He did what any older brother would do. Woman, you are 16 freaking years old. I'm 27 and my daughter just turned 7 months. DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA THE PRESSURE INVOLVED IN RAISING A CHILD?! Ask yourself if your boyfriend would put a ring on your finger if you got knocked up. Would he stay with you for the rest of...
Best answer: He did what any older brother would do. Woman, you are 16 freaking years old. I'm 27 and my daughter just turned 7 months. DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA THE PRESSURE INVOLVED IN RAISING A CHILD?! Ask yourself if your boyfriend would put a ring on your finger if you got knocked up. Would he stay with you for the rest of your life and be there through the thick and thin? You may love him but as time passes you discover deeper dimensions of love. I'm speaking from personal experience. Love is deeper than spreading your legs and having butterflies in your stomach. Whether you believe it or not, at 16 you're not mature enough for any of this ****. Email me in 11 years and I'll bet you'll be telling me that I was right.
I don't mean to be harsh, hun. You went through something pretty crappy but the fact of the matter is that your brother loves you enough to stick up for you. Don't get angry with him for that.
I understand that you're old enough to make the decision to have sex. I get that the sex was consensual. I understand that you have feelings for your boyfriend. I understand that you didn't want your older brother to beat him up. I also understand that you love both your boyfriend and older brother. Don't listen to the mongoloid (retard) that said to call the cops on your own brother. He's clearly an idiot and an emotionless subhuman moron.
So I'm gonna get to the point.
1 - You need to speak to your brother and say that you understand he was protecting you, thank him for that, but MAKE IT CLEAR you weren't raped. Let him know that he overreacted. Let him know that you're old enough for that and that you acted on strong feelings for your boyfriend. Ask him to explain why he could have sex at 16 and not you. Make him think about what he did. Tell him that he didn't need to hit someone three years younger than him.
2 - Lift up your standards. Some of this might apply. Some of it might not. Take whatever is relevant.
- When you started dating this guy did he introduce himself to your whole family? Did he even volunteer to meet your parents? If he didn't he's not a gentleman or a man in any way, shape, or form. I was 16 once too. I met the family of my first girlfriend. I would sit at dinner with them. My first girl's family loved me! I was respectful and presented myself as a man.
3 - How long did you know him before having sex? How long did you wait?
- How long does a guy have to wait (for you) before he hits it? What would you say about other girls that did the same thing?
- I've spoken to both men and women that are promiscuous, single, and having casual sex. 90% of the time they're not happy. Being in a committed relationship is a beautiful thing. Sex is one of those things that's meant to be saved for marriage. Its a deeper level of intimacy. And when you're married the sex does indeed get a lot better! Imagine being with someone for years and years and getting to know EVERYTHING they like.
I sincerely hope this helps. I know that I can be a bit abrasive and come off as mean. I was honestly trying to help.
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