This is a doozy! My husband had an affair and moved out of the matrimonial home almost 2 years ago. He began by moving in next door to his girlfriend (who also left her husband) and about a month ago, they rented a house together. We are STILL not divorced. Neither is his girlfriend and her husband.
We had agreed that I would keep the home after a loan assumption, but we just haven't done everything to get it all done yet. Here's the question. I have a boyfriend that stays with me once in a while - not all the time. I also have a 15 year old son that splits time between here and his dad's house.
My soon-to-be-ex is telling me that he doesn't care if by boyfriend stays here when our son isn't here, but he isn't allowed to be here when my son is here. Now, I pay all of the bills and utlities. I get absolutely nothing from the ex. He has threatened to call the police and have by boyfriend removed if he finds out he's staying here when my son is here. He keeps trying to use the fact that his name is on the house as leverage. But, he hasn't paid anything or lived here in almost 2 years. Does he have any say in whether my boyfriend stays here once in a while if he just rented a home with his girlfriend?
Help! By the way, I live in Ohio.5 AnswersMarriage & Divorce8 years ago
My husband and I have been together over 20 years and have a son who is 13! We live in a very small community and my husband has lived here his entire life. Our son is very involved in sports in the community, as is my husband. During all of the sports with our son, we become close friends with another couple and our children are best friends. We've been friends with them for about 5 years now, and have spent all sorts of time together at games, going to dinner, doing various activities, and going on vacations. Our children have the type of relationship that when one is not at home, they are at the others house. My so-called friend and I did things together without the children or the husbands. We were friends. So I thought!
About a year ago, I began have suspicions about my husband and this woman. They were getting a little too close. There were the subtle actions, looks, touches and the blatant late night phone calls. I confronted my husband 3 or so times with certain things I had witnessed and he kept telling me there was nothing going on, they were just friends. Uh huh! I told him that I was a pretty smart cookie and if there was anything to tell, he'd best do it while he had the chance.
8 months ago, I accessed his work e-mail account on my laptop and found all of the e-mails between the 2 of them. Hundreds of them. I confronted him and told him to try and lie to me some more. He was busted and he knew it. He confessed. He also said he didn't want a divorce and wanted to work things out.
A few months later, he moved out. After another month, she left her husband and moved into the apartment beside him. I'm still absolutely sick over this. Our divorce isn't final, and our son stays with me and is with his father every other weekend. But most of the time when he's at his father's house, he is at her house staying the night with his friend. Logically, I know this is fine, but the other part of me believes I couldn't trust her with my husband so how can I trust her with my child.
I have to see her at sporting events all year round and even had to watch her spend the Christmas holiday's at my in-laws, where I've spent the same holiday for the past 24 years.
One minute, I think I'm doing fine and the next, I feel sick and enraged? Will this feeling ever go away? Will I ever be okay with having my son around her? BTW, all of the kids know, to the point that her son who is my son's friend supposedly punched my soon to be ex. It's hard enough for me, but I know it's even harder for them.
I was hit with a double whammy. My husband stabbed me in the heart and my friend stabbed me in the back! Now, when my child is with her I feel like I'm getting stabbed again (not by my son).
I just don't know how to get over all of this!! Any thoughts?6 AnswersMarriage & Divorce9 years ago
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My husband and I, and she and her husband, have been friends for a number of years. Our children are best friends and practically live at one anothers houses. In the past 4-5 years, we've all gotten close and have spent time on various activities, dinners and vacations. She and I were supposedly good friends and we did many things together without the husbands.
In the past 8 months or so, I've been having a great many suspicions. I've confronted him a few times but he always denied the affair. Finally, I got him. Found all of the e-mails to and from her on his work e-mail account. Hundreds of them.
When I confronted him then, he had no choice but to admit it. Of course, he says he doesn't want a divorce. At this point, I don't know what I want and I have a lot of thinking to do.
One of the issues is that even if I try to work things out with my husband, who I've been with for nearly 20 years, I will have to see this woman all the time. Our children are both involved in sports and we see these people every weekend. We also live in a very small community. How can I possibly see her all the time. It will be a constant reminder. I feel like I've been stabbed in he heart by the husband and stabbed in the back by a friend. Double whammy! I just don't know how to possibly salvage this marriage knowing she will always be in both of our lives. I just want to shout out to all of our other friends to hold on to their husband, because she's on the loose.
Furthermore, do I tell her husband? He absolutely adores her and would do anything for her. I don't think he has any suspicions at all. And if I tell him, then our children know everything and it could affect their friendship.
This is a total mess!!16 AnswersMarriage & Divorce1 decade ago