• Do you think my question was offensive?

    Best answer: Kind of a stupid question, as wedding rings are self explanatory. The rude part came when you asked if he was sure.
    Best answer: Kind of a stupid question, as wedding rings are self explanatory. The rude part came when you asked if he was sure.
    17 answers · 1 day ago
  • If I asked you this, would you be offended?

    Hey, can I see a picture of your wife or girlfriend? Or do you have one? Would you be offended? Assuming we had chatted for about 5-10 minutes and you were my regular customer at a restaurant.
    Hey, can I see a picture of your wife or girlfriend? Or do you have one? Would you be offended? Assuming we had chatted for about 5-10 minutes and you were my regular customer at a restaurant.
    10 answers · 8 hours ago
  • Is it rude to write to someone who has blocked you on Facebook through another account?

    Best answer: It's not so much rude, as straight-up harassment. She has twice made clear that she does not want any more contact with you. Right or wrong, just or unjust, cruel or kind, that's her decision, which she is 100% entitled to make. By making clear that you do not respect her decision, and indeed that you... show more
    Best answer: It's not so much rude, as straight-up harassment. She has twice made clear that she does not want any more contact with you. Right or wrong, just or unjust, cruel or kind, that's her decision, which she is 100% entitled to make.

    By making clear that you do not respect her decision, and indeed that you take for granted she is in the wrong for not "wanting to make things right with you", you have convinced everyone who has read your question that she is doing the right thing by blocking you.
    14 answers · 1 day ago
  • Would you write a check for a vacation condo?

    About 25 years ago, a friend did not pay me back a small amount of money. Now we are planning a vacation and I suggested that she can put down the deposit and I'll write her a check as I don't trust her to pay me back. She said;"ohyou can pay it and I'll pay you back,you know I'm good for... show more
    About 25 years ago, a friend did not pay me back a small amount of money. Now we are planning a vacation and I suggested that she can put down the deposit and I'll write her a check as I don't trust her to pay me back. She said;"ohyou can pay it and I'll pay you back,you know I'm good for it". I know that at all, but said nothing and don't feel comfortable with her owing me. Any suggestions?
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is it disgusting to eat after friends?

    Best answer: When you two are with other people, you must consider the sensibilities of those other people. Obviously, those other people are uncomfortable with this sort of sharing. So when it's just the two of you, enjoy the intimacy of that kind of sharing, but when you're around other people then don't do that.... show more
    Best answer: When you two are with other people, you must consider the sensibilities of those other people. Obviously, those other people are uncomfortable with this sort of sharing. So when it's just the two of you, enjoy the intimacy of that kind of sharing, but when you're around other people then don't do that.

    This should be easy. There is all kinds of stuff that two people who are very close friends might do together in private -- but wouldn't do in public.
    19 answers · 2 days ago
  • Do some people make it an issue to eat loudly on purpose?

    The slurping, and smacking, and grunting. Don’t they know it’s rude and drives me nuts.
    The slurping, and smacking, and grunting. Don’t they know it’s rude and drives me nuts.
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • How do you give a thank you gift to someone who gave you an item that litterally has NO price?

    I got a necklace as a gift from a friend and in japan its customary to give one that is half the value of what you received but its litterally priceless. How would I give a gift in return for that?
    I got a necklace as a gift from a friend and in japan its customary to give one that is half the value of what you received but its litterally priceless. How would I give a gift in return for that?
    11 answers · 4 days ago
  • What can I say to rude & “well meaning” people, including family.. that comment on how thick my glasses are?

    Best answer: Look surprised and puzzled. Say, 'Yes, they are thick. They have to be, otherwise I can't see. Which part of this bothers you?
    Best answer: Look surprised and puzzled. Say, 'Yes, they are thick. They have to be, otherwise I can't see. Which part of this bothers you?
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is this an offensive question? Appropriate to ask?

    Best answer: it's not offensive, but it is rude. it's not your business to ask such a personal question to someone you barely know. just try to be friends with her, but don't pry into her personal life. if she doesn't like you, is taken, or wants to be alone, she will let you know.
    Best answer: it's not offensive, but it is rude. it's not your business to ask such a personal question to someone you barely know. just try to be friends with her, but don't pry into her personal life. if she doesn't like you, is taken, or wants to be alone, she will let you know.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • Am I overreacting, be honest?

    The guy I've been off and on with and my best friend for 3 years just moved 2000 miles away. He got a lot more attached to me over the last month before the move and he kept pushing me to look for jobs out there, we are both in our 30's. We had been spending almost everyday together and talking daily. Then... show more
    The guy I've been off and on with and my best friend for 3 years just moved 2000 miles away. He got a lot more attached to me over the last month before the move and he kept pushing me to look for jobs out there, we are both in our 30's. We had been spending almost everyday together and talking daily. Then once he left he went two days without talking to me, which later I figured out was because I didn't tell him I would miss him too when he said it to me. We talked and again started talking about me moving there and at least visiting soon. He makes me tell him that I won't forget about him a lot. But now that he's gone it seems like he gets worked up easily and tries to start little fights. Yesterday he went all day without texting me (and I'm letting him text first because he's in the process of the move and want to give him space to get stuff done). Then texted me last night and after 5 minutes he messaged me from Facebook saying "ok" which I assume is because Facebook said I was on and I hadn't texted him back. So once I was done getting ready for bed I texted and messaged both, asked about his day and got nothing back. He still hasn't responded. And he was out all night and using Facebook live. This just isn't what I'm used to with him. I plan to just let him to come to me but is this his way of trying to push me away and be done?
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • Thank you cards after volunteering?

    I volunteer once per week in a school. My last volunteering day is coming up, and I m wondering whether I should prepare thank you cards/gifts for people with whom I worked. I m curious as to whether I will be over-doing and overreacting by preparing good bye presents for people (about 7 of them) who I see... show more
    I volunteer once per week in a school. My last volunteering day is coming up, and I m wondering whether I should prepare thank you cards/gifts for people with whom I worked. I m curious as to whether I will be over-doing and overreacting by preparing good bye presents for people (about 7 of them) who I see once per week as a volunteer (I volunteered during 1 school yr). I would certainly do this if I was working full time/part time there, but would it be appropriate for a volunteer? I m not close to some of them, so I m wondering if giving them a good bye gift/card will generate more awkwardness. And it s not like I can pick and choose some and ignore others as that will be more awkward and can hurt ppl. Would it be poor etiquette to not prepare good bye cards/gifts? Of course I am going to tell them I appreciated working with them and say my farewells, but should I do something more than just farewells? If I should write a card, how should I write it? (Any sample template) and what gift should I get? I m awk with these sorts of things. :/
    7 answers · 13 hours ago
  • Should I pay for my friend's bridal dinner that I'm hosting?

    I am organizing a bridal dinner for my close friend in a few days. It is a surprise with 6 friends (we're friends from work) and her mom and sister. Her mom had asked me a while back to put this together. The dinner is at a relatively nice restaurant. I've been doing the coordinating and will be decorating,... show more
    I am organizing a bridal dinner for my close friend in a few days. It is a surprise with 6 friends (we're friends from work) and her mom and sister. Her mom had asked me a while back to put this together. The dinner is at a relatively nice restaurant. I've been doing the coordinating and will be decorating, but I'm not sure if I should pay for the dinner too? I know traditional etiquette says the host should pay, but we're a pretty young group, so I wanted to get opinions on this. Thanks!
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is ignoring a form of workplace bullying ? Why/why not?

    Best answer: Ignoring you is not bullying. Ignoring you when you are asking for help/participation in regards to something you are working on together or are supposed to consult each other on is not bullying. As others have stated it's a hostile work environment and should be taken up with the manager or supervisor.... show more
    Best answer: Ignoring you is not bullying. Ignoring you when you are asking for help/participation in regards to something you are working on together or are supposed to consult each other on is not bullying. As others have stated it's a hostile work environment and should be taken up with the manager or supervisor. Ignoring your greetings or not being friendly with you is not workplace bullying.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • Thank you letter help?

    My relative gave me money as a way of saying sorry that they had to cancel plans with me(and to cover my expenses). How do I say thank you to them for doing this even though they didn't have to?
    My relative gave me money as a way of saying sorry that they had to cancel plans with me(and to cover my expenses). How do I say thank you to them for doing this even though they didn't have to?
    7 answers · 16 hours ago
  • Should you always send a thank you email?

    Best answer: The thank-you email is good. You should send it. In addition to showing gratitude for their trouble, it lets them know you got their response and have no further questions. You definitely should not expect a reply to a thank-you email. If you send someone a thank-you note in the mail, say for a gift, you... show more
    Best answer: The thank-you email is good. You should send it. In addition to showing gratitude for their trouble, it lets them know you got their response and have no further questions.

    You definitely should not expect a reply to a thank-you email. If you send someone a thank-you note in the mail, say for a gift, you don't expect a you're-welcome note in return. That'd be ridiculous. Where would it ever end? This is no different. The fact that they don't reply doesn't mean that they didn't appreciate the thank-you to let them know that the issue is closed and that the answer they provided was sufficient.

    In fact, if they're like me, they may have your original message still in their in-box, but when they get your thank-you email and so know there's no more action to be taken on that original message, they can move it out of their in-box and into an archive folder. The thank-you email basically lets them finally clear something on their to-do list, their list of things they have actively going on. That also means, if they're like me, they'll notice you didn't send a thank-you email and wonder about whether or not you're still going to follow up with more questions or if what they sent answered your question every time they see your original message in their in-box over a week or two weeks until they finally just go ahead and move it out on their own because you never followed up with another question. That means they're likely to remember you didn't thank them.

    Keep the thank you concise, though. Even just "Thanks!" is enough. Professors get enough email that they appreciate clear and to-the-point over verbosity every time.
    8 answers · 17 hours ago
  • Should I attend her funeral?

    I found out my wife was cheating on me when her and her boyfriend were killed in a car accident almost a week ago.
    I found out my wife was cheating on me when her and her boyfriend were killed in a car accident almost a week ago.
    8 answers · 5 hours ago
  • Did my mom and I have bad manners to be fighting inside the house of our roommate, and it was so loud that the neighbors heard it?

    My mom and I lived with someone else. She was more of a housemate, because my mom and I slept in the living room and she slept in the bedroom. She warned us to not argue whether she was inside of the house with us, or if she's not there. She was old, about 70 years old. She told us that she has a pacemaker and... show more
    My mom and I lived with someone else. She was more of a housemate, because my mom and I slept in the living room and she slept in the bedroom. She warned us to not argue whether she was inside of the house with us, or if she's not there. She was old, about 70 years old. She told us that she has a pacemaker and is a breast cancer patient and it's not good for her to be stressed. Almost every time she stepped out of the house and went somewhere, my mom and I would argue and the next door neighbor heard it and told our roommate and they said it was so loud that they almost knocked on the door. The roommate got mad at us and told us she is so embarrassed every time she leaves the house. Eventually, she did tell us to leave, and gave us a 5 months advance notice, because she couldn't take it anymore.
    7 answers · 9 hours ago