I'm 37 weeks pregnant, and was informed by my Mother that I'm not getting a baby shower. Instead she had a Grandmother Shower for herself and her friends this morning. She said that there is no point in having a Baby Shower for me because no one would show up anyway (basically implying that I have no friends). She was bragging to me this morning over the phone about all the things that she got at her shower and it made me really upset. She's at work right now, so I haven't actually had to speak to her in person, but I'm a little worried about what it's going to be like when she gets home and shows me all the gifts she received.
I'm feeling jealous, angry, and really depressed about this. I'm also feeling really resentful that she took away this special moment for me... but I don't know if I'm being selfish or not. She has done alot for me by letting me and my boyfriend stay with her until we pay down some of our debt and have enough to move out on our own again. I don't know if I have a right to be upset or not, and I don't know if I should confront her about how upset this whole thing has made me or what I should say to her.
Should I say something or just keep my mouth shut? Am I off base here about how I'm feeling? What should I do?14 AnswersPregnancy1 decade ago
We've been together for 3.5 years. We've had our ups and downs. The problem is that he won't have sex with me... there is absoultely no intimacy in our relationship anymore. He *says* it's because I'm pregnant and he doesn't want to hurt the baby... but I honestly don't even know how we managed to get pregnant in the first place, since we so rarely have sex (I had stopped taking the pill because I thought it was pointless to pay all the extra money and told him to use condoms instead since it was cheaper... well, the condom broke and now I'm 8 months pregnant...). Anyway, I don't know what to do. I've tried EVERYTHING to get him interested, but he just doesn't want anything to do with me. He swears he isn't cheating on me and it would be hard for him to since we JUST moved to my mom's house (from 2.5 hours away) to have extra money for the baby and he doesn't have a car. He also says he isn't gay and that he still finds me attractive... so I just don't know what to do. I try to talk to him about it and it always ends in a fight and nothing ever gets resolved. We don't have alot of money, so it would be impossible to get counseling services unless they are free... Should I keep trying to work things out? Or should I just break up with him (I really don't want to do that... but I don't know what else to do)? I mean, its not just me that I have to think about anymore, it's the baby too... and I would like the baby to have it's father in it's life. I just feel so lonely.15 AnswersSingles & Dating1 decade ago
Any Ideas on how can I avoid being called fat and having my stomach rubbed by customers while at work?
I work at a chocolate store and I'm 7 months pregnant. My stomach is really round, but I haven't really gained any weight anywhere else. I've had several customers call me fat or imply that I'm fat, and countless others rub my stomach without asking. This is really taking a toll on my self-esteem, and hurting my work performance as well. I don't feel like I can really say anything because I'm on company time, and so the company can be held responsible for anything I say. Does anyone have any ideas of things I can say without coming across as being rude? Or ways to avoid being called fat and being rubbed in the first place? Or am I just being over-sensitive because of hormones?13 AnswersPregnancy1 decade ago
This was an unexpected pregnancy, and my boyfriend and I just don't have the money (or the space) for lots of baby stuff. Even though I would LOVE to buy everything, we just can't afford things we don't need. So I just want to know what the bare essentials are. I am planning to breastfeed and we are planning to use cloth diapers. Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks! :-)14 AnswersNewborn & Baby1 decade ago
I am pregnant and my boyfriend and I are moving back in with my Mom because the rent is going up in our apartment and we are currently having financial troubles. My Mom offered to let us stay with her for free but now wants to charge me and my boyfriend 15 dollars a week to stay at the house. It normally wouldn't bother me, but she doesn't pay rent or any utilities to live at her house (my Dad pays it all as part of their divorce agreement). She says it's to cover our share of the cable, internet, phone, groceries and laundry soap. We will use the internet, but she has internet with a lot of extras that we wouldn’t use and internet only costs us $20 a month – not $15 a week. I know that we won't watch the cable (we never had it at our place) and we won't use the phone because we have our own cell phones (that we pay for). As far as food and soap goes, last time we lived there we bought all of our own food and soap and were planning on doing the same this time.18 AnswersPregnancy1 decade ago
I have no insurance AND no job (I'm a college student). This pregnacy was an accident (we did use protection). I'm keeping the baby. I know that I need to apply for medicaid and WIC but I can't seem to find any information on how to sign up for these programs. I keep hitting dead ends, and no one I've asked has been any help at all. (I went to Planned Parenthood - they confirmed my pregnancy, but that's it!) I live in New Hampshire. Does anyone have any idea where I need to go?11 AnswersPregnancy1 decade ago