Oh geez. No offense, but your Mom is doing the absolute worst thing you can do. The effects are not good. At BEST, your dog is going to continue to be a scared, tortured wreck. At worst, he's likely to lash out and bite at some point.
It's not a fun existence for a dog. He's scared, and he's...
Best answer: Oh geez. No offense, but your Mom is doing the absolute worst thing you can do. The effects are not good. At BEST, your dog is going to continue to be a scared, tortured wreck. At worst, he's likely to lash out and bite at some point.
It's not a fun existence for a dog. He's scared, and he's obnoxious and compulsive because of that. He's probably doing weird stuff, and inappropriate stuff. Maybe he's chewing stuff he shouldn't be, being weirdly anxious and hard core about strange things, barking or being aggressive at random things, and peeing weird places.
If she's acting the way you describe, it's just really bad. He's tense, and scared to death, peeing himself, because your Mom is acting irrationally and emotionally, and dogs do not do well with that. I would guess you're probably already seeing weird protectiveness or aggression. Maybe it's when people come to the door, maybe he flips out like a psycho at bikes. Maybe it hasn't even fully displayed yet, but it will.
I guess you'll just have to either try to convince her to understand how messed up what she's doing is, and how bad it's going to end up, or try to enlist someone else to convince her; maybe a family member? Maybe you can get her to hire a trainer?
Otherwise, you're going to have to get her to rehome the dog, or you're going to have to protect the dog yourself.
Maybe if you put yourself out there enough, she'll be forced to stop? If you train the dog using positive reinforcement, maybe she'll see how wrong it is what she's doing? Or if you throw yourself on the dog to get her to stop?
You might have to just call the ASPCA to be honest, and try to get a secret video or something, but there are no guarantees, even then.
All I can tell you, is that I've worked with dogs for almost a decade, and I've learned so much, and that is the worst way possible to try to train a dog. Above all, a dog wants a stable, loving leader. Inflicting that kind of fear is going to end very poorly. The dog's psyche will be damaged, and things, at some point, will get BAD. The dog will start to be neurotic, if it hasn't already, and will likable be aggressive and psycho about certain people or things.
You are the only thing standing between; so do what you can. Try to reason with her, try to enlist others to help you, try and get her to listen or get a trainer. If all else fails, you'll have to try to call the ASCPA on her, or find a new home for your dog, or put yourself between her and the dog.
I'm just so sorry you're in this position, but it's amazing that you're going to do what you can for your pup. He WILL see this, and make sure you can at least be an anchor for him. Keep him with you as much as you can, and love him, and teach him through positive reinforcement while you're trying to get this messed up situation sorted out. Try to protect him; it will mean more than the world to him.
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