without him. On the other hand, if you are an adult, independent with a job and a home of your own, you just be polite and respectful to your father but do your own thing. This all depends on how old you are and we don't know that do we.
    Just read your update. He owes you by the sound of it. You should do as you please and he will just have to put up with your decisions. You are an adult and he is a man indebted to you.
    11 answers · 5 days ago
  • Is it realistic for a fulltime worker and a part time worker to live together and have a family?

    Best answer: Possibly, but there's no way for us to tell based on the extremely limited information you provided. It depends on the jobs, the location, the part of the world, the needs of the individuals, etc.
    Best answer: Possibly, but there's no way for us to tell based on the extremely limited information you provided. It depends on the jobs, the location, the part of the world, the needs of the individuals, etc.
    5 answers · 2 days ago
  • How to accept spending the rest of your life alone?

    Im divorced and a mother of 3. I know no decent man would want to marry me now because its not just me its me and 3 kids. So i know ill end up dying alone. Most days im okay, but other days i cant help but cry because here i am doing this alone while my ex husband gets to live his life like we never happened. After... show more
    Im divorced and a mother of 3. I know no decent man would want to marry me now because its not just me its me and 3 kids. So i know ill end up dying alone. Most days im okay, but other days i cant help but cry because here i am doing this alone while my ex husband gets to live his life like we never happened. After we had our first 2 kids he stopped working and started abusing me. I tried to make things work for a year, i worked took care of him and the kids but he didnt stop so when i wanted to leave he beat and raped me and thats how i had our third child. It hurts so much i gave my life to the wrong guy and now ill have to pay for it forever. He was really good to me until we had our second child. Then he just changed.. how do i get over all of these feelings and accept what is? I feel so sad some times. I have so much to offer but ive Fd my whole life up. Im glad i had them. I love them so much. Just sometimes i wish i had someone to confide in. To help me to be here for me. To love me.
    6 answers · 3 days ago
  • Is it normal for my husband to smooch his adult sister?

    My husband is always kissing his 19 year old sister on the cheek, but he doesn t just give her a quick peck on her cheek, he will wrap his arms around her and suck on it. He has done it in public, and then kisses me right after, which has made people stare at us, and probably wonder if we re in a three way... show more
    My husband is always kissing his 19 year old sister on the cheek, but he doesn t just give her a quick peck on her cheek, he will wrap his arms around her and suck on it. He has done it in public, and then kisses me right after, which has made people stare at us, and probably wonder if we re in a three way relationship. His sister also slaps his butt all of the time. I have asked her to stop because it s inappropriate, but she says "No, he s my brother and it s not my fault that he has a big butt." I ve asked him to stop kissing her because it makes me uncomfortable, but he tells me that I m being weird, and has even asked me if I was jealous of his sister. I have brothers, and they don t act that way with me, nor do I act like that with them. Today we got in a little argument because he kissed her, and it was so loud that I heard it from the next room, which is disgusting in my opinion. Also, this has nothing to do with trust issues, I just want to know if I m over thinking this, or if anyone else has this kind of relationship with their siblings.
    5 answers · 3 days ago
  • Manager stopped speaking to me after i called her out?

    I work at a fashion store near my house. Even though i work at a clothing store i can’t wear what i want no hats,ripped jeans or clothings,spaghetti straps,crop tips or halter tops are allowed. So yesterday my two managers came up to me and said “i looked you up on Facebook.” And i said “well why did you do that”... show more
    I work at a fashion store near my house. Even though i work at a clothing store i can’t wear what i want no hats,ripped jeans or clothings,spaghetti straps,crop tips or halter tops are allowed. So yesterday my two managers came up to me and said “i looked you up on Facebook.” And i said “well why did you do that” and she said “just because, you look different in person” and i said “what do you mean” and she said” you dress nice and look good on Facebook why you don’t look and dress like that in person” and i said” well that’s because this is a job and i can’t even wear what u want to” and she said “well me and your other manager try to look decent at least” So i said “well y’all wear tights and beat up sneakers all the time” now she won’t speak to me
    8 answers · 5 days ago
  • My mom loves my older sister more than me?

    Best answer: No she doesn't. She loves you differently. Think about it - you love people differently too. You give each person what they need. Do you love your mum and dad exactly the same? Do you love your sister the same as you may love your boyfriend or best friend? No. We are all different and unique. If you are... show more
    Best answer: No she doesn't. She loves you differently. Think about it - you love people differently too. You give each person what they need. Do you love your mum and dad exactly the same? Do you love your sister the same as you may love your boyfriend or best friend? No. We are all different and unique. If you are playing up, she may not like you that day - but she still loves you. Next day your sister might annoy her and she'd be less liked - but, equally, not less loved.
    4 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is our age gap too much?

    Best answer: The age difference is an issue only if YOU and HE make it one. Your family accepts him, you like him. I'm assuming his mom likes you, you love each other...stop worrying about the age thing. If anyone says something, be assertive and tell them it's not a problem for the two of you, why is it a problem... show more
    Best answer: The age difference is an issue only if YOU and HE make it one. Your family accepts him, you like him. I'm assuming his mom likes you, you love each other...stop worrying about the age thing. If anyone says something, be assertive and tell them it's not a problem for the two of you, why is it a problem for them?
    6 answers · 4 days ago
  • I'm 33 do you think I ll ever be a mum?

    Best answer: Considering that you need at least two years to evaluate someone to know if you want them to be the coparent of your child you could be bumping right up against nature's "high risk" threshold. So if you have the financial means this would be a good time to arrange for egg harvesting and keeping some... show more
    Best answer: Considering that you need at least two years to evaluate someone to know if you want them to be the coparent of your child you could be bumping right up against nature's "high risk" threshold. So if you have the financial means this would be a good time to arrange for egg harvesting and keeping some of your genetic material on ice. This way you can take that time you need to find a worthy partner and not rush into something stupid just because you think you're running out of time.
    9 answers · 1 week ago
  • Can the father of my child get custody?

    I am a married woman with 2 kids 1 for my husband 1 for my baby daddy.i live in a 3 bedroom apartment.my baby daddy left me wen my daughter was 1 years old.he was so disrespectful.i use to live with his mom when my daughter was born.they treat me really bad over there.my baby daddy use to abuse my daughter when she... show more
    I am a married woman with 2 kids 1 for my husband 1 for my baby daddy.i live in a 3 bedroom apartment.my baby daddy left me wen my daughter was 1 years old.he was so disrespectful.i use to live with his mom when my daughter was born.they treat me really bad over there.my baby daddy use to abuse my daughter when she was a baby.this man burn me with a lighter.the only good time I remember with him is wen he smoke weed.wen he left me I went back to my mom house he never did bother for my daughter.i give him a chance to help for a year he never help.i told it was time for me to put him on child support he told me he doesn’t care.i put him on child support.his mom is the only person who help with my daughter.not my daughter is 5 year old.they live 4 hours away I use to give my daughter his to his mom whenever she wanted this lady would show up to my house she don’t say hi to me.i still give my daughter to her.my baby daddy doesn’t pay child support.couple of days ago child services show up to my house because someone call them about me abusing my daughter.i text his mom I told she couldn’t have my daughter anymore because they believe I’m abusing my daughter.they say I’m a wicked person.my baby daddy text me saying his the one who call child services..when dcf show up to my house there was no evidence showing I’m abusing my daughter.the lady close the case.now my baby daddy blaming me of not seeing his daughter.i block his whole family on Facebook because I trusted them
    5 answers · 4 days ago