Confidence is built through achievement, focus, and self-awareness.
When you make yourself face adversity, overcome it and do that enough times, you come to realize that you have within you what it takes to reach your goal. You can look back and say to yourself: I've done that or I've faced tougher...
Best answer: Confidence is built through achievement, focus, and self-awareness.
When you make yourself face adversity, overcome it and do that enough times, you come to realize that you have within you what it takes to reach your goal. You can look back and say to yourself: I've done that or I've faced tougher whatever than what I face now. That gives you a concrete base to stand on as oppose to not knowing if you can do something because you never had to or never bother to make yourself do so. You can use martial arts as a means to an end, but martial arts does NOT give you confidence. Instead, what it does is give you an obstacle course and a goal which you have to run; you have to come up with the will, passion, discipline, whatever, to make it happen.
Many people who do not have confidence tend to look too far ahead to an expectation when they should be focusing on what must be done at hand. Instead of focusing on the immediate task and coming up with solutions for problems they face here and now, they are thinking about what if they fail or what if they don't look good in front of others, or what if someone does not like them. They lose heart before they even begun. Everyone gets nervous and no one enjoys failing, but not taking even one step because of something that has yet to occur or may not even happen is the ultimate failure.
Awareness. You cannot solve a problem if you do not truly understand what the problem is. If you are not self-confident, then rather than giving it a name have you thought about why you are this way? Is it because someone told you you are not good enough and you believed it? Is it because you never stuck with anything long enough to be good at it - do you give up and quit too easily? Why? What is the real reason you do not have confidence?
Martial arts is only one tool or path for what you seek. It is not the only one. Look at sports like the NBA, NFL, etc. Ever seen a top athlete who was not confidence or even a bit cocky? Look at some of the world's top surgeons, musicians, artists, scientists, engineers, etc - they are some of the most self-confident people you will ever meet and some would argue too confident.
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