• Financially Irresponsible Spouse?

    I can honestly say that I have been taken for a idiot. I have been married for just under 6 years. Shortly after the honeymoon (and I mean on the drive home from the airport) she revealed to me that she had roughly $30k in credit card debt that she needed to pay off and wouldn't be able to save. While my... show more
    I can honestly say that I have been taken for a idiot. I have been married for just under 6 years. Shortly after the honeymoon (and I mean on the drive home from the airport) she revealed to me that she had roughly $30k in credit card debt that she needed to pay off and wouldn't be able to save. While my expectation of her has never been for her to take care of me, I've always wanted her to be responsible with money, so I took on the living expenses and her earnings went towards this debt. The short of it is that, well, after she paid the credit cards off she began to spend again, frivolously. Our apartment became cluttered. We didn't live together before marriage, but it turns out that she hoards things she buys with these cards. We were evicted from the apartment because of the hoarding. I was embareassed, and also at this point desperate to help her with this problem, and she told me that the size of the apartment was small and it contributed to the anxiety that led to the hoarding.... So...I used my life savings to buy a house. Shortly thereafter, she went behind my back and got 13 credit cards and maxed them out. We both make excellent money, but because so much goes towards credit cards, "we" have not been able to save money for emergencies or anything. She did pay for a vacation with her friends. And the house is once again littered with stuff that she buys and trash that she refuses to take out. I think I'm done.
    8 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 9 hours ago
  • I hate myself?

    Best answer: This one's rubbish, tell me the one about the three bears and the bowls of porridge instead.
    Best answer: This one's rubbish, tell me the one about the three bears and the bowls of porridge instead.
    10 answers · Other - Family & Relationships · 3 days ago
  • Why do married couples sleep together ?

    Best answer: For most people it is very pleasant to share a bed with someone you love. I always enjoyed it.
    Best answer: For most people it is very pleasant to share a bed with someone you love. I always enjoyed it.
    16 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 14 hours ago
  • Am I in an abusive marriage?

    So we’ve only been married 3 months. I’m wondering if I should try to work this out or leave. I have fibromyalgia. I’ve been with him for two years. He knows my condition. I’m in pain every single day. It takes me a good hour just to feel normal in the morning after I wake up. On the weekends he wants sex the... show more
    So we’ve only been married 3 months. I’m wondering if I should try to work this out or leave. I have fibromyalgia. I’ve been with him for two years. He knows my condition. I’m in pain every single day. It takes me a good hour just to feel normal in the morning after I wake up. On the weekends he wants sex the very moment I open my eyes. I’m very cranky from the pain so I tell him I need to wake up first so I feel better. So I just move around to allow my body to adjust from waking up. He goes to the kitchen to make coffee while I get myself together. Then, I go to hug him in the kitchen and he shrugs me off him. I ask what’s wrong and he says that he’s turned off now because I’m selfish and only want sex when it’s convenient for me. I can’t live like this in such an unaffectionate marriage. He doesn’t want to hear about how I feel. He seemed so understanding before we married. Now he calls me lazy and a quitter. Can this be worked out? Right now my pride is hurt more than anything because I’m too logical to let abuse get to me emotionally. W just see it for what it is. Should I just leave? What should I do?
    32 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • Husband bosses me around like I’m a child ? Normal ?

    I want a divorce and don’t love him- he has no sense to understand I’m serious ! Anyways, his father is an executive and was very domineering to he and his mom and siblings. My grandma paid cash for my house and he was supposed to reimburse her and never did . He claims she “bought him the house as a gift and it’s... show more
    I want a divorce and don’t love him- he has no sense to understand I’m serious ! Anyways, his father is an executive and was very domineering to he and his mom and siblings. My grandma paid cash for my house and he was supposed to reimburse her and never did . He claims she “bought him the house as a gift and it’s his house his rules and I am to obey”. He tells me what I can and can’t do what pets I can have what I can cook if he doesn’t like it we don’t have it. He often will eat Most of the food and demand to take the leftovers to work and I’ll go hungry. Don’t even suggest counseling they threw us out we are done with them. Is this normal? Why can’t he understand I don’t love him and don’t want him?
    24 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • My sister walks around naked how do I tell her to cover up a little?

    Best answer: Perhaps you should do as the Romans and start walking around naked too.
    Best answer: Perhaps you should do as the Romans and start walking around naked too.
    13 answers · Family · 21 hours ago
  • If your husband told you that the teenage boy next door just called him gay again and began crying, what would you do?

    And he tells you that he never would expected this kind of hatred -- not from him.
    And he tells you that he never would expected this kind of hatred -- not from him.
    19 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 9 hours ago
  • Is it normal to want sex everyday?

    Best answer: Well, no. If you wanted it every day, all day, you might have a problem.
    Best answer: Well, no. If you wanted it every day, all day, you might have a problem.
    10 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 11 hours ago
  • If you were forced to marry and were abused after marrige by your spouse what would you do.?

    And you don’t have kids
    And you don’t have kids
    11 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 19 hours ago
  • How to become vegetarian when your family isn't?

    I'm a 16 year old girl so I'm still living at home. My family and I have always been huge meat eaters and honestly I love meat and find it a struggle to imagine my diet without it. However as I'm getting older I'm starting to come to my own conclusions about things more than just following my... show more
    I'm a 16 year old girl so I'm still living at home. My family and I have always been huge meat eaters and honestly I love meat and find it a struggle to imagine my diet without it. However as I'm getting older I'm starting to come to my own conclusions about things more than just following my parents "just don't think about what you're eating" attitude. Whilst on the computer the other day I found a presentation about how immoral eating meat is, followed by the most repulsive snapshot from an abbatoir. This video paired with my own feelings helped consolidate how I feel about eating meat. I really don't want to eat it any more for moral reason and also for the health benefits. My parents are against me going vegetarian as they think it's just a phase and it's too much hassle to make me separate meals and they believe this diet won't provide me with the necessary nutrients. Can anyone help me out?
    26 answers · Family · 1 day ago
  • I'm unhappy after i had sex?

    Best answer: i am so sorry. my heart breaks for you. i am not religious nor do i go to church nor am i married or engaged....but i just feel like sex is such a big deal.... it should be only shared with who reciprocates the same feelings towards you, someone who values you and makes you feel special...love is not... show more
    Best answer: i am so sorry. my heart breaks for you. i am not religious nor do i go to church nor am i married or engaged....but i just feel like sex is such a big deal.... it should be only shared with who reciprocates the same feelings towards you, someone who values you and makes you feel special...love is not perfect......and i am sorry you feel what you are feeling...you be filled up with regret, you may feel used.... i know its so hard to feel so unhappy but please dont continue doing this to yourself....
    58 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 days ago
  • Is it right to be mad about this?

    So I drive a car that my stepdad bought a year ago for himself. He doesn’t really use it because he works and he has his own truck for his job . So my point is the only reason I’m allowed to use it is because I drive to where I work and my mom convinced him to let me use it . I only use it for a couple minutes a... show more
    So I drive a car that my stepdad bought a year ago for himself. He doesn’t really use it because he works and he has his own truck for his job . So my point is the only reason I’m allowed to use it is because I drive to where I work and my mom convinced him to let me use it . I only use it for a couple minutes a day and when he uses it he takes it for more than a hour . So he’s basically using up all the gas . I’m just saying, yeah sure he pays for the car insurance. The car is pretty old cause it’s from 1998 . So he paid it off. I get mad cause when I use it and use up all or half the gas I refill it and he doesn’t seem to care about wasting the gas he leaves it to almost empty. But I mean he is using his car so why have to be mad about refueling your own car . I use it to get to where I need to be and I still will refuel it to use it again. I’m just mad cause he thinks that because I work or earn money, I may have all the money in the world. I don’t know wheather I should confront him or just let it be .
    60 answers · Family · 4 days ago