• Agree or disagree?

    Just by living, people hurt others without even realizing it. So long as humanity exists, hate will also exist. There is no peace in this cursed world. War is just a crime paid for by the pain of the defeated
    Just by living, people hurt others without even realizing it. So long as humanity exists, hate will also exist. There is no peace in this cursed world. War is just a crime paid for by the pain of the defeated
    14 answers · 1 day ago
  • Are you lonely most of the time?

    Best answer: I'm rarely lonely and those times when I am I have my memories.
    Best answer: I'm rarely lonely and those times when I am I have my memories.
    130 answers · 6 days ago
  • What is immoral about incest as long as it is between adults consensually?

    I was raised non-practicing Jewish. I believe in God but am not of any faith. I believe in choice. For example I am a believer in not pushing your religion onto the law books. I support LGBT and Freedom of Religion. So I don't see why two adults, even if related, can't have sexual relations if they choose.... show more
    I was raised non-practicing Jewish. I believe in God but am not of any faith. I believe in choice. For example I am a believer in not pushing your religion onto the law books. I support LGBT and Freedom of Religion. So I don't see why two adults, even if related, can't have sexual relations if they choose. So while I would not have sex with a family member what would be wrong if I wanted to? Like my Dad is a widower. What would be wrong, as weird as it sounds, if he and I had father-son sex since I am an adult? Not that I would do that but if a father and adult son wanted to why should we stop them? Why is it against the law? Same with father and adult daughter sex or even marriage. Shouldn't marriage equality be to all adults? What is wrong with incest as long as we are not planning on conceiving? I know there is the risk to offspring but that is what birth control is for in incest relationships? Obviously I am only talking about adult and consensual relations.
    76 answers · 1 week ago
  • My brother moved back home with our mom but don't pay rent. Shouldn't he be removed from her will?

    Best answer: You want the money & you want to oust him out. But he could argue that his need is greater. I'm concerned that you haven't asked about ways to help improve his mental health. You seem just concerned in maximising your own inheritance. I also wonder if your word 'soblings' is a deliberate... show more
    Best answer: You want the money & you want to oust him out. But he could argue that his need is greater. I'm concerned that you haven't asked about ways to help improve his mental health. You seem just concerned in maximising your own inheritance.

    I also wonder if your word 'soblings' is a deliberate typo to suggest crying siblings, & to win yourself sympathy.

    Sorry, but to me you seems greedy & like you want your mothers money for yourself.

    Maybe it should be your mother's aim in her will to try & equalise the financial & social differences between all her children. So maybe your brother should get the lot, to raise him to the state you're already at.

    That may not seem fair, but no doubt the state his life is in compared to yours doesn't seem fair to him either. He may see all the rest of you, with your happy marriages, your well paying jobs, your lovely houses & so much else, & think why am I missing out on all that.

    If his own personality defects have put him where he is & destroyed his marriage maybe the moral thing to do is to use the money to help him back to a point where he's facing the rest of his life with the confidence you're facing the rest of yours? Do you actually NEED the money?

    You say you are Godly people, but would God want you to kick someone who's already down, or to help him on the difficult path back up? I think we all know the answer to that.

    Don't give the money to him direct, as in his current mental state he may not be able to use it properly to turn his life around. Rather, give it to someone or an organisation that can do that job for him. Then, if successful, you can rejoice that your brother, who was lost, has been saved.
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • I insulted someone while drunk at a party.I apologized but it appears, the resentment is still there. What to do?

    Best answer: You were drinking and not in complete control of what you were saying. But you did apologize so you did the right thing. If that person can not accept you apology and realize that you were drinking then they have a problem. Next time you are drinking watch what you say. And just move on. You can't change... show more
    Best answer: You were drinking and not in complete control of what you were saying.
    But you did apologize so you did the right thing. If that person can not
    accept you apology and realize that you were drinking then they have
    a problem. Next time you are drinking watch what you say. And just
    move on. You can't change this persons mind.You have insulted them
    and they won't forgive you.
    17 answers · 4 days ago
  • 40 year old college roommate?!??

    I recently got a new roommate for the change of semester. I expected to get somebody younger, but ended up with someone who is over 40 years old woth a husband and kids. Should I apply for a reassignment? I want to be nice and I understand that she is entitled to her education, but me and my roommates are 19. And... show more
    I recently got a new roommate for the change of semester. I expected to get somebody younger, but ended up with someone who is over 40 years old woth a husband and kids. Should I apply for a reassignment? I want to be nice and I understand that she is entitled to her education, but me and my roommates are 19. And we do party alot and we can get really loud. I don’t want to feel like we need to be restricted in our own dorm apartment. But I definitely don’t want to be mean and complain, but I feel really uncomfortable. What should I do?? I’m very torn.
    9 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is love finite or infinite? Opinions/thoughts?

    I m also curious how you see it in relationship to polyamory/non-monogamy. No negativity, just rational concepts and debates
    I m also curious how you see it in relationship to polyamory/non-monogamy. No negativity, just rational concepts and debates
    4 answers · 2 hours ago
  • My finance wants to start trying for our second child however everyone is telling me I am experiencing domestic abuse..?

    Best answer: Chloe, this is abuse. he is preventing you from living the life you want. is he your father or your partner? what happens if you don't listen to him. you seem to want to submit but have issues with it. I'm a lover of BDSM how am i to know this isn't what you want. if it is what you want then no this... show more
    Best answer: Chloe, this is abuse. he is preventing you from living the life you want. is he your father or your partner? what happens if you don't listen to him. you seem to want to submit but have issues with it. I'm a lover of BDSM how am i to know this isn't what you want. if it is what you want then no this isn't abuse.

    Emotional abuse is used to control and dominate the other person, do you feel controlled and dominated. i mean you can't leave the house. do you want to?

    here are 30 signs.
    1. They humiliate you, put you down, or make fun of you in front of other people.
    2. They regularly demean or disregard your opinions, ideas, suggestions, or needs.
    3. They use sarcasm or “teasing” to put you down or make you feel bad about yourself.
    4. They accuse you of being “too sensitive” in order to deflect their abusive remarks.
    5. They try to control you and treat you like a child. <-- this one sounds like you for sure!!! at least from what you typed.
    6. They correct or chastise you for your behavior. <-- this one too!!!
    7. You feel like you need permission to make decisions or go out somewhere. <-- you really said those words.
    8. They try to control the finances and how you spend money. <-- that also sounjds like what you typed.
    9. They belittle and trivialize you, your accomplishments, or your hopes and dreams.
    10. They try to make you feel as though they are always right, and you are wrong. <-- yeah this one too.
    11. They give you disapproving or contemptuous looks or body language.
    12. They regularly point out your flaws, mistakes, or shortcomings.
    13. They accuse or blame you of things you know aren't true.
    14. They have an inability to laugh at themselves and can't tolerate others laughing at them.
    15. They are intolerant of any seeming lack of respect.
    16. They make excuses for their behavior, try to blame others, and have difficulty apologizing. <-- blaming your friend
    17. The repeatedly cross your boundaries and ignore your requests. <-- you never mentioned if you have boundries so who knows
    18. They blame you for their problems, life difficulties, or unhappiness.
    19. They call you names, give you unpleasant labels, or make cutting remarks under their breath.
    20. They are emotionally distant or emotionally unavailable most of the time.
    21. They resort to pouting or withdrawal to get attention or attain what they want.
    22. They don't show you empathy or compassion. <-- dose he do this
    23. They play the victim and try to deflect blame to you rather than taking personal responsibility.
    24. They disengage or use neglect or abandonment to punish or frighten you. <-- not sure
    25. They don't seem to notice or care about your feelings. <-- clearly unless this is what you want
    26. They view you as an extension of themselves rather than as an individual.
    27. They withhold sex as a way to manipulate and control.
    28. They share personal information about you with others.
    29. They invalidate or deny their emotionally abusive behavior when confronted. <-- thats a good one. my spouse i thought was doing this so when i called him out he said sorry he can see how that would be and his behavoir changed to reflect that i didn't tell him to stop i just said i don't like how your treating me.
    30. They make subtle threats or negative remarks with the intent to frighten or control you.
    17 answers · 4 days ago
  • How do I stop thinking about him?

    We had an affair over a year and now I realize he never felt the same way as I did. He complained how he’s unhappily married and going to get a divorce. I recently got divorced but about 3 months ago he told me she’s pregnant but he doesn’t want her to have the baby but now I am trying to stop seeing him. I miss... show more
    We had an affair over a year and now I realize he never felt the same way as I did. He complained how he’s unhappily married and going to get a divorce. I recently got divorced but about 3 months ago he told me she’s pregnant but he doesn’t want her to have the baby but now I am trying to stop seeing him. I miss him so much. My body yearns for him. It’s been 3 months since I seen him and I’m trying not to give in.
    8 answers · 2 days ago
  • Friends boyfriend cheated the first month of the relationship?

    Best answer: NO she should not confront him.

    She should immediately DUMP him.

    He obviously cares nothing for her because if he did he would not cheat on her.

    Poseidon
    Best answer: NO she should not confront him.

    She should immediately DUMP him.

    He obviously cares nothing for her because if he did he would not cheat on her.

    Poseidon
    5 answers · 6 hours ago
  • Do I reply to childish behaviour?

    More details not trolling please help. I was talking to a guy I like who does not speak English well. After telling him I wanted to end things because of distance. A week later I humbly apologized and told him I missed him and I would try if he was okay with this. Of course His reply was "I threw it... show more
    More details not trolling please help. I was talking to a guy I like who does not speak English well. After telling him I wanted to end things because of distance. A week later I humbly apologized and told him I missed him and I would try if he was okay with this. Of course His reply was "I threw it through" (thought it threw?) I said what is it? And he said "The best whay to make somebody remember you borrow money from them HAHAHAHAHAH" so I was confused and asked what he meant, he said " I don't know babe." So ignored him. What just happened...i have never asked him for money haha
    5 answers · 16 hours ago
  • A mother and father tortured their kids for 29 years. Where was God?

    Best answer: Watching all the sexual abuse along with all the priests who used to abuse kids but seeked forgiveness so got into heaven. But the kids they abused who maybe left religion afterwards all went to hell. A better question is cancer in kids? On a side note god did not save these kids I find it disgusting that people... show more
    Best answer: Watching all the sexual abuse along with all the priests who used to abuse kids but seeked forgiveness so got into heaven. But the kids they abused who maybe left religion afterwards all went to hell. A better question is cancer in kids? On a side note god did not save these kids I find it disgusting that people claim he did. A girl planned her escape for two years and had to suffer for two years until she got her chance
    15 answers · 5 days ago
  • Uncaring husband or just letting her get it on her own?

    We live on the east coast (NC) which just got hit by the massive winter storm. Everything is pretty much snowed in and iced over. My wife decided that she couldn't just sit at home and enjoy the idea of working from home in her pj's. She's gotta go out and drive in it or go to the store in all this... show more
    We live on the east coast (NC) which just got hit by the massive winter storm. Everything is pretty much snowed in and iced over. My wife decided that she couldn't just sit at home and enjoy the idea of working from home in her pj's. She's gotta go out and drive in it or go to the store in all this snow and ice. I have an ice scrapper in the back of my SUV. I'm currently sitting in the bed, still with my pjs on and she tells me that the doors are frozen shut on my truck so she can't get in to get the ice scrapper. But she does say the tailgate will life up. The ice scrapper in in the floor of the 3rd row seating. She looks at me and I look at her. Then I say, "well, just climb over the seat to get the scrapper." She looks at me and mumbles, "You expect me to climb over the seat? What kind of man did I marry?" I'm sorry but women kill me saying they can do anything a man can do or they expect the same pay as a man when working the same job but there are just some things they aren't going to do since they have a man. I don't expect her to tear down a transmission but is climbing over a seat to get an ice scrapper beneath her as a woman, especially since she has a husband? Am I an uncaring husband who won't get up, get dressed, go outside, and climb over a seat to get an ice scrapper so my wife can go drive in all this snow and ice?
    17 answers · 5 days ago
  • Did I do the right thing?

    My dad passed away, I told my my than boyfriend. He ignored me for a month. On his birthay, I went to his place with a cake and Apple Watch. I knocked on the door, his female roommate answered, he (JC) comes to the door and says "Who s Jasmyne?!" I remained silent and heard his male roommate saying how I... show more
    My dad passed away, I told my my than boyfriend. He ignored me for a month. On his birthay, I went to his place with a cake and Apple Watch. I knocked on the door, his female roommate answered, he (JC) comes to the door and says "Who s Jasmyne?!" I remained silent and heard his male roommate saying how I am a punk for knocking and leaving. I knocked again and the female comes again and say he isn t there. I went outside and cried. I called the cops b/c he had my PS3. The cops come and they confront him. The cop(s) asked JC for his ID and he mummbled something, the cop said "Are you retarded or something?!" JC got angry and asked why he gotta call him retarded. The cop asked is he high, snorting coke, is he paranoid or wanted. After the whole confrontation, the cop said "What is a nice girl doing with a asshole like that?" Anyways, on my way home. I messaged him on Insta explaining to him I was hurt for what he did. He replied it s not safe for me, he did something. His final words were "I ll talk to you another time." 2 days after that, he blocked me. I witnessed his behavior changing towards me after I gave him my virginity. I told him that my biggest fear was to have sex and the guy leave shortly after that.
    6 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why do they keep blaming the woman who had an affair with a married man ? Shouldn’t they realize that his wife might be a bad woman ?

    They call her as a home wrecker , witch etc but shouldn’t they realize that why they would need a married man to leave his wife ..doesn’t tat mean he is not happy with his wife ? Can’t a man have happiness with the woman he likes or stuck with a witch forever ?
    They call her as a home wrecker , witch etc but shouldn’t they realize that why they would need a married man to leave his wife ..doesn’t tat mean he is not happy with his wife ? Can’t a man have happiness with the woman he likes or stuck with a witch forever ?
    11 answers · 5 days ago
  • My GF is MAD at me because I made her get an abortion? But she's the one who walked herself into the clinic, not me?

    SHE COMPLETELY BLAMES ME FOR EVERYTHING. Why does she let herself get manipulated by me if she wanted to keep it? I just said let's focus on school first better BECAUSE we both still live with our parents even though we are in our late 20's. But, we come from a latin family so its normal not to move out... show more
    SHE COMPLETELY BLAMES ME FOR EVERYTHING. Why does she let herself get manipulated by me if she wanted to keep it? I just said let's focus on school first better BECAUSE we both still live with our parents even though we are in our late 20's. But, we come from a latin family so its normal not to move out until you get married. She didn't want to live with my family even though they accepted the pregnancy, I was the one I admit, acted like a jerk, but I honestly thought she would keep it anyway. Well, she didn't and told me she got it done to seek revenge on me for not being supportive. She also said she did not want to live with both me and my family under the same roof. So who really is the ungrateful one here? They welcomed her with open arms and she refused. So WHY is she trying to make ME feel guilty for causing her to go get an abortion?????
    7 answers · 3 days ago