A family member has been diagnosed with Parkinsons disease and he has been unwell for some time.( 3 years)
During that time I overheard a friend saying very unkind things about my family member and his disease she was laughing and mocking him this happened over a year ago she offered no support at that time.
Yesterday I recieved a message
from that friend telling me that her dad has recently been diagnosed with the same illness and she is devaststed.
What would be your response?Other - Diseases3 days ago
I have known this friend for many years.
She has been living apart from her partner for many years he works away and he won't allow her to visit
Every time he is due to come home he makes up a lot of excuses and leaves her hanging on and he don't turn up with no explanation.
My friend calls me and she pretends that all is well and she makes a lot of excuses for him.
When I try to be a friend and encourage her to talk to him about his behaviour she gets annoyed with me and gives me the cold shoulder for a few days.
I find it very hard to go along with her excuses about him
I try to make her understand that she needs to communicate with him and let him know how She feels
I am frustrated because she calls me upset but don't listen what I have to say
How do I manage this situation?
I care about her2 AnswersFriends3 weeks ago
I am a few years away from retiring.
I have a large mortgage on my current property.
I have found this one bed room apartment at a reduce cost in a desirable area and I am thinking of renting my current property and buy this apartment without selling my current property.
My question is do think increasing debt before retiring is a wrong move
I desperately trying to have one more chance of investing and hopefully make a right decision
What is your thoughts please3 AnswersRenting & Real Estate3 weeks ago
Am I being boring?
I have cancelled Christmas this year
The year 2020 has been awful with the pandemic and the current state of the economy.
I have worked flat out since the country lockdown
My friend says this should not be the case and I should keep Christmas the same
I plan to slim down Christmas no tree buy very little presents.
I prefer to donate the money to charity7 AnswersChristmas1 month ago
Any one out there who is good at writing a poem?
I have been nominated to write a poem for a nurse who is retiring after 30 years nursing she has worked very hard throughout thoes years
These are the things that she loves and should be included in the poem
She is a vegetarian
She is very organised and creative
and very clever
Her name is Sue
I would be grateful for any support
Any idea?3 AnswersPoetry2 months ago
Am I being unreasonable please advise me
My dad is in a nursing home and I struggle not seeing him due to the virus.
My Husband has Cancer
and my son has been going through challenging times and need my support.
I have two friends who both telephone me every day and off load with various things going on in their lives every time we talk 90 percent of the conversation is about them and they barely ask about me. They are aware of my situation
Why are they like this?
I really do need time out however I don't want to offend them.
How would you manage this situation?
Other then just switch my phone off6 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships3 months ago
My step daughter is 20 she already has a young baby aged 10 months
My stepdaughter telephoned and told me that she is pregnant she has asked me to keep it a secret until she is ready to tell her father my husband.
( I already know my husband will be very concerned how she will cope with two small children) also he will be very angry.
His daughter is unmarried and her partner is aged 40.
My husbands friend called me and said that he saw my step daughter and she looked very sad is everything OK with her.
I am feeling very upset that my step daughter told me to keep her secret from her dad
I feel torn and anxious I have asked my stepdaughter several times to please tell her dad 3 weeks later she has not said a word.
Help what should I do? and why do I keep feeling that it will back fires on me for keeping her secret8 AnswersFamily3 months ago
I am feeling very sad
My son who is 26 years old lives at home. I have been a single parent since he was 3 years old.
When he was younger I worked very hard I went to university finished my degree then went on to do my masters. This is so that in the future we would never have to suffer financially.
Just recently my son dropped a bombshell and told me that he resents me because I was an absent parent when he was younger and he had many caregivers all family members because of this he suffers with self confidance and anxiety.
This has made me feel remorseful and wish that I can rewind back time.
Working so hard back then was never my intention to ever make him feel this way.
Prior to him telling me this
I have always supported him
New car live rent free so that he can save money. I paid his university fees
I cook his meals and I always tell him that I love him
When ever he gets annoyed he then let's me know how he felt back then
Help how can I make amends?11 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships4 months ago
I have a wonderful girlfriend she is lovely in lovely in every way.
Sadly she lives apart from her husband for many reasons.
When ever myself and my husband go on vacation she ask a multitude of questions when? where? How much? and when will I be back.
Whist we are away I feel like a child who is about to be scolded knowing when I return there will be a fury of questions.
At times I feel like I dont ever want to tell her anything and I continually down play what we are doing
Every weekend she asks the same questions when are we getting together.
The other day I went out with a neighbour and My friend found out I avoided my friends calls for a few days and hoped she would have forgotten when I eventually spoke to my friend the first question she ask was How was the meal? Where did you go? Her questioning was very sarcastic
Unfortunately many of my friends are unmarried I do try my best to share myself with friends and hubby .
I have recently returned from a one week vacation and during that time I felt uneasy and I felt like I was preparing in my head the answers ready to give her on my return
This particular friend I cant work out why she behaves in this way?
What should I do? Advise please6 AnswersMarriage & Divorce5 months ago
I live in a nice neighbourhood
I have a large mortgage left on my property $100,000
I am thinking about downsizing to reduce the mortgage
I am keen to retire in the next two years.
My brother has offered to pay my mortgage off however he want to be put on the deeds..
My worry is I have a son and if my brother pays off my mortgage my son will receive no future inheritance
What is the best option please ?4 AnswersRenting & Real Estate5 months ago
I am the only Black employee in a team of Doctors.
The rest of the employees are all white
We all get along very well and I enjoy their
Since the unlawful death of George Floyd with all the protesting/ Marches
And Black Lives Matters demonstrations which I wholeheartedly support.
I am surprised that no one in my team has asked me how I am feeling or even acknowledged our struggles. Or at least say something that will show me they are aware of the situation.
When I walk in the room nothing is said
I am not sure if it is a good thing or a bad thing that 11 of my team members keeping quiet.
What are your thoughts ? (Genuine answers please)
Thank you1 AnswerOther - Politics & Government6 months ago