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  • What do I do about this girl I like?

    I met this girl in an online chat a few weeks ago and immediately we exchanged emails and then the next day we exchanged numbers after she asked me for it. She was in a relationship of a year but felt lonely and then broke up with her girlfriend two days after we started talking. Now the conflict is that we live in two different states. SC and NY. She started flirting with me, and texting me everyday all da, saying she'll pay for me to fly out to meet her and then out of the blue she says I'm not trying to hurt you but I don't want a relationship right now. I got pissed off because she acted as if i came on strong or something. A week went by and we didn't speak and then she contacted me saying I hope you're not mad at me. She really missed talking to me and that she kept trying to call me but thought against it because she was scared. We started talking again and now she's telling me about this old girlfriend who she is supposed to meet up with who has a girlfriend. So now should I just cut off contact? What is her deal?

  • Is she playing games with me or not?

    Okay, im sorry, I dont think this will work. Me and you texting back and forth all day, just makes things really confusing for me, I didn't really realize it till now.  Im sorry.

  • Does my best friends cousin like me or is he playing games?

    So my best friends cousin is an alcoholic. I'm 25 and he's 32, but he's a really nice guy. Now we have known each other for years and he finally told my friend he likes me. We started talking in March after their grandfather died. She also told him to not talk to me if he's not serious. Anyways, we had good convos and went on a date where he brought his son as well. His son really took to me and told him that we seemed like we had a good relationship. He even agreed and kept asking me if i h ad a good time. Telling my friend he really likes me and all of this. Then a week later he had some financial problems and then I out of nowhere just ignored me and this went on for two months. But he also was ignoring his family as well.

    Long story short, I finally got in touch with him a week ago and he told me he fell back because he's been going through some things and that he doesn't want to hurt or disappoint me and that he is also not in a position to be involved and that I deserve better. I told him to let me in and that i'm not the girls he's been dealing with. He still went on about how he is going through stuff. So I asked if he wanted to talk again and he said yes but slowly. Now when I've been hitting me up but its basically a one sided convo and he doesn't hit me up. What do you think this all means? Does it mean he lost interest or that he is really going through something. What should I do? Leave him alone or hit him up here and there to let him know I'm here for him.

    4 AnswersMarriage & Divorce7 years ago
  • Does he like me or is he playing games?

    So my best friends cousin is an alcoholic. He's 32, but he's a really nice guy. Now we have known each other for years and he finally told my friend he likes me. We started talking in March after their grandfather died. She also told him to not talk to me if he's not serious. Anyways, we had good convos and went on a date where he brought his son as well. His son really took to me and told him that we seemed like we had a good relationship. He even agreed and kept asking me if i h ad a good time. Telling my friend he really likes me and all of this. Then a week later he had some financial problems and then I out of nowhere just ignored me and this went on for two months. But he also was ignoring his family as well.

    Long story short, I finally got in touch with him a week ago and he told me he fell back because he's been going through some things and that he doesn't want to hurt or disappoint me and that he is also not in a position to be involved and that I deserve better. I told him to let me in and that i'm not the girls he's been dealing with. He still went on about how he is going through stuff. So I asked if he wanted to talk again and he said yes but slowly. Now when I've been hitting me up but its basically a one sided convo and he doesn't hit me up. What do you think this all means? Does it mean he lost interest or that he is really going through something. What should I do? Leave him alone or hit him up here and there to let him know I'm here for him.

    5 AnswersSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • Hurt that Ex boyfriend has a new girlfriend, how do I get over it?

    After a year and half, In October me and my ex broke up because of a physical altercation. We started talking back in February, the day after Valentines day, and had been talking for about two-three months before we stopped talking again. In those two-three months of talking, we never got back together but we have gone out places and had heavy flirtation. We talked about our relationship numerous times and said we will build trust before we get back together. Now the last time I saw him was about two months ago and a couple of weeks ago I saw a pic of us on my comp and sent to him and he proceeded to send a photo of us from his phone back to me. Now, I hit him up and asked him how was work and he told me he went on vacation, on a cruise to be exact. Then he sends all these pics of him which I never asked him for and I got curious and said oo did u end up going with a girl. Then he says, yea my girl, i had fun. SO I say your girl, omg let me see a pic and he says next time. So I say, I can't see a pic? and then I go how long have you guys been together, he didnt answer the question. Then he proceeds to ask me what im doing for the day and what im doing for the weekend. Asking me if i still live where I live and everything. SO my question is this. Does he have a girlfriend that quick or is he just trying to make me jealous? It hurt to hear he had a girlfriend after I tried to work on our relationship just a month and a half ago and then you have a girl you go on vacation with?

  • Does my asshole ex boyfriend have a girlfriend already or is he lying?

    After a year and half, In October me and my ex broke up because of a physical altercation. We started talking back in February, the day after Valentines day, and had been talking for about two-three months before we stopped talking again. In those two-three months of talking, we never got back together but we have gone out places and had heavy flirtation. We talked about our relationship numerous times and said we will build trust before we get back together. Now the last time I saw him was about two months ago and a couple of weeks ago I saw a pic of us on my comp and sent to him and he proceeded to send a photo of us from his phone back to me. Now, I hit him up and asked him how was work and he told me he went on vacation, on a cruise to be exact. Then he sends all these pics of him which I never asked him for and I got curious and said oo did u end up going with a girl. Then he says, yea my girl, i had fun. SO I say your girl, omg let me see a pic and he says next time. So I say, I can't see a pic? and then I go how long have you guys been together, he didnt answer the question. Then he proceeds to ask me what im doing for the day and what im doing for the weekend. Asking me if i still live where I live and everything. SO my question is this. Does he have a girlfriend that quick or is he just trying to make me jealous? It hurt to hear he had a girlfriend after I tried to work on our relationship just a month and a half ago and then you have a girl you go on vacation with?

    4 AnswersMarriage & Divorce7 years ago
  • My ex boyfriend says he has feelings still so why does it feel like he's sending mixed signals?

    I broke up with my ex five months ago and I was going strong NC for four months until I decided to contact him because I really missed him. We had a very bad breakup that involved cops. When I got in contact with him, he said to me he missed me, he still loved me and had feelings for me then he said he wasn't in love with me because he feels I moved on and so did he. He doesn't know if I left him for another guy(he's insecure) and so forth. I wasn't the one who wanted the break-up. He picked a fight with me only to ignore me and I ignored him back and he got angry and we had a big blow out that got physical and we haven't talked until now. Long story short. When I got in contact with him now. He was flirting with me, saying he missed my cooking, saying good morning every day and then when I would contact him he would ignore me on certain days. I asked him three times if he was dating someone, he said no. Then he asked me and I said no. Then one day he says good morning to me and I respond with a good morning. Later on that day he randomly texted me "Watch ya show" the text wasnt meant for me.

    Anyways, we finally met up and he wanted to go to the movies. We had a good time, just no stress. Then he gave me a intimate hug and said we should go out to eat, so we did. We talked about us and he said that he's talking to other girls but he's not looking for anything but that he missed the relationship but not the craziness and he thought about me a lot. I said okay so do you see us together in the future. He said yes if we can get our issues resolved and we talked about how. He expressed that there's no trust and we should build a friendship first. When I left to take the train, he gave me a big hug and kissed me on the corner of my mouth.

    After this date he started acting funny. Saying good morning then ignoring me and then I don't hear from him for a few days. So yesterday I contacted him to ask him if he wanted to hang out because last week he told me he had this weekend free and we talked about hanging out. He said he was running errands in the morning and that he would let me know when he got home and then asked what time i would be free. I told him and then i didn't hear from him the whole day, so I contacted him again and he said no he didn't want to hang out. I said okay, I'll leave it alone and then he said Today wasn't good you cant just pop plans up at the last moment, you should've called earlier in the week to make plans. I said ok no problem that's all you had to say earlier and I'm sorry, it's just I have so much emotions still invested in you. You know I'm still in love with you, I'm not trying to be that way but have a good night. He said here you go. Then I said I'm just trying to be honest with you, I'm not starting a fight but when you're free contact me and we can get up, he was nonchalant.

    What can I do to get over this guy? I already know I wont hear from him. I've always been the one to chase him, every single time. Even after he's lied to me and cheated on me, he takes no responsibility for those actions and blames it on my insecurity. I've never been this way with a guy before but I have a strong attachment to him because of him being there for me when my mother died. I just don't feel he is into working on anything and he's just leading me on. He knows how I feel about him but I never felt loved by him, even now. Why am I doing this to myself? I've tried everything to get over him and it's not working. I get extremely sad and start crying. Should I block his number? I'm scared to move on and let go. He tells everyone I dont care about him because I didnt contact him in those four months. What do I do? Please help.

    1 AnswerMarriage & Divorce7 years ago
  • My ex boyfriend of says he still has feelings and still loves me but he's moved on?

    What does this mean? Me and my ex had a messy break up five months ago. I've been having trouble moving on so I contacted him for closure and I got it but then he started contacting me for two days and I started having a rush of feelings so I took a leap and asked him how he felt and I told him how I felt. He said how come I didnt tell him five months ago that I couldn't move on and I told him I was mad. We broke up because he started a big fight with me which turned violent, plus I'm the one always reconciling with him so I just decided to leave him alone this time. But my friend urged me to contact him because I kept talking about him constantly. During our convos, he kept saying he has feelings and will always have feelings and still loves me but he's moved on and he's pretty sure I moved on because i took five months to contact him and for all he knows I ran off with someone else. Pretty much taking no responsibility for the break up.

    Long story short, he said he has love for me and still has feelings but he is not in love with me because I left him for five months but we should be friends and see where it leads us in the future. What does it sound like he's trying to say? Is he ruling out a reconciliation? Or no? I'm confused and it's really making me sad because I don't want him to think I'm still pining over him pathetically.

    6 AnswersMarriage & Divorce7 years ago
  • Is my ex playing mind games with me?

    Broke NC with my ex boyfriend after three months of not speaking for closure, now I'm regretting it a bit. I sent him a text that read this: Hi, I've debated on if I wanted to ever speak to you again but i feel that I need to do this for my own closure because we never had a formal break up. We both made mistakes and I don't want to carry any baggage in this new year. Hopefully in the future if we cross paths we could be cordial with each other. He text me back five minutes later and said to give him a sec because he was at work and he would call me later. I anticipated the call but he never called it's been a few days so far. So do you think he doesn't care to contact me and is just playing games? Or he just doesn't know what to say? We had a pretty bad break up which was violent which he started and my friend told me he tried hooking up with her friend at a party (kind of crossing a line) and my friend intervened and he told her what's the problem, I dont like him anymore and I havent contacted him(which I usually do) so what's the big deal. When we both just stopped talking to each other after the blowout with no formal break up. So it's like he's playing the victim. What should I do? Im sitting here thinking why he would say he would call and then don't? IS this what he wants? For me to be pathetic pining for his call? I feel so hopeless and that our relationship was just a waste of time. I just cant get over this

    3 AnswersFriends7 years ago
  • I regret texting my ex for closure? He said he would call and he didn't?

    Broke NC with my ex boyfriend after three months of not speaking for closure, now I'm regretting it a bit. I sent him a text that read this: Hi, I've debated on if I wanted to ever speak to you again but i feel that I need to do this for my own closure because we never had a formal break up. We both made mistakes and I don't want to carry any baggage in this new year. Hopefully in the future if we cross paths we could be cordial with each other. He text me back five minutes later and said to give him a sec because he was at work and he would call me later. I anticipated the call but he never called it's been a day so far. So do you think he doesn't care to contact me and is just playing games? OR he just doesn't know what to say? We had a pretty bad break up which was violent which he started and my friend told me he tried hooking up with her friend at a party and my friend intervened and he told her what's the problem, I dont like him anymore so what's the big deal. When we both just stopped talking to each other after the blowout with no formal break up. So it's like he's playing the victim. What should I do? Im sitting here thinking why he would say he would call and then don't? IS this what he wants? For me to be pathetic pining for his call? I feel so hopeless :(

    2 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships7 years ago
  • What to do if my ex wont give me proper closure?

    Broke NC with my ex boyfriend after three months of not speaking for closure, now I'm regretting it a bit. I sent him a text that read this: Hi, I've debated on if I wanted to ever speak to you again but i feel that I need to do this for my own closure because we never had a formal break up. We both made mistakes and I don't want to carry any baggage in this new year. Hopefully in the future if we cross paths we could be cordial with each other. He text me back five minutes later and said to give him a sec because he was at work and he would call me later. I anticipated the call but he never called it's been a day so far. So do you think he doesn't care to contact me and is just playing games? OR he just doesn't know what to say? We had a pretty bad break up which was violent which he started and my friend told me he tried hooking up with her friend at a party and my friend intervened and he told her what's the problem and that I dont like him anymore so what's the big deal, which is soo far from the truth. He was trying to play the victim. When we both just stopped talking to each other after the blowout with no formal break up. So it's like he's playing the victim. What should I do? Im sitting here thinking why he would say he would call and then don't? IS this what he wants? For me to be pathetic pining for his call? I feel so hopeless :(

  • I broke no contact with my ex and regret it. What should I do?

    Broke NC with my ex boyfriend after three months of not speaking for closure, now I'm regretting it a bit. I sent him a text that read this: Hi, I've debated on if I wanted to ever speak to you again but i feel that I need to do this for my own closure because we never had a formal break up. We both made mistakes and I don't want to carry any baggage in this new year. Hopefully in the future if we cross paths we could be cordial with each other. He text me back five minutes later and said to give him a sec because he was at work and he would call me later. I anticipated the call but he never called it's been a day so far. So do you think he doesn't care to contact me and is just playing games? OR he just doesn't know what to say? We had a pretty bad break up which was violent which he started and my friend told me he tried hooking up with her friend at a party and my friend intervened and he told her what's the problem, I dont like him anymore so what's the big deal. When we both just stopped talking to each other after the blowout with no formal break up. So it's like he's playing the victim. What should I do? Im sitting here thinking why he would say he would call and then don't? IS this what he wants? For me to be pathetic pining for his call? I feel so hopeless :(

    8 AnswersMarriage & Divorce7 years ago
  • What to think of this revelation about my ex?

    So me and my ex boyfriend broke up for the final time three months ago when he put his hands on me and I got fed up with his irrational moods and childishness. We pretty much just stopped talking with no closure. No it's overs or anything was exchanged. I've met him through a friend who used to date his cousin. My friend and his cousin still keep in contact with each other and she got invited to a party where my ex attended. She brought a friend and he tried to get her number but my friend intervened and put him on blast about me plus the girl thought he was lame anyway. He played victim and said I broke up with him and that I don't love him anymore because I havent contacted him. Im usually the one who tries to reconcile after he's done something wrong. So do you think he did this on purpose so this could get back to me? A similar situation happened like this the first time he broke up with me and I contacted him and it was after he cheated on me but this time Im not doing it. DO you think he did this in hopes of me calling him? Or could he care less and just wants to hook up with whomever and he doesn't have feelings anymore. I've been struggling because we dated for a year and a half and we went through a lot, so there's still emotions there. His mom and family loved me and he was there through the hard times, with my mom dying. But sometimes I'm feeling like he doesn't care but hearing that is making me go through the motions even though Ive had NC for three months. What should I do? And what is he thinking when he did that?

    1 AnswerSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • My ex is trying to hook up with my friend? What should I do?

    So me and my ex boyfriend broke up for the final time three months ago when he put his hands on me because he was an asshole to me pretty much majority of our relationship and I got fed up. We pretty much just stopped talking with no closure. No it's overs or anything was exchanged. I've met him through a friend who used to date his cousin. My friend and his cousin still keep in contact with each other and she got invited to a party where my ex attended. She brought a friend and he tried to get her number but my friend intervened and put him on blast about me plus the girl thought he was lame anyway. He played victim and said I broke up with him and that I don't love him anymore because I havent contacted him. Im usually the one who tries to reconcile after he's done something wrong. So do you think he did this on purpose so this could get back to me? A similar situation happened like this the first time he broke up with me and I contacted him and it was after he cheated on me but this time Im not doing it. DO you think he did this in hopes of me calling him? Or could he care less and just wants to hook up with whomever and he doesn't have feelings anymore. I've been struggling because we dated for a year and a half and we went through a lot, so there's still emotions there. And sometimes I'm feeling like he doesn't care but hearing that is making me go through the motions even though Ive had NC for three months. What should I do? And what is he thinking when he did that?

    2 AnswersMarriage & Divorce7 years ago
  • Is my older brother jealous of me?

    My brother is 32 and Im 25 and my brother always like to control me. Our mother died in March of cancer and I had a boyfriend at the time who would come and visit me while I visited her in the hospital, then I had my best friend who would come visit also and would lend her support. He had an issue with this and felt no one should be visiting. But I got mad because when she was dying of cancer and he was nowhere to be found chasing after some girl in another state who wasn't even his girlfriend and never was. He had no support system and I feel he felt that I had all of that. Now it's the first holiday without our mother, we don't really have family like that and I wanted to spend time with him knowing this. We agreed to spend thanksgiving at my cousin's house. Prior to this I was actually supposed to spend time in VA with my best friend's family and I invited him to come along but he begged me not to go and to stay in NY and spend Thanksgiving with him and my family. Im calling and calling him, he's telling me he's coming and now its 10pm he's nowhere to be found then he shows up with a friend and spends 20 mins and leaves.

    He offers me a ride home and in the car, he knew I was mad at him. So I told him I felt. He basically gave me a lame excuse about how at least he showed up and that he lost track of time with his friend and proceeded to tell me that my boyfriend(who I'm not with anymore) never cared about me and where is he at now and that my friend wasn't sincere when they came to the hospital so why should I spend Thanskgiving with her but his friend who he walked in with is his real friend who he's known for ten years and they have a real friendship but me and my friend don't. Ive known my friend for eight years and we keep it real with each other. Her family treats me like one of their own. I have an apt, a car a good job and a degree and he still tries tell me something is wrong. Oh u shouldn't have got that car or why do you have people all in your apartment? So am I wrong in thinking my brother is jealous? And what should I do? I tried not to get into a heated argument because we've physically fought because of it before. Was that the right thing to do or should I have truly said what's on my mind?

    1 AnswerFamily7 years ago
  • Is my brother jealous of me or am I overreacting?

    My brother is 32 and Im 25 and my brother always like to control me. Our mother died in March of cancer and I had a boyfriend at the time who would come and visit me while I visited her in the hospital, then I had my best friend who would come visit also and would lend her support. He had an issue with this and felt no one should be visiting. But I got mad because when she was dying of cancer and he was nowhere to be found chasing after some girl in another state who wasn't even his girlfriend and never was. He had no support system and I feel he felt that I had all of that. Now it's the first holiday without our mother, we don't really have family like that and I wanted to spend time with him knowing this. We agreed to spend thanksgiving at my cousin's house. Prior to this I was actually supposed to spend time in VA with my best friend's family and I invited him to come along but he begged me not to go and to stay in NY and spend Thanksgiving with him and my family. Im calling and calling him, he's telling me he's coming and now its 10pm he's nowhere to be found then he shows up with a friend and spends 20 mins and leaves. He offers me a ride home and in the car, he knew I was mad at him. So I told him I felt. He basically gave me a lame excuse about how at least he showed up and that he lost track of time with his friend and proceeded to tell me that my boyfriend(who I'm not with anymore) never cared about me and where is he at now and that my friend wasn't sincere when they came to the hospital so why should I spend Thanskgiving with her but his friend who he walked in with is his real friend who he's known for ten years and they have a real friendship but me and my friend don't. Ive known my friend for eight years and we keep it real with each other. Her family treats me like one of their own. I have an apt, a car a good job and a degree and he still tries tell me something is wrong. Oh u shouldn't have got that car or why do you have people all in your apartment? So am I wrong in thinking my brother is jealous? And what should I do? I tried not to get into a heated argument because we've physically fought because of it before. Was that the right thing to do or should I have truly said what's on my mind?

    1 AnswerFamily7 years ago
  • Having trouble moving on after a breakup?

    Me and my boyfriend hat a pretty bad break up about a month ago and I'm still feeling very sad and depressed about it. We've had break ups before and we've dated a little over a year and have been through so much in this year alone, that now after this break up, its soo final. I'm always the one to come back after a break up and I know he wont do it this time and I refuse to do it this time. I try not to get jealous of my cousin who's in a relationship or my friend who now has a good relationship even though she's been dealing with crap for six years. How can I get over this? Im pretty sure he's moved on and found someone else but I can't stop thinking about it because I'm still very much in love with him. Please help. Somedays I'm good but then I see happy couples and I get very depressed. How can I stop feeling like that?

    4 AnswersMarriage & Divorce7 years ago
  • My ex didnt call me for my birthday, should I feel a way?

    Me and my ex broke up three weeks ago. It was a bad break up and im still havent gotten over it because it happened so suddenly. Todays my birthday and secretly i did wish he would say happy birthday, i dont know why. Should i feel a certain way about this because he doesnt care about me or just take it as a sign and move on from here out?

    9 AnswersMarriage & Divorce7 years ago
  • Any chance of reconciliation after a bad breakup?

    How can I move on from a break up that ended very suddenly. My boyfriend and I broke up two and half weeks ago and I still keep thinking about it, I mean we've had kind of had break ups and makes up with me trying to reconcile. It ended very badly this time. He cheated. I threw his playstation out on the street. He physically fought with me because of it and then called the cops and we haven't spoken since. My friend had a similar situation to mine and I sometimes get jealous because she made it through her rough phase and theyre happily in love now. What can I do to get over it? Im really depressed and missing him when I know I should be very angry with him. Will he regret this later on or am is it wishful thinking? What steps can I take to move on Ive already deleted him from my phone. I just wanted to know if his feelings can be turned off so quickly after being together for a little over a year? Or is he pissed at me and I will never hear from him again. My bday is coming up on wednesday and I'm secretly wishing he would say something but he is pretty immature so Idk. Someone help me get through this rough phase.

  • Getting through a rough break up? What do I do?

    How can I move on from a break up that ended very suddenly. My boyfriend and I broke up two and half weeks ago and I still keep thinking about it, I mean we've had kind of had break ups and makes up with me trying to reconcile. It ended very badly this time. He cheated. I threw his playstation out on the street. He physically fought with me because of it and then called the cops and we haven't spoken since. My friend had a similar situation to mine and I sometimes get jealous because she made it through her rough phase and theyre happily in love now. What can I do to get over it? Im really depressed and missing him when I know I should be very angry with him. Will he regret this later on or am is it wishful thinking? What steps can I take to move on Ive already deleted him from my phone. I just wanted to know if his feelings can be turned off so quickly after being together for a little over a year? Or is he pissed at me and I will never hear from him again. My bday is coming up on wednesday and I'm secretly wishing he would say something but he is pretty immature so Idk. Someone help me get through this rough phase.