• My mom doesnt want me to quit my job?

    Im 26 years old first of all. I really want to quit my job. I am a female doing hard work in a factory. I like all my coworkers and managers/assistants. However, its the work that is killing me. I hurt my lower back really bad with bending too much and lifting heavy things. It hasnt been the same. I recently hurt... show more
    Im 26 years old first of all. I really want to quit my job. I am a female doing hard work in a factory. I like all my coworkers and managers/assistants. However, its the work that is killing me. I hurt my lower back really bad with bending too much and lifting heavy things. It hasnt been the same. I recently hurt my wrist on my right arm and now I did something to my neck where I cannot turn my head. I keep going to hed around 7:30pm which isnt like me. My mom tells me that she doesnt want me to quit and I have to think of it like “its a job not your career”. Well i am fed up i want a job with my college degree! I had one but they treated me so bad once my mom realized that she was telling me its okay to quit (my mom is in the same field i am in from college) But for now according to her I need the current job because of my apartment, wedding to my fiancé, health insurance since I am not married yet What do I do ? I hate this job and feel stuck. I have a part time job which I know would love to give me more hours but i understand if I get sick no insurance. I never been in such pain in my life
    16 answers · 5 days ago
  • I just figured out Im in a mentally abusive relationship.. I need help I know ..but I need other peoples point of view.....?

    Best answer: First copy these scriptures and post them on the bathroom mirror (or someplace similar) for him to see. Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. 1Pet 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be... show more
    Best answer: First copy these scriptures and post them on the bathroom mirror (or someplace similar) for him to see.

    Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

    Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

    1Pet 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

    When he either confronts you about the passages above, or starts his abuse again, tell him something like this:

    Darling, I love you, and will always do my best to be the kind of wife to you that God expects of me, but I must tell you that the way you sometimes treat me is very unloving, harsh, inconsiderate and disrespectful. I can't make you do what God says and I would get in trouble for trying to punish you for not doing what God says (ref Gen 50:15-21; Rom 12:19), so all I can do is take it and suffer. Your real issue isn't with me, but with God.

    Back to me. If he continues with attempted guilt trips or whatever, don't argue or defend yourself; just repeat the above, especially the last sentence. If the above has no effect on him, go to an elder at your church and seek his advice. Good luck and God bless. Hang in there; all marriages have problems that have to be overcome. I'll be praying for you. You pray too for God's help and guidance.
    16 answers · 6 days ago
  • Is it normal to have sexual dreams about a fictional character?

    for the last few weeks ive had sexual dreams about professor Snape from harry potter, is this normal?
    for the last few weeks ive had sexual dreams about professor Snape from harry potter, is this normal?
    4 answers · 18 hours ago
  • I'm 33 do you think I ll ever be a mum?

    Best answer: Considering that you need at least two years to evaluate someone to know if you want them to be the coparent of your child you could be bumping right up against nature's "high risk" threshold. So if you have the financial means this would be a good time to arrange for egg harvesting and keeping some... show more
    Best answer: Considering that you need at least two years to evaluate someone to know if you want them to be the coparent of your child you could be bumping right up against nature's "high risk" threshold. So if you have the financial means this would be a good time to arrange for egg harvesting and keeping some of your genetic material on ice. This way you can take that time you need to find a worthy partner and not rush into something stupid just because you think you're running out of time.
    6 answers · 3 days ago
  • Would you consider this a good way to get revenge on someone?

    Best answer: I'd discuss this with your middle school science teacher - not possible. Do I believe you spend a lot of time masturbating and saving your semen "for later"? Yes.
    Best answer: I'd discuss this with your middle school science teacher - not possible. Do I believe you spend a lot of time masturbating and saving your semen "for later"? Yes.
    6 answers · 3 days ago
  • Women do you prefer a man who has matured and made it in the world on his own without a safety net or one who still lives near his mommy?

    Best answer: Once I became an adult, I preferred men who also behaved like adults.
    Best answer: Once I became an adult, I preferred men who also behaved like adults.
    8 answers · 5 days ago
  • I was a "crack baby" my birth mom gave birth to me while on crack,and i was addicted.is my life worth less then others?

    Best answer: You can get through this. There are many in that situation too who already did get through it, so you can too. Read about inspiring people who have gotten through this type of thing. Learn how to manage your issues (ADHD, anxiety, etc.) I wasn't born addicted to anything (that I know of, other than maybe... show more
    Best answer: You can get through this. There are many in that situation too who already did get through it, so you can too. Read about inspiring people who have gotten through this type of thing. Learn how to manage your issues (ADHD, anxiety, etc.) I wasn't born addicted to anything (that I know of, other than maybe cigarette smoke, which it turns out I am ALLERGIC to) but always was crying and angry and red and hard to manage, so I don't have the stories you have. Not at all. But I can tell you I've read about people like you who go far in life. It's possible!
    6 answers · 4 days ago
  • My boyfriend's brother overstaying welcome?

    Best answer: He's your future bro in law who at the moment is stronger than you. Will it be that way when you and your boyfriend move in together? If you are on the spot when buddy comes to visit, he'll have to kip on the floor and won't get a key to let himself back in if he comes home after 11pm. The two of you... show more
    Best answer: He's your future bro in law who at the moment is stronger than you. Will it be that way when you and your boyfriend move in together? If you are on the spot when buddy comes to visit, he'll have to kip on the floor and won't get a key to let himself back in if he comes home after 11pm. The two of you should make the house rules and he'll have to abide by them......providing your boyfriend puts up a united front with you.
    6 answers · 4 days ago
  • I blocked my boyfriend instead of breaking up with him. Was I wrong?

    Best answer: Yes, you should be strong enough to end the relationship instead of just trying to fade away. But he'll probably get the point anyway. Maybe in the future don't get into LDRs because those are nearly impossible even for the most devoted.
    Best answer: Yes, you should be strong enough to end the relationship instead of just trying to fade away. But he'll probably get the point anyway. Maybe in the future don't get into LDRs because those are nearly impossible even for the most devoted.
    5 answers · 3 days ago
  • My boyfriend masturbates to his mom and I don’t know what to do...?

    I don’t know what to do the porn he watches is incest and he has pictures of her by his bed side and I feel like he’s only with me cause I remind him of her... I don’t know what to do. I’m just disturbed honestly.
    I don’t know what to do the porn he watches is incest and he has pictures of her by his bed side and I feel like he’s only with me cause I remind him of her... I don’t know what to do. I’m just disturbed honestly.
    18 answers · 1 week ago
  • Why is it that parents are horrified by the death of a child?

    Best answer: Because it defies the natural order of things. Parents expect their children to outlive them.
    Best answer: Because it defies the natural order of things. Parents expect their children to outlive them.
    5 answers · 4 days ago
  • When somebody asks me a question at work theres a colleague who keeps butting in and answering. Its frustrating. How do I handle it?

    Best answer: When that person starts to answer, interrupt them and say, 'I believe they were asking me this question.' It's an assertive way of handling the situation. If it happens again, say exactly the same thing to them. They'll learn to be quiet when a question is being directed to you.
    Best answer: When that person starts to answer, interrupt them and say, 'I believe they were asking me this question.' It's an assertive way of handling the situation. If it happens again, say exactly the same thing to them. They'll learn to be quiet when a question is being directed to you.
    5 answers · 4 days ago
  • How to deal with a messy boyfriend?

    We have a baby together but we don t live togeather for the the following reasons. All I do is clean and look after the baby, and I love it, I don t even mind cleaning up after my 31yo bf. Everything can be cleaned, but it s the fact he has the audacity to throw his clothes all over and even throw his dirty... show more
    We have a baby together but we don t live togeather for the the following reasons. All I do is clean and look after the baby, and I love it, I don t even mind cleaning up after my 31yo bf. Everything can be cleaned, but it s the fact he has the audacity to throw his clothes all over and even throw his dirty underwear on my computer! Leaves the cheese out to go hard, throw ear buds in to the bath tub when theres a bin right there. - He gets me to apply for jobs for him. (he already has a job thankfully) - Get s pissed off if I ask him to look after baby. - Always says "I was going to clean up" but purposely waits for me to do it. - He eats my food. - Borrowed thousands of pounds from me. And not to be cliche, but all he s bought for baby is a dress. I love him, I m tolerant, but when I blow up about these things he say s its my fault and he dearn t do anything! He s even booked me in for a doctors appointment for being "bipolar", but I think my outbursts shouldn t be a shock. He s walking all over me and I don t know how to deal with it. I don t know what to say that I haven t already said to let him know I m serious.. He just doesn t care. Has anyone else dealt with this crap, what should I say or do?
    7 answers · 5 days ago
  • Can I stop my boyfriend smoking? Do I have the right to be angry?

    I'm fifteen and I've gotten into my first serious relationship. I've never felt this way about anyone before and we're so in love. He's just turned sixteen and he's smoked for four years. Whenever he smokes I refuse to kiss him but my friend loves giving him cigarettes even though she knows... show more
    I'm fifteen and I've gotten into my first serious relationship. I've never felt this way about anyone before and we're so in love. He's just turned sixteen and he's smoked for four years. Whenever he smokes I refuse to kiss him but my friend loves giving him cigarettes even though she knows it upsets me. If something like this upsets me then I just go really quiet and act like it's okay. I can't help but think that's he's killing himself and he's been doing it for four years so he's definitely going to get lung cancer which hurts me deeply. I've expressed to him how much I hate smoking but I've always ended it with "but I understand there's nothing I can do about it." He said he'd do it less but he likes to hang out with one of my friends and on her Instagram story, they were smoking in her attic as if they didn't care even though the knows I hate it. They looked as if they thought it was really cool to be doing it too. I refuse to kiss him after he's smoked because I hate the smell etc. Him and I were cuddling and that friend offered him a cigarette and he said no because he wanted to be near me and then she asked again and he looked at me, then the cigarette, then me again and chose the cigarette. The worse part is: My best friend said that he said he does it because it's a 'social thing' and it makes him look cool. My best friend has been my friend for five years and I know he isn't lying because that's something my boyfriend would say. My boyfriend denies this.
    21 answers · 1 week ago
  • What should I do after my boyfriend had punched me in the face?

    What should I do after my boyfriend had punched me in the face?

    Best answer: First of all, you are a victim of abuse, and the absolute best thing you can do right now is to go to a doctor or health center, and tell them you were punched by your partner. Don't be embarrassed, and don't hide it for him. It's common for someone like you to hide the injury until it's too late... show more
    Best answer: First of all, you are a victim of abuse, and the absolute best thing you can do right now is to go to a doctor or health center, and tell them you were punched by your partner. Don't be embarrassed, and don't hide it for him. It's common for someone like you to hide the injury until it's too late to get any evidence.
    PLEASE, please DON'T. All you are doing is hiding his violence, and making it easier for him to hurt you again. USE YOUR POWER- report him. Don't let him take your power away from you and make you stay silent.

    The doctor and police will want to take a picture in very good light, to be used in court. What your partner did to you is assault and battery, and is a serious offense. Unless you report him, you are covering for him. He WILL hurt you again, and if you let it go on, he will kill you. DOn't think he won't.

    Tell a trusted friend, and ask the to go with you. Tell the doctors and nurses the absolute truth, don't hold anything back. The only way you are going to have any proof is to get an exam, or you will be letting him do it again. If you need a counselor to help you, you can also get help here: www.thehotline.org or ask the police for the number of the local domestic violence victim support group.

    THis wasn't just some misunderstanding- he hurt you. That is *never* acceptable, and neither is letting it go. PLEASE- go report it.
    9 answers · 7 days ago
  • What do I do When I feel like I am making all the wrong choices?

    Best answer: You need to get in touch with yourself and try to figure out why you feel you are making all the wrong choices. Or is there someone in your life that is making you lose confidence in yourself and that could be why you are feeling this way? Don't ever let someone play with your head.
    Best answer: You need to get in touch with yourself and try to figure out why you feel you are making all the wrong choices. Or is there someone in your life that is making you lose confidence in yourself and that could be why you are feeling this way? Don't ever let someone play with your head.
    7 answers · 6 days ago
  • Tired of my wife princess attitude & want a divorce. she wants to continue so I made a list of terms and conditions. are they fair?

    1. you have to work. even as a waitress. I pay £1000 pounds just for her accommodation and bills. she needs to start paying her share. 2. Be responsible of shopping and make sure food (that I can eat) is present at home. Not only the food you like and eat. 3. Arrange holidays and pay your share in it. 4. take me... show more
    1. you have to work. even as a waitress. I pay £1000 pounds just for her accommodation and bills. she needs to start paying her share. 2. Be responsible of shopping and make sure food (that I can eat) is present at home. Not only the food you like and eat. 3. Arrange holidays and pay your share in it. 4. take me out sometimes, as I took you out all through our marriage. 5. Buy me proper gifts in occasions, not a chocolate bar.Just like I bought you expensive gifts all through the marriage. 6. call my friends wives and engage with them and invite them out and visit them to create a social life to us, not just have your own friends. 7. call my parents and family, and be nice to them. They have always been nice to you even though they hated you. 8. stop sitting there and being pretty, and wait for me to make you happy. Thrive to make me happy as I always tried and was never enough for you. 9. I will have sex only when I want to, not keep demanding it every night and complain if I am not in the mood.
    6 answers · 6 days ago