• How to make sure your kids never become cops?

    That would just be such a blow.
    That would just be such a blow.
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • Could you love an introverted child?

    6 answers · 10 hours ago
  • Am I treating my son with autism correctly?

    So, I have a son with autism who is 20 years old. He loves watching cartoons (especially Danger Mouse and Yogi Bear) and likes playing with his plushies/action figures. When he graduated from school, I put him on social security income and arranged for some services to help him learn some life skills. This one... show more
    So, I have a son with autism who is 20 years old. He loves watching cartoons (especially Danger Mouse and Yogi Bear) and likes playing with his plushies/action figures. When he graduated from school, I put him on social security income and arranged for some services to help him learn some life skills. This one woman that was assigned to him pushed him really hard and told him he needed to get a job (which he is unable to do) and that I should back off on supporting him (in other words, she was pushing him to "grow up"). She used a lot of tough love and really wanted my son to meet standards he's unable to meet. She often upset him, and I was offended by some of the things she said (no bad language, but she was very hard on him), so I stopped that service completely (he's still receiving other in-home services). I feel I'm doing a good job helping my son (the only thing that's important to me is that he's happy and healthy), but some people have disagreed (some of his school teachers treated him similarly to the woman I mentioned earlier). Am I doing the right thing?
    8 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why is my neighbor so obsessed about telling me I need to constantly spank my child?

    almost every time she sees me , she brings up how she needs to be spanked or “ beaten “ .. my 5 year old has adhd , sensory disorder and possibly on the low spectrum of autism and she knows this ! But she won’t stop. I find it creepy .. I DO discipline my daughter, it’s just spanking makes it WORSE and doesn’t do... show more
    almost every time she sees me , she brings up how she needs to be spanked or “ beaten “ .. my 5 year old has adhd , sensory disorder and possibly on the low spectrum of autism and she knows this ! But she won’t stop. I find it creepy .. I DO discipline my daughter, it’s just spanking makes it WORSE and doesn’t do anything , so she tells me I’m doing it wrong and she needs to be hit hatssr ! WTF
    12 answers · 3 days ago
  • Do you agree with the sign punishments that so many parents are doing?

    I ve seen parents on youtube do this before where they get their child to hold up a sign or wear a sandwhich board that says what they did and while a lot of people say it s abuse others say that they re doing the right thing. As for me well I think these parents are doing the right thing because grounding them and... show more
    I ve seen parents on youtube do this before where they get their child to hold up a sign or wear a sandwhich board that says what they did and while a lot of people say it s abuse others say that they re doing the right thing. As for me well I think these parents are doing the right thing because grounding them and taking away privileges doesn t always work and if they get embarrassed enough then they probably wont do it again. So do you agree with this type of discipline or do you think it s abusive?
    8 answers · 2 days ago
  • When are kids too old to be naked in front of their parents?

    Best answer: When they can use the restroom and bathe themselves.
    Best answer: When they can use the restroom and bathe themselves.
    13 answers · 4 days ago
  • My wife still accompanies our 7 year old daughter to the bathroom, too old?

    Best answer: The problem you have is far bigger than the relatively minor issue of whether a mother accompanies her daughter of 7 to the bathroom. You say that your wife reacts with a 'bad temper' if you question her behavior. That is problematic, because you will not be able to discuss anything seriously that might... show more
    Best answer: The problem you have is far bigger than the relatively minor issue of whether a mother accompanies her daughter of 7 to the bathroom.

    You say that your wife reacts with a 'bad temper' if you question her behavior. That is problematic, because you will not be able to discuss anything seriously that might challenge her views. No marriage can be happy and effective if one partner uses the threat of raging to ensure she gets her way.

    Her manipulating you this way is even worse, because as you say, your child will get upset by her raging. That sort of irresponsible behavior is child emotional abuse and against the law. Your daughter will be affected by her rages. At 7 years, a child's need for a sense of belonging and security, is very important. You cannot let this go on.

    You must talk to your wife seriously about her behavior. You don't have to be too aggressive. You can start by reassuring her that you care for her and want to live your life with her, but that explosive verbal exchanges are not the best for you or your daughter.

    Suggest that the two of you set aside some personal quiet time together every day, where you talk about your day and also about issues like the school bullying of your daughter. If you get into this habit with your wife, your relationship will improve and more serious issues will not reach the explosive state.

    In regard to your wife's accompanying your 7 year old.daughter to the toilet, it is probably not abnormal and could be culturally quite normal. The problem is not that your wife goes to the toilet with your daughter, The problem is that your daughter is being victimized by other school children, because this is happening.

    Children can be cruel. Read up on 'mobbing', which the experts have identified as a form of collective bullying of vulnerable children. Your daughter is vulnerable in a small town, because her mother is Philippino. You should discuss this vulnerability with your wife and also you should go and speak to the school head and your daughter's class teacher about the teasing and bullying, which has a racist element to it.
    13 answers · 4 days ago
  • Should I beat my 9 year old son?

    My 9 year old son and I are about to play chess. Should I beat him or should I let him win?
    My 9 year old son and I are about to play chess. Should I beat him or should I let him win?
    8 answers · 2 days ago
  • Connecting with a 6 year old?

    Me and my wife have a 6 year old boy and a 3 mounths girl. My son doesnt want to listen or learn. I know hes changing , and going to be in 1st grade. We discipline him but it seems he dont learn. Should i be more strict?Is there a way to make learning more interesting for him?what are some tips on getting him to be... show more
    Me and my wife have a 6 year old boy and a 3 mounths girl. My son doesnt want to listen or learn. I know hes changing , and going to be in 1st grade. We discipline him but it seems he dont learn. Should i be more strict?Is there a way to make learning more interesting for him?what are some tips on getting him to be more settled? If it is hard on me i know its harder on my wife?
    6 answers · 2 days ago
  • Liberal parents: What would you do if your 15 year old son came out as a neo-Nazi?

    He has Asperger’s, self harms, and hears voices occasionally. He used to be quite liberal, but he became very angry with liberals after being banned from a mock government chat server for threatening to rape children, and the mock Democratic Party controlled all 3 branches of the mock government at the time of his... show more
    He has Asperger’s, self harms, and hears voices occasionally. He used to be quite liberal, but he became very angry with liberals after being banned from a mock government chat server for threatening to rape children, and the mock Democratic Party controlled all 3 branches of the mock government at the time of his ban. So, for some reason, he decided that being angry with a small sample of liberals was a valid reason to convert to Nazism. What would you do if your son came out as a Nazi?
    14 answers · 5 days ago
  • Opinions on raising kids with no phones or tv?

    Best answer: Now that is what You call real parenting.

    My kids are going to be raised the old fashioned way as well,

    Childhood should be outside playing from dawn to dusk and not on the iPad etc etc

    That’s the way I was raised as well with good old fashioned values.
    Best answer: Now that is what You call real parenting.

    My kids are going to be raised the old fashioned way as well,

    Childhood should be outside playing from dawn to dusk and not on the iPad etc etc

    That’s the way I was raised as well with good old fashioned values.
    17 answers · 5 days ago