• Who do you love the most?

    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • Does this situation sound more like a sugar baby/sugar daddy arrangement than a relationship?

    My 41 year old brother in law started dating a 20 year old back in February, she recently turned 21. They work together part time as she works as a waitress and he is the restaurant manager. Their co workers know they have something going on and that's no secret. He recently took her on a trip to Costa Rica,... show more
    My 41 year old brother in law started dating a 20 year old back in February, she recently turned 21. They work together part time as she works as a waitress and he is the restaurant manager. Their co workers know they have something going on and that's no secret. He recently took her on a trip to Costa Rica, they're there right now and have been there for a week. She has posted photos everyday but only of herself, landscapes, food and drinks. She never puts the location or that she is with my brother in law Kevin despite them being connected on Facebook and having mutual friends and co-workers. She never tags him or even mentions his name. He doesn't leave her any comments and as a matter of fact many young boys her age comment and say she's hot and flirt with her and kevin says nothing. Kevin has never been married and he has no kids so I don't know why he'd care if she shares the photos, knowing him I'd think he'd want people to see them almost as a bragging right that hes vacationing with a 21 year old who looks hot in a bikini. 2 weeks before they went on the vacation she was complaining about how much she hates people and how much her life sucks and now here they are in a tropical paradise and neither one is revealing they are with the other. Should I be concerned for him? Who do you think is the victim here? Is she being used for her body or him for his money? He's very attractive and looks 30, i cant imagine she'd be embarassed to show him off either
    19 answers · 4 days ago
  • How old were you when you lost your virginity?

    Best answer: I was 19. I'd been on my own for two years guarding myself fairly well.. quite a feat for a young girl out in the world without a safety net but I managed it. I wasn't interested in pretend love or little horny boys or creeps.. A mutual friend introduced me to a lovely adult man, 12 years my senior, well... show more
    Best answer: I was 19. I'd been on my own for two years guarding myself fairly well.. quite a feat for a young girl out in the world without a safety net but I managed it. I wasn't interested in pretend love or little horny boys or creeps.. A mutual friend introduced me to a lovely adult man, 12 years my senior, well respected in his community, who became my first lover and he was an excellent choice. We remained a couple for about a year and were very good to each other.
    13 answers · 3 days ago
  • How can I help my parents cope?

    Almost 4 weeks ago, my younger sister and brother passed away in a car accident. They were 19 and 17. It has been indescribably hard for all of us. Especially my mom. She still struggles to get out of bed most days. My dad went back to work, so it's kinda up to me to keep an eye on her during the day. I dropped... show more
    Almost 4 weeks ago, my younger sister and brother passed away in a car accident. They were 19 and 17. It has been indescribably hard for all of us. Especially my mom. She still struggles to get out of bed most days. My dad went back to work, so it's kinda up to me to keep an eye on her during the day. I dropped out of school for the semester to do so. My aunt usually takes my other two siblings during the day just so they don't have to sit at home, seeing their mom all depressed. I'm trying really hard to be strong around her. I just want her to be able to function a little. I know none of us will ever be the same, but the fact that I still have to beg her to do anything scares me. Our pastor's come to the house, dozens of friends and family members have come, so she has a great support system. What can I possibly do to help her start moving on-WITHOUT pushing her? I feel like as the oldest It's my responsibility.
    9 answers · 2 days ago
  • I feel uncomfortable with my manager following me on social media?

    Pretty self-explanatory. I have my Instagram set on non-private so anyone can follow me, but if I see a spam account or something following me I just block them manually. It's never been much of an issue to keep mine on public. Recently I saw that my manager someone found and followed me on Instagram. I usually... show more
    Pretty self-explanatory. I have my Instagram set on non-private so anyone can follow me, but if I see a spam account or something following me I just block them manually. It's never been much of an issue to keep mine on public. Recently I saw that my manager someone found and followed me on Instagram. I usually prefer to keep my work and private life separate, and I just feel kind of uncomfortable with that. I want to block her from following my account, but I don't want to hurt her feelings or worse, start any kind of bad blood. Best case scenario if I do is that she won't even notice, but what if she does? What if she treats me differently if she finds out that I blocked her from following me? I don't think she meant any harm, but I really just feel uncomfortable with it.
    5 answers · 10 hours ago
  • How do I help my boyfriend get through the death of his wife and child?

    His wife and daughter died in a wreck 20 years ago. He still struggles with it everyday. To the point where he left one Friday and I did not hear from him for two days. He lied about where he was and what he was doing and after almost a week he finally told me the truth. It was Thier anniversary and he went to the... show more
    His wife and daughter died in a wreck 20 years ago. He still struggles with it everyday. To the point where he left one Friday and I did not hear from him for two days. He lied about where he was and what he was doing and after almost a week he finally told me the truth. It was Thier anniversary and he went to the spot he proposed and Thier grave and fished in between. I was so worried about him. I don’t know if something bad had happened. He lied and said he was offshore fishing. I knew he was lying and I already thought it had something to do with them. When he finally came home after 5 days and the truth...I didn’t complain. I was glad he came back and was ok. I listened and hugged him. It’s been two weeks since he disappeared. I was mad because I didn’t know where he was and if he was ok. I told him not to be ashamed and never forget them. Since then things have been rocky. He left again last night and didn’t come back. Won’t answer anyones calls or text.he keeps saying he wants to be here but I won’t stop reminding him of his lie. Which reminds him of the whole weekend. What I’m trying to figure out is what am I suppose to do or say? Nothing? Just let him come and go as he pleases because of why? It does not seem fair to me to wonder where he is. And I don’t think he should put me in that spot no matter where he is still going through. Am I wrong? I ask myself is he using this to go do whatever. I would hope not. But here I sit. Alone. Again.
    13 answers · 4 days ago
  • What should I do about my dad (read below)?

    Best answer: Why are the contractors expecting to be paid for work that they should have completed on Thursday, but have not completed by EOB Friday? I agree that it is wrong for him to set an expectation, and then not keep it - but it was also wrong for the contractors to set up an expectation (done by EOB Thursday) and then... show more
    Best answer: Why are the contractors expecting to be paid for work that they should have completed on Thursday, but have not completed by EOB Friday?

    I agree that it is wrong for him to set an expectation, and then not keep it - but it was also wrong for the contractors to set up an expectation (done by EOB Thursday) and then not keep it (still not done by EOB Friday)


    But two wrongs do not make a right.

    There were much better ways to deal with this. you need to talk to your dad and say that you understand why he did this, he is just returning the behavior that he is getting, but point out to him that there were batter ways o deal with this, that he needs to keep his contractors reasonably happy.


    As for the firing of the employee - he is firing someone for telling the truth. It is an inconvenient truth, but the truth never the less.


    Ask him if he would like to be put in that position? If he did not want the chance that this employee would "rat" on him (not to the contractors, just to his family!) then he should not have involved him in this lie.


    The problem here is that until he sees that he handles the contractor situation badly, he will not understand the dilemma he put his employee under, and until he understand that dilemma he can not empathize with the employee.


    So you need to work on getting him to understand that the bad behavior of the contractors does not justify his bad behavior. You have seen enough of the "reasoning" here to be able to recognize the different fallacies in his excuses, and know how to counter them. Just as long as you can keep it calm and try to not let it get adversarial.


    Once you have that, they you can work on getting him to understand the bad position he put himself in, and the huge dilemma e put his employee in.


    Once he sees that you need to make it clear that he needs to apologize to the employee, and offer to rehire them. Hopefully this behavior is sufficiently far from the normal that they will want to come back.
    14 answers · 4 days ago
  • Would you be in a relationship with someone who works 10-13 hours each day and could be on call or work weekends?

    Say if someone work from 6.30 am to 6.30pm would you be OK with that or get fed up
    Say if someone work from 6.30 am to 6.30pm would you be OK with that or get fed up
    8 answers · 2 days ago
  • My bofriend is having affairs with 60 year old women and this has destroyed me pshycologically. Anyone can help with advice?

    Best answer: The advice is to move on with your life. This man is clearly an individual with serious mental issues, probably coming from his troubled childhood. Maybe sex abuse by an older woman, mabye raised by a single mother who was exposing him to sexual activities, maybe walking naked in the house, maybe bringing her... show more
    Best answer: The advice is to move on with your life. This man is clearly an individual with serious mental issues, probably coming from his troubled childhood. Maybe sex abuse by an older woman, mabye raised by a single mother who was exposing him to sexual activities, maybe walking naked in the house, maybe bringing her female friends who indulged in sexual activities/behaviours in front of him as a child or even including him as a child. This man needs to see a doctor and seek medical help until is not too late. A normal 47 year old man likes youthful women not elderly.
    6 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should I break up with him?

    Best answer: It sounds from what you have put that he is stringing you along so you have to ask yourself if this is what you want. Whilst marriage is not everything these days, if someone proposes to you without a ring they were either drunk at the time or were just seeing what you would say. Sorry to say this but id challenge... show more
    Best answer: It sounds from what you have put that he is stringing you along so you have to ask yourself if this is what you want.
    Whilst marriage is not everything these days, if someone proposes to you without a ring they were either drunk at the time or were just seeing what you would say.
    Sorry to say this but id challenge this man and see why he wont make it official and go from there. Do it in a tactful way so as not to cause an argument but try to get it addressed for your own minds sake.
    8 answers · 4 days ago
  • What do I have to do.no way out of this situation?

    What do I have to do.no way out of this situation?

    what to do my mom washed the pans and everything in the kitchen with steel wool and now everything sticks and burns underneath. but I try too much so it doesn't burn but still sticks . and I can use oil my dad doesn't let me .also if I add oil it doesn't help. and my brother says Teflon give you cancer.... show more
    what to do my mom washed the pans and everything in the kitchen with steel wool and now everything sticks and burns underneath. but I try too much so it doesn't burn but still sticks . and I can use oil my dad doesn't let me .also if I add oil it doesn't help. and my brother says Teflon give you cancer. so what to do eat food burnt from underneath or add Teflon to them? what do I do? I told my mom she said very well that I washed away the Teflon (none stick) it gives you cancer. also, they say if food burns it will give you cancer. and if I use other than oil my dad will annoy me and also no lubricant help without Teflon. also if I use high heat it will smell bad burn food horribly this time. also if I use and not burn it will stick and my mom says hay I washed that stuck food like she is proud.here is the picture of that **** she uses to ruin them pans and everything.
    10 answers · 4 days ago
  • Why do people say 27 is almost 30 it's not 27 is 3 years away from 30 3 years is a long time?

    Best answer: 3 years isn't all that long. You ARE close to 30 at age 27. If you were only like 20, then nah. You wouldn't be "almost" 30 because you'd still have ALL your 20s to get through first. At 27, you'll soon be exiting the 20s and entering the 30s.
    Best answer: 3 years isn't all that long. You ARE close to 30 at age 27. If you were only like 20, then nah. You wouldn't be "almost" 30 because you'd still have ALL your 20s to get through first. At 27, you'll soon be exiting the 20s and entering the 30s.
    5 answers · 1 day ago
  • What are you known for in your family ?

    I am known for throwing elaborate dinner parties especially around fall.
    I am known for throwing elaborate dinner parties especially around fall.
    25 answers · 1 week ago
  • Adult children being controlled?

    How do you see this. We are all adults with husbands, wives, children, grandchildren, yet our mother still decides what is appropriate for us to spend for each and every occasion she sees fit. So, when Uncle George retires, she says "You each owe me such and such for your part for his gift"..the gift she... show more
    How do you see this. We are all adults with husbands, wives, children, grandchildren, yet our mother still decides what is appropriate for us to spend for each and every occasion she sees fit. So, when Uncle George retires, she says "You each owe me such and such for your part for his gift"..the gift she chooses as well. Same with birthdays, funerals, and every other event. I feel that adults should be able to decide what, when and how much they want to spend or be involved in, and let each family decide on their own if they want to partake, not feel obligated to do so. She also doesn't consider what our spouses may think about it and many of them are not big gift givers within their own families.
    6 answers · 4 days ago
  • What’s the best way to address roommate who’s not helping pay the bills?

    I moved in with her last year and we both agreed we’d split the bills when we got the place together and signed the lease. But she’s hardly paid me any of the money from her half since we moved in and I don’t know how to really talk to her about it because she likes to make excuses and she’s my sister so I don’t... show more
    I moved in with her last year and we both agreed we’d split the bills when we got the place together and signed the lease. But she’s hardly paid me any of the money from her half since we moved in and I don’t know how to really talk to her about it because she likes to make excuses and she’s my sister so I don’t want to have a huge fight over it casue then I’ll have to talk about it to my whole family and I want to avoid that. I said something awhile back about it and she finally gave me a little bit but then she never gave me anymore after that. Now that the lease is about up idk if I should make her leave or what to do. Honestly any advice would help
    6 answers · 4 days ago