• How do I tell my children their father had an affair?

    I filed for divorce from my husband of 20 years after I found out he’s been having an affair with 2 different women (possibly more.) he’s admitted to the two I know about, I’m devastated. My kids are 16, 12, and 10 and they don’t know the reasons behind our divorce just that we are separating. How do I tell them... show more
    I filed for divorce from my husband of 20 years after I found out he’s been having an affair with 2 different women (possibly more.) he’s admitted to the two I know about, I’m devastated. My kids are 16, 12, and 10 and they don’t know the reasons behind our divorce just that we are separating. How do I tell them that their father has been having affairs with multiple women? This is their father and I know he’s done very wrong but I don’t want to be the parent who turns their kids against the other parent. Any advice on how to approach the situation?
    51 answers · 3 days ago
  • I’m carrying all the Bills?

    So, my boyfriend and I have lived together for over 3 years. He quit his job a few months back to go back to school for 4 months to pursue his fitness trainer certification. He saved money before he quit his job to cover his half of the bills. Now, he has no money and he’s in the process of taking the certification... show more
    So, my boyfriend and I have lived together for over 3 years. He quit his job a few months back to go back to school for 4 months to pursue his fitness trainer certification. He saved money before he quit his job to cover his half of the bills. Now, he has no money and he’s in the process of taking the certification exam for the 2nd time ( He failed the 1st attempt). For the past 2 months, I’ve paid all the bills on my own. My family thinks that it’s wrong of me because we are not married, and it was his choice to quit work. My family feels that I shouldn’t be the responsible one to take the fall. I have a child, annnd...we are not married..and he doesn’t seem to looking for another job I guess because he would want a job in the fitness industry..but what do you guys think about this?
    21 answers · 17 hours ago
  • What would you do if your husband did this?

    Let me start with this. My husband came home from work a couple of months ago going on about how this woman (manager) kept bragging on him & making him feel important at work. The way he was explaining it to me, his whole mood changed about it all. Meaning, he seemed all giddy talking about the situation. It... show more
    Let me start with this. My husband came home from work a couple of months ago going on about how this woman (manager) kept bragging on him & making him feel important at work. The way he was explaining it to me, his whole mood changed about it all. Meaning, he seemed all giddy talking about the situation. It was a little off putting because he never gets like that & because it was from another woman. This woman is very pretty mind you, a few years younger than we are (she’s 27) but she is a lesbian. They then texted some about work over a week or so. I told him I felt a little threatened & insecure about the situation. Ok, so my husband & I went to his company’s “night out”. There was drinking, socializing, etc. I finally met this woman & we seemed to like each other & became friends. We were all drinking & I happen to catch my husband several times with his arm around her shoulder throughout the night. When the night was over, I was pretty drunk but my husband was not. We got home (we live an hour away from where the company get together was) & I passed out. Then my husband left our home, drove all the way back to the company party, called this woman to make sure she got home ok & then proceeded to take her home & have a heart to heart talk with her about her & her girlfriend. We have been together since high school & have always been faithful. How am I supposed to get over this? I feel so hurt and disrespected. He swore nothing went on.
    27 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is pre-marital sex bad?

    Best answer: First of all, you are to be commended for caring about what God thinks and being willing to make changes in your life to please him. Because God cares about us and wants us to be happy and avoid the myriads of problems that often come from having sex before marriage, the Bible says: “For this is what God... show more
    Best answer: First of all, you are to be commended for caring about what God thinks and being willing to make changes in your life to please him.

    Because God cares about us and wants us to be happy and avoid the myriads of problems that often come from having sex before marriage, the Bible says: “For this is what God wills...that you abstain from fornication.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3) Fornication is listed as a serious sin, as are adultery, spiritism, drunkenness, idolatry, murder, and thievery.—1 Corinthians 6:9, 10; Revelation 21:8.

    By obeying God’s laws about sexual morality, we prove our love for him. (1 John 5:3) He in turn blesses those who observe his commandments.—Isaiah 48:18.
    49 answers · 4 days ago
  • How do i know when im falling out of love with my husband?

    I have been with my husband for 10 years. I miss him when im at work but aggravated when im with him. I still cater for him, but i argue with him over EVERYTHING. I started telling him what i dont like about him and hes a nice guy, he doesn t argue back. Sex isnt interesting. we have kids. Just hit me w the... show more
    I have been with my husband for 10 years. I miss him when im at work but aggravated when im with him. I still cater for him, but i argue with him over EVERYTHING. I started telling him what i dont like about him and hes a nice guy, he doesn t argue back. Sex isnt interesting. we have kids. Just hit me w the truth!! Is this normal at this length of marriage? Am i not loving him anymore??
    16 answers · 1 day ago
  • Why do guys pick some girls to be in relationships with and not others?

    Why do guys pick some girls to be in relationships with and not others?

    Best answer: When it comes to finding a suitable partner, men are drawn to women who exude confidence. It all comes down to compatibility, and she clearly brought something different to the table that really appealed to him. This doesn’t mean your life is over, of course. All it means is you need to keep searching for the right... show more
    Best answer: When it comes to finding a suitable partner, men are drawn to women who exude confidence. It all comes down to compatibility, and she clearly brought something different to the table that really appealed to him. This doesn’t mean your life is over, of course. All it means is you need to keep searching for the right guy! You may think that you’re the best thing since sliced beard, but perhaps you gave off some vibes that led this guy to believe you really weren’t relationship material.
    14 answers · 1 day ago
  • Why does my husband masturbate daily in the shower?

    I have been with my husband for a few years now and the sex life is fantastic. We are romantic and passionate and we try different things and we both agree that there is no problem with anything in our life. We are a happy married couple and we have sex almost daily. But yet I still find him sneaking masturbation... show more
    I have been with my husband for a few years now and the sex life is fantastic. We are romantic and passionate and we try different things and we both agree that there is no problem with anything in our life. We are a happy married couple and we have sex almost daily. But yet I still find him sneaking masturbation in the shower. he doesnt know I know and it s a daily thing for him. Why does he need to do it?
    43 answers · 4 days ago
  • Husband listens to his mother and does not care about my point of view, how to deal with it?

    We are 4 years into being married. He has always been attached to his parents yet I saw it only right before the wedding, sadly, did not think it would be such an issue as it is. My in-laws own their own 2-story huge house with the first and second floors connected by an indoor staircase. We are on rent but are... show more
    We are 4 years into being married. He has always been attached to his parents yet I saw it only right before the wedding, sadly, did not think it would be such an issue as it is. My in-laws own their own 2-story huge house with the first and second floors connected by an indoor staircase. We are on rent but are putting off money to get our own place. They are healthy and wealthy people and own a few businesses and do not need anyone to support them yet they never can get enough money (everyone who has been friends with them says so and now we see it) and they take my hubby's earnings. At the same time, my hubby refuses to tell me his income because he says he does not like when people control his money, which I never have and never have used it for my good. I pay for my own needs and for our 2-y.o. sons. MIL and FIL take away from my hubby to expand their business yet hubby gets and will get nothing from it, while we are trying to save up for our own place. Also, they are using my hubby's money to renovate their second floor. At the same time, MIL is trying to get us to move to the second floor and live with them. NEVER! my husband turned out to be a mommas boy. She controls his decisions and he wants me to think like her. I told him about my concerns yet he does not see any problems and says I am not a good wife if I disagree with him. I should listen and obey him.
    11 answers · 21 hours ago
  • What is your mothers maiden name?

    11 answers · 22 hours ago
  • I want to bring up his cheating in counseling?

    We are going to counseling next week. To work on our marriage problems. He has been cheating on me for a while now. But since 2019 started we got to a point where I feel like things are starting to get better. But sometimes he falls off the rails and the result is not pretty. It seems like he is forcing things to... show more
    We are going to counseling next week. To work on our marriage problems. He has been cheating on me for a while now. But since 2019 started we got to a point where I feel like things are starting to get better. But sometimes he falls off the rails and the result is not pretty. It seems like he is forcing things to go back to the way they used to be sometimes. Sometimes I can control myself some other times I get very emotional. I took counseling as last resort because I was going to file for divorce and family made me think about it over again. I was going on my own now after another argument he agreed to go to counseling thinking that they will take his side once they hear him out. The argument that happened lately left me wanting to divulge to him in front of the counselor any proof I have that he has been cheating and he can choose between her or me. And I would understand and move on if it’s not me. Because I’m through with all this suffering. My mother said to not bring it up if we will be working on our marriage. Because I will mess things up. To concentrate on fixing our relationship instead. I want to bring it up do you think I should?
    9 answers · 7 hours ago
  • Should I tell him I am moving on and dating someone?

    Best answer: If he valued the marriage he wouldn’t have cheated and his girlfriend wouldn’t even be living with him whilst he is saying he wants you back, the man is just keeping his options open. Since you live in different countries I wouldn’t even bother to tell him you are dating, he may decide to make the divorce more... show more
    Best answer: If he valued the marriage he wouldn’t have cheated and his girlfriend wouldn’t even be living with him whilst he is saying he wants you back, the man is just keeping his options open.

    Since you live in different countries I wouldn’t even bother to tell him you are dating, he may decide to make the divorce more difficult and I think it would be better to get that finalised as quickly as possible.

    Just tell him that you are never going back to him and you only want to deal with the divorce process now, if he finds out that you are dating remind him that it is none of his business anymore and that he was the cause of the marriage breakdown.
    10 answers · 20 hours ago
  • Is it illegal to spend my deployed husbands money if we’re getting a divorce?

    My husband is a marine who is currently deployed. I had been sleeping with a couple guys and somehow he managed to find out? Now he’s saying he wants a divorce and that he’s serving me with the paper work when he gets back. I am so devastated and don’t deserve this. I am 21 years old and without him I am pretty... show more
    My husband is a marine who is currently deployed. I had been sleeping with a couple guys and somehow he managed to find out? Now he’s saying he wants a divorce and that he’s serving me with the paper work when he gets back. I am so devastated and don’t deserve this. I am 21 years old and without him I am pretty much homeless. I have still been spending money out of his checking account and savings, is it illegal? We are still technically married.
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • Husband looking his ex mistress on social media?

    Best answer: Cuz he wants to make sure she isn’t gonan come after him for child support money.

    He also is hoping he will see she gave the baby up for adoption or abortion (I personally don’t believe in abortion due to morality, but yeah, in your case he probably hopes she does).

    I wouldn’t worry unless he contacts her
    Best answer: Cuz he wants to make sure she isn’t gonan come after him for child support money.

    He also is hoping he will see she gave the baby up for adoption or abortion (I personally don’t believe in abortion due to morality, but yeah, in your case he probably hopes she does).

    I wouldn’t worry unless he contacts her
    8 answers · 8 hours ago
  • My GF has become fat and moody after having our kid, how can I tell that I want a divorce?

    When I first met her she was slim and had an amazing personality. After giving birth, she’s become a bloated miserable person with swollen ankles. I can’t stand being in the room with her because she’s constantly picking fights with me. We no longer have sex or do anything but fight. This question is for guys... show more
    When I first met her she was slim and had an amazing personality. After giving birth, she’s become a bloated miserable person with swollen ankles. I can’t stand being in the room with her because she’s constantly picking fights with me. We no longer have sex or do anything but fight. This question is for guys only since women refuse to be objective and they’ll only answer with crap like “She gave you a kid” as if she didn’t want one and only did it for me.
    32 answers · 5 days ago
  • I m not a fan of kids that are not mine...so what now?

    I just now told my newly wedded wife that I dont like other peoples kids and she got very upset. She told me that I should because she has a big family with lots of kids and babies. I just cant do it. I wasn t raised to love other people s kids. I love my own but I cant hold someone s elses baby and do googly baby... show more
    I just now told my newly wedded wife that I dont like other peoples kids and she got very upset. She told me that I should because she has a big family with lots of kids and babies. I just cant do it. I wasn t raised to love other people s kids. I love my own but I cant hold someone s elses baby and do googly baby things to him/her and call thier toddlers cute and spoil them. I just cant do it. She s pissed at me and told me I have to try, but I cant change in a week or be fake with these kids....Banging my head on the wall.
    10 answers · 1 day ago
  • Wife wants me to give her ex husband a ******** while she watches?

    I said no way, so now she spends nights out with her friends. she's 32 years old and is acting like a child. What can I do?
    I said no way, so now she spends nights out with her friends. she's 32 years old and is acting like a child. What can I do?
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • Does love need to be present for one s marriage to succeed?

    My husband told me the only reason he is with me is because he is scared of how a future husband may treat our son, and that divorce carries a social stigma still. I asked him if he loved me but he just stayed silent. I said to him that this is not a good enough reason to stay if he is miserable otherwise and I d... show more
    My husband told me the only reason he is with me is because he is scared of how a future husband may treat our son, and that divorce carries a social stigma still. I asked him if he loved me but he just stayed silent. I said to him that this is not a good enough reason to stay if he is miserable otherwise and I d rather he divorce me. I don t know if I did the right thing...
    11 answers · 2 days ago