• Is it normal when you've been a caring person to eventually stop?

    I don't know what happened to me. I use to be a caring person but now if the other person does not act in a similar way I feel very annoyed and like I'd prefer to take back the energy I feel was wasted on them. I did not use to be like this and wouldn't have even thought about what I got in return. I... show more
    I don't know what happened to me. I use to be a caring person but now if the other person does not act in a similar way I feel very annoyed and like I'd prefer to take back the energy I feel was wasted on them. I did not use to be like this and wouldn't have even thought about what I got in return. I think it started when I was very kind to some people and then they threatened my life and did other things that showed awful behaviour, another person manipulated money out of me and then situations kept happening were I would care about someone but they'd be evil or take advantage. Now I don't feel obliged to do anything for anyone because I feel I'll either get nothing back and feel extremely drained and tired from helping them or that they'll manipulate me or expect it 24/7 or something else. Is this a normal progressive thing with age, or something bad that I can correct? I no longer feel good helping people and getting people to pay me to do any work and not do it for free feels like getting blood out of a stone.
    20 answers · 3 days ago
  • This is why I can't deal with people anymore?

    I'm in my 30s, and my experience has boiled down to this: because I have a certain "look", people often have preconceptions of me that lead to antagonistic behavior. Basically, they scapegoat me. If I don't like something, they think I'm being "difficult". They don't respect my... show more
    I'm in my 30s, and my experience has boiled down to this: because I have a certain "look", people often have preconceptions of me that lead to antagonistic behavior. Basically, they scapegoat me. If I don't like something, they think I'm being "difficult". They don't respect my (RIGHT) to boundaries, preferences, and needs. We ALL have them, but it seems like I pay the highest price for it. I know it sounds weird, but I do believe we all have "auras", and this is mine. People either want me to be compliant (which compromises me!!!), or nothing at all. Thoughts?
    6 answers · 6 hours ago
  • How to be happy without being in a relationship?

    I find it hard to be happy and I feel empty if I don’t have a man in my life how can I be happy again and get out of this depressed state
    I find it hard to be happy and I feel empty if I don’t have a man in my life how can I be happy again and get out of this depressed state
    9 answers · 24 hours ago
  • How to stop compulsively behaving emotionless?

    I'm not emotionless, I just think I've got hurt so many times it's an automatic response to avoid any sort of emotional connection with anyone. I don't even look at girls the same way anymore. Even if the girl is pretty, smart and brings up an interesting topic I just reply straight-up in a very... show more
    I'm not emotionless, I just think I've got hurt so many times it's an automatic response to avoid any sort of emotional connection with anyone. I don't even look at girls the same way anymore. Even if the girl is pretty, smart and brings up an interesting topic I just reply straight-up in a very cold manner which usually kills the conversation instantly... I'd like to change that, but don't know how... It's been going on for about a year.
    6 answers · 1 day ago
  • What to do about feeling worthless being away from your homeland for two decades?

    Best answer: Can't you visit or Skype or FaceTime on Facebook??
    You need to deal with your rage
    Best answer: Can't you visit or Skype or FaceTime on Facebook??
    You need to deal with your rage
    4 answers · 21 hours ago
  • How do I develop psychopathic traits?

    Best answer: No. Don't become bitter. Those people are psychopaths because certain areas of their brain don't communicate with other areas. You don't want that. THAT won't make you happier. You just have to be careful with who you trust or fall in love with. Eventually, someone will come along who appreciates a... show more
    Best answer: No. Don't become bitter. Those people are psychopaths because certain areas of their brain don't
    communicate with other areas. You don't want that. THAT won't make you happier.
    You just have to be careful with who you trust or fall in love with. Eventually, someone
    will come along who appreciates a caring person like you. Hang in there. You have
    a beautiful empathetic heart.
    7 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why do I hate violence against women, but not men?

    Best answer: I hate violence against both men and women. May be I am a bit more worried about women than men due to obvious reasons that everyone should know. Does that make me a white knight? I don't care.
    Best answer: I hate violence against both men and women. May be I am a bit more worried about women than men due to obvious reasons that everyone should know. Does that make me a white knight? I don't care.
    14 answers · 3 days ago
  • Is it normal that I want to completely isolate myself from society?

    I have no longer the feeling of being with other people, I just want to be completely left alone. I'm definitely introverted, which I hear is okay, but is it common to want to isolate yourself from society? I do not want any friends in my life any longer and I wish to be alone for the rest of my life. I hate... show more
    I have no longer the feeling of being with other people, I just want to be completely left alone. I'm definitely introverted, which I hear is okay, but is it common to want to isolate yourself from society? I do not want any friends in my life any longer and I wish to be alone for the rest of my life. I hate talking or interacting with people, it's painfully awkward unless it's necessary to communicate with them. I've been trying to cut off my friends completely and it seems to be working, which I'm happy about. Does anyone else have the same feeling or is there just something wrong with me mentally?
    23 answers · 6 days ago
  • I don't know who I am?

    This may sound strange, but I don't know who I am as a person? All I know is from a very young age, I've always pretended to be other people, whether it be my friends, characters from movies. So for example, if I like a character from a movie, lets say Katniss. I'll envision myself as Katniss, I'll... show more
    This may sound strange, but I don't know who I am as a person? All I know is from a very young age, I've always pretended to be other people, whether it be my friends, characters from movies. So for example, if I like a character from a movie, lets say Katniss. I'll envision myself as Katniss, I'll have her face in my head and I'll act like her, I'll speak like her. Make the same facial expressions, mannerisms, tones. I've realized I do this with a lot of people, I just act like some one else. Its so strange that even just after watching a film, and a character I just happen to like, I'll just envision myself as as the character straight after the film. There hasn't been one day where I haven't envisioned myself as someone else, or pictured their face in my mind. I genuinely don't know who I am because I pretend to be other people. it can switch throughout the day, lets say on Monday, at 7pm-10pm I was Katniss. 8pm-9pm I'm the Joker. So my sister says I'm weird cause I have multiple ''personalities'' cause I'm acting as different people. Am i the only one who does this? How do I stop?
    7 answers · 47 mins ago
  • Which one of the royals has the best personality.?

    Best answer: Harry, he has been through so much over the years I'm sure we all identify with him. except for his Nazi uniform which I thought was in rather poor taste, but no doubt he has blips due to not having a clearly identified father figure.
    Best answer: Harry, he has been through so much over the years I'm sure we all identify with him. except for his Nazi uniform which I thought was in rather poor taste, but no doubt he has blips due to not having a clearly identified father figure.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • I absolutely hate being a lesbian and I want to kill myself?

    I don't want to be a lesbian. And don't give me that "date a man" bullshit. I'm 18, never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, never had sex. I'm fu*king terrified that i'll never meet ANYONE and that i will die with no dating or sexual experience. I don't know how to meet girls,... show more
    I don't want to be a lesbian. And don't give me that "date a man" bullshit. I'm 18, never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, never had sex. I'm fu*king terrified that i'll never meet ANYONE and that i will die with no dating or sexual experience. I don't know how to meet girls, and it makes me so depressed that I can't date all the pretty girls i see because they will most likely be straight. I also have depression, and it makes everything so much worse. I'm scared that i will end up lonely with no one in my 20's and even worse in my 30's. I don't want people to know that i'm single because of my shi*ty dating pool. I honestly can't take it anymore. There is no hope.
    22 answers · 5 days ago
  • If you deal with a narcissist daily, How do you disarm them?

    Best answer: By suddenly becoming busy every day they start up.
    You can also ask them a question,then agree.
    Best answer: By suddenly becoming busy every day they start up.
    You can also ask them a question,then agree.
    7 answers · 6 hours ago
  • What is it with me. I am a friendly considerate guy, but was never able to make real friends.?

    Now I am 65. and wish I could finally die, . but too afraid to commit suicide.. and running out of savings , even with a part time job.
    Now I am 65. and wish I could finally die, . but too afraid to commit suicide.. and running out of savings , even with a part time job.
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • How to make friends when you suffer social anxiety and low self esteem?

    A lot of people label me as antisocial because I’m quiet. I’m not antisocial, I’m just don’t know if people like me. I’ve been picked on throughout high school years for my looks. That made me really shy and introverted. I’m afraid that people will mock me if I just walk up to them and try to be friendly. I had... show more
    A lot of people label me as antisocial because I’m quiet. I’m not antisocial, I’m just don’t know if people like me. I’ve been picked on throughout high school years for my looks. That made me really shy and introverted. I’m afraid that people will mock me if I just walk up to them and try to be friendly. I had orientation for a new job that I start this Sunday. All of the people kept asking why I was so quiet and getting an attitude. I mostly sit and observe. I don’t really like to interact with people that seem drama filled and these people were already gossiping about each other, loud, etc. They didn’t seem nice. I don’t know how I can fake being outgoing. I just can’t do that. I want to make friends but I don’t want to come off as antisocial were they don’t like me. How can I build confidence? What ways can I make new friends?
    6 answers · 3 days ago
  • Why everyone bullies?

    Why do people bully everyone and everyone gets bullied back? What is the concept of making another human being feel bad, and making yourself feel good by doing it. Everybody gets bullied, kids, parents, co-workers each and everyone but why is the simplest rule as said on the bible (christianity) "love thy... show more
    Why do people bully everyone and everyone gets bullied back? What is the concept of making another human being feel bad, and making yourself feel good by doing it. Everybody gets bullied, kids, parents, co-workers each and everyone but why is the simplest rule as said on the bible (christianity) "love thy neighbor as you love thyself" so hard to do, its so simple yet so hard for everyone. Or Is it just because of the lack of REAL PURE empathy? Yes people have felt sympathy and empathy but the reality that we will never ever feel each others legit feelings or what actually the person felt because simply we are not them. All we can do is describe that feeling and associate the same circumstances, but still everyone is an individual and everyone feels differently, the issue that one person will never feel what another felt or think or even see that persons perspective, unless you miraculously is the other person. Going back to the question, how does bullying make everyone feel good about themselves? Just because we cannot legitly feel what that person's going through? It is kinda **** up to know, that we can never trully describe every pain and let them feel it as how we felt it because they are simply another human individual. And an individual will think of themselves first. Love is the opposite of pain, but i think individuality is what usually is the obstacle of love. Two people or any lovers can never be one, unless they become eachother.
    6 answers · 3 hours ago
  • Dammit, is this really what is wrong in my marriage? Please tell me I'm wrong. If I'm right, WTH am I supposed to do if I refuse?

    Hi, it's UV. Don't go into instant hate mode, hear me out today. My wife is a destroyer of dreams. She told me that when she was a little girl she questioned God's existence in the middle of church because nothing made logical sense. She also, at 8 years old, questioned Santa having time to go to all... show more
    Hi, it's UV. Don't go into instant hate mode, hear me out today. My wife is a destroyer of dreams. She told me that when she was a little girl she questioned God's existence in the middle of church because nothing made logical sense. She also, at 8 years old, questioned Santa having time to go to all the kids houses in one night and destroyed Xmas for herself. She also questioned gender norms since she could enjoy G.I.Joes just as much as her older brother. Basically, my wife is a free thinking truth seeker (like me), only in her case she rejects EVERYTHING she doesn't understand. She is detail driven and can't be tricked to believe anything she doesn't want to. Enter love.... I know we're going to debate this, but love isn't real. Romantic love is just a culturally programmed fantasy driven by corporations to sell products/services that plays with our emotions, sexual love is nothing more than primal instincts of dominance and submission due to a competitive temperament and hormones. Even mature love is really just a declared monogamy with morals and ethics keeping it that way. Love isn't real. But it's my job to make it seem real, isn't it? I stopped believing in love years ago. I don't do cards, flowers, dates, sex, anything. And she never did this stuff, it was always me pampering her. Our first months was me doing all the work to keep the "love" alive. Nothing's changed has it? It's my job to convince her love is real, isn't it? Please tell me I'm wrong...
    6 answers · 4 hours ago
  • How can I overcome my depression?

    I’m so bitter, sad, angry, regretful, and depressed. I really wanna let all of this hate and anger I have inside me go but I can’t for some reason. All I want is a decent life for me and my daughter. It’s hard to do that when I don’t know what I wanna do with myself on a daily basis. I feel like such a *******... show more
    I’m so bitter, sad, angry, regretful, and depressed. I really wanna let all of this hate and anger I have inside me go but I can’t for some reason. All I want is a decent life for me and my daughter. It’s hard to do that when I don’t know what I wanna do with myself on a daily basis. I feel like such a ******* failure in life. I had countless opportunities to better myself and I blew them. They say I shouldn’t dwell in the past but when you live such a boring and unfulfilling life you have plenty of time to. I really feel that I am a good person so why doesn’t the positivity I put out into the world ever come back to me. Something that’s is an inconvenience. I’m 25 now and I’ll be 26 at the end of the year. I have nothing to show for myself beside a daughter I had out of wedlock, a car that’s technically not mine and a bed with no sheets that I sleep on in my aunts basement. I’m mentally ill, I’m broke, I work at a dead end job, and I never finished college. It’s so many things I wanna do in life but I don’t feel i the right guidance to help get me to where I would like to be. I got to the point in my life like where I just started making realizations. Somethings just aren’t meant for everyone like playing professional sports, being a doctor and being HAPPY and to LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER ! I guess I’m one of those people and I have to accept it. I don’t want to but after awhile you just lose the fight in yourself. I gave up being happy a long time ago.
    6 answers · 7 hours ago