• Should I leave my boyfriend because months ago he undressed me when I was asleep and sick?

    Months ago I posted a question in which I described the whole situation and most of the answers justified his behaviour claiming that he did the right thing. I had high fever (39°), and he was sleeping at my house for the first time because my parents were abroad. I was alone at home and had fever. The first day... show more
    Months ago I posted a question in which I described the whole situation and most of the answers justified his behaviour claiming that he did the right thing. I had high fever (39°), and he was sleeping at my house for the first time because my parents were abroad. I was alone at home and had fever. The first day that I was sick he stood by me, gave me medicines and cooked for me. The second day the temperature raised and I really really sick, and I woke up in the middle of the night shivering, naked (without the upper part of the pj, the undershirt and bra) and when I asked him why, almost crying, he said: because you were sick and your clothes were wet and I had to. He gave me dry clothes and something to lower the temperature. He turned off the light and I felt so ashamed and angry at him and at myself because he had seen me naked. He had never seen me naked before, it was humiliating. I'm also hurting because I think that I'm mean for thinking bad about him, because he did it for good, but I don't know, it's like he isn't the perfect guy I had always thought of, I was really in love with him, but I dare you to find yourself suddenly naked and not to be angry or resent him. I always thought he was perfect but after all these months I still have nightmares about that night.
    16 answers · 16 hours ago
  • To leave wedding early?

    Hello. My partner has been in hospital this week and is now at home resting. I'm meant to be going to a wedding this weekend but as he's unwell I don't want to stay too long. Would it be rude to go to the ceremony and meal then leave? Bride is my friend but not very close anymore
    Hello. My partner has been in hospital this week and is now at home resting. I'm meant to be going to a wedding this weekend but as he's unwell I don't want to stay too long. Would it be rude to go to the ceremony and meal then leave? Bride is my friend but not very close anymore
    11 answers · 18 hours ago
  • Friend is complaining about a free dress?

    I asked my best friend to be one of my bridesmaids. She said she's happy to come to the wedding, but she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid because she wants to wear her own dress. She doesn't like the bridesmaid dresses. I said she has to wear it and she said that's why she doesn't want to be a... show more
    I asked my best friend to be one of my bridesmaids. She said she's happy to come to the wedding, but she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid because she wants to wear her own dress. She doesn't like the bridesmaid dresses. I said she has to wear it and she said that's why she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid. This escalated until she decided not to come to the wedding at all. Said I am a bad friend if I care more about a dress than her. I told her she's a bad friend if she thinks my wedding should be about her. I wasn't even having her pay for the dress! Why is she complaining?
    32 answers · 5 days ago
  • Who buys what ring for an engagement/marriage?

    Who buys the rings and surely the man cannot buy himself a marriage ring? Thanks
    Who buys the rings and surely the man cannot buy himself a marriage ring? Thanks
    17 answers · 5 days ago
  • My fiancé’s birthday is three days after our wedding. Help?!?

    Do you think our honeymoon and everything happening will be enough or do I need to maybe get something? We have the luau that night...I was planning on making a dinner reservation somewhere nice another night.
    Do you think our honeymoon and everything happening will be enough or do I need to maybe get something? We have the luau that night...I was planning on making a dinner reservation somewhere nice another night.
    17 answers · 6 days ago
  • Should wedding dresses always be white?

    I recently got engaged and I've been looking at wedding dresses. My family is really pushing for me to get a traditional white gown, but I want something a little different. I was thinking about either a blush or peach gown. Me and my Fiancé talked and he doesn't have a problem with it. It's mainly just... show more
    I recently got engaged and I've been looking at wedding dresses. My family is really pushing for me to get a traditional white gown, but I want something a little different. I was thinking about either a blush or peach gown. Me and my Fiancé talked and he doesn't have a problem with it. It's mainly just my family. I don't plan on changing my mind, but I was just wondering what other's thought on the topic. Should wedding gowns always be white?
    32 answers · 1 week ago
  • I didn't get a plus 1 to a wedding and I have a serious boyfriend that I live with. How should I approach this?

    One of my best friends' sisters is getting married and I was surprised to find out that I was invited to her wedding seeing as I am friends with her sister, not her. I know that their mother loves me and I have obviously been to their house many times and spent time with her immediate family on different... show more
    One of my best friends' sisters is getting married and I was surprised to find out that I was invited to her wedding seeing as I am friends with her sister, not her. I know that their mother loves me and I have obviously been to their house many times and spent time with her immediate family on different occasions over the years, however, it is still a little surprising. Regardless, I am flattered that they thought to invite me and I think it's a really nice gesture, however, I did not get a plus 1 on my wedding invite; I have a serious boyfriend that I live with and have been with for a little over a year now. I understand the mindset that I am not close to the bride/groom so why should I get a plus 1, BUT, isn't it a little weird to get a wedding invite without your serious significant other included? I was already going to feel uncomfortable attending in the first place because I am only going to know about 3 people there (my best friend and her parents -- all of which are going to be extremely busy all night because they are pretty much in the wedding party) -- but now I don't get to bring a guest either. I already attended the bridal shower and felt very out of place and basically sat by myself because I didn't know anyone and my friend was extremely busy making sure everything went smoothly. Yes, I understand that this wedding is NOT about me. I am just trying to get some feedback to see how you would handle the situation. I am thinking I want to decline? HELP.
    36 answers · 1 week ago
  • What to wear to the wedding?

    Have a wedding for my cousin in a few days. Their ceremony is outside, in a nice garden. The reception is in a hall/banquet room. They’re young (20 and 21) on a budget so they’re trying to keep it cheaper, but still have it nice. Is this usually a formal or semi formal wedding? It was clarified in the invitation.... show more
    Have a wedding for my cousin in a few days. Their ceremony is outside, in a nice garden. The reception is in a hall/banquet room. They’re young (20 and 21) on a budget so they’re trying to keep it cheaper, but still have it nice. Is this usually a formal or semi formal wedding? It was clarified in the invitation. What do my boyfriend and I wear? I have a plain, navy colored dress that reaches the floor. Is has spaghetti straps and a plunging neckline. (I know I should keep it modest, I will bring a jacket to cover up) What should my boyfriend wear?
    15 answers · 1 week ago
  • Is it normal that my newborn son doesn’t look like me at all?

    Everybody tells me he looks like me, but I just don’t see it. They say he has my eye color. But I’ve researched that and you truly don’t know your baby’s eye color until they’re older. My girlfriend and I had problems before we found out she was pregnant. She was talking to this other guy but she swears she didn’t... show more
    Everybody tells me he looks like me, but I just don’t see it. They say he has my eye color. But I’ve researched that and you truly don’t know your baby’s eye color until they’re older. My girlfriend and I had problems before we found out she was pregnant. She was talking to this other guy but she swears she didn’t do anything with him. I just don’t believe it though because I see more of the other guy in the baby than I do myself. Maybe the overthinking of me thinking that she’s done something with the guy might be what’s driving me away. But I feel like I need to know so are there any options I can use to find out if the baby really is mine?
    11 answers · 7 days ago
  • Is it wrong to reuse this ring?

    My mother passed away in 2012 and i got her engagement, wedding, and 1 years anniversary rings (theyre all welded together). Its very nice, about 27 diamonds on it. And i had a child with a girl whom i used said ring to proposet to. We were engaged for a few months and she cheated so we split up and i got the ring... show more
    My mother passed away in 2012 and i got her engagement, wedding, and 1 years anniversary rings (theyre all welded together). Its very nice, about 27 diamonds on it. And i had a child with a girl whom i used said ring to proposet to. We were engaged for a few months and she cheated so we split up and i got the ring back. Its a ring thats important and very sentimental to me. I was wondering if its wrong for me to use it for another woman later down the road? I feel it is, so I was gonna give it to my son when hes older. But the rings so beautiful, id love to give it to the woman I love. What are your thoughts?
    21 answers · 1 week ago
  • An amazing opportunity or my best friends wedding?!?

    She just set the date - November 2019. I am so happy for her and she's asked me to be a bridesmaid, and I've never gotten to do that - even with 4 of my siblings weddings. I have an opportunity, though to leave for a year, traveling and volunteering - it's something I have been saving for since I've... show more
    She just set the date - November 2019. I am so happy for her and she's asked me to be a bridesmaid, and I've never gotten to do that - even with 4 of my siblings weddings. I have an opportunity, though to leave for a year, traveling and volunteering - it's something I have been saving for since I've known this friend, my applications finally gone through and I've been accepted to leave in January. i wouldn't get to attend her wedding, let alone be in it. I'll only be able to leave early in the event of a serious injury or family emergency - but then i wouldn't be able to rejoin afterwards. i don't know what to do! She just told me the date, before then it was supposed to be January 2020 or October 2018. She told me over the weekend and then yesterday morning I got the acceptance email. p l e a s e help!
    15 answers · 1 week ago
  • First he got a woman pregnant and now wants to put the wedding on hold..?

    Best answer: Maybe it is a good time to put any future plans on hold. This guy.... "on and off" 10 years?! That's a lot of instability if you ask me and you guys have children in the mix? Yikes. Everyone has a breaking point when they have had enough. They allow and they allow and they allow and... show more
    Best answer: Maybe it is a good time to put any future plans on hold. This guy.... "on and off" 10 years?! That's a lot of instability if you ask me and you guys have children in the mix? Yikes.

    Everyone has a breaking point when they have had enough. They allow and they allow and they allow and eventually they can't allow anymore. Maybe this is what you're going through.
    11 answers · 1 week ago
  • My sister got engaged around the same time my bf wanted to propose...I need advice!?

    Best answer: Your sister doesn't own the entire year, season or month. You're allowed to get engaged whenever you wish. (I mean, you actually ARE engaged if you're planning to get married, so the proposal and ring would just be a formality at this point.) Yes, it'd be bad form for your BF to propose during... show more
    Best answer: Your sister doesn't own the entire year, season or month.

    You're allowed to get engaged whenever you wish. (I mean, you actually ARE engaged if you're planning to get married, so the proposal and ring would just be a formality at this point.)

    Yes, it'd be bad form for your BF to propose during your sister's proposal, or during an engagement or birthday party for them, or at their wedding. Other than that, there's no reason why your BF should delay his plans to propose. He isn't forbidden from proposing to you just because your sister happen to get there first. She's had her day in the sun and now it's over and she needs to move on.

    As far as planning your wedding day, you're also allowed to marry before her if you wish. Especially if she's taking her sweet time to set a date. You're not "stealing her thunder" by marrying in the same year as her. Marrying on the same day is obviously a no-no. She gets ONE DAY, not an entire year or season. If two close family weddings are planned for the same time frame then obviously you should take people's plans into consideration, especially if you have relatives who'd need to fly in and/or take significant time off work for both weddings. If your parents have volunteered to help pay for both weddings then you also ought to consult them to see what kind of time frame they can handle for two weddings.

    If your sister gets huffy about it, too damn bad. It's not your responsibility to coddle her ridiculous ego. If she gets mad, shrug and say, "Well, sorry you feel that way, Sis. I hope you know me well enough by now to know that I'm not doing this to upstage you." And then leave it at that. Short of putting your entire life on hold because she's a spoiled brat who can't deal with not having 100% of the attention for a whole year or two, there's nothing else you can possibly say or do to appease her ... so don't bother.

    Plus, if she's THAT "sensitive"/bratty where she'll pitch a fit if you dare to get engaged/married around the same basic time as her ... what's going to happen if you delay your engagement until after her wedding, then all of a sudden she tells you you're not "allowed" to get married because she's pregnant and therefore she and her baby need all the attention? Don't go down that road, because it'll never ever end.

    You've already delayed your engaged by FOUR MONTHS. That's MORE than enough breathing room for her. If she gets angry at you then she's a fucccckkking lunatic that your family has spoiled for FAR too long, and it's time to nip it in the bud. She's a fuccckkking adult, she can deal with it. And if not, well, that's not your problem - refer her to a professional therapist.
    16 answers · 1 week ago
  • What invitation and RSVP online service do you like best?

    My finance and I are getting married and therefore are hemorrhaging money. We were recommended Paperlesspost but that is a pay service and I can't seem to find what makes it so special. I found free evite, and it allowed me to preview the invitation but I can't preview the RSVP tool. It does have three... show more
    My finance and I are getting married and therefore are hemorrhaging money. We were recommended Paperlesspost but that is a pay service and I can't seem to find what makes it so special. I found free evite, and it allowed me to preview the invitation but I can't preview the RSVP tool. It does have three ads on the preview of the invitation, but for saving $200, my family and friends will be happy to look at three advertisements one time.
    8 answers · 1 week ago