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  • 17 and still don't have my National Insurance Number??? HELP!!!?

    I'm 17 and still don't have my National Insurance Number?

    I was born in the UK, and I'm 100% British.

    I've looked online and rang every number I can find but it keeps telling me to fill in the form online yet when I look online, it says that you need to ring the number... the same number that's telling me to go online!!

    As you can see, I'm basically going round in circles. I've been to 2 different Job Centre Plus and both of them have said that they don't deal with National Insurance Numbers, so what do I do?

    I need a number to contact which I can actually SPEAK to somebody instead of an automatic response.

    If anyone can let me know of a number that would be great. Just please don't give me these because I've already tried them...

    0300 200 3502

    0845 600 0643

    1 AnswerInsurance6 years ago
  • Should I be bothered that my boyfriend is going on holiday with his dad?

    My boyfriend is 21 and we've been together for 2 years. He's going on holiday abroad with his dad & brother in September. I just think this fairly odd, because he hasn't been on holiday with me yet lol.

    I've never even been abroad. Me and him planned to go this year mainly for 2 weeks because obviously I haven't been before and my mum offered to pay for us both to go... So it would of been brilliant... but he's since ditched that idea and said he's going with his dad instead for a week.

    Should i be concerned over this? I was really looking forward to going with him but now he's saying that we'd only get a week away because of work... and he can't have that much time off. I probably sound really selfish, but it just seems really odd that he'd rather go on holiday with his dad rather than with his long term girlfriend?

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • My boyfriend is addicted to a game on his phone?

    Over a year ago my boyfriend downloaded a game on his iPhone, at first it wasn't anything too bad. He'd just play it when he was bored. He then got this chat room thing, which is full of lonely old men with nothing better to do. When he first got it, bless him he said that if i didn't like it then he would delete it, but I didn't have a problem with it so he kept it.

    It's different now though, he's on it all the time. He even admitted to me that he spends more time playing the game than being with me... which he does. He's changed too. He used to this loving caring person, who'd never do anything wrong and now he's the complete opposite. He's moody all the time, seems unhappy, we argue all the time, he gets snappy. He falls asleep playing the game, sometimes he'll even sleep with the phone in his hand and if I try to get it without waking him up, he'll jump up and ask me what I'm doing (even though I only want to put it on the side). My mum has noticed a huge change in his behavior, and that's when she pointed out to me that it could be the game. That he could be addicted. It's all fun and games being addicted and messing about, but I genuinely think that he is addicted and it's becoming a huge problem.

    I'm always thinking that we should just split up because he doesn't seem happy with me, but he says that he does love me and wants to be with me... which I'm thinking more and more about this game.

    We can't even have 1 day without him going on it, as he needs to keep checking it every hour. Every 4 weeks, the game holds an 'event' thing, so he's on it literally all day every day for a whole weekend. The only time he's not on it, is when he's asleep but he'll constantly wake up in the night just to check it.

    I spoke to him about it, but I've noticed he gets really aggressive and moody... he always denies that he's addicted and that it's not a problem, but it really is. Not just for me, but for him too. He can't seem to live without it.

    I'm at the end of my tether here. I really don't know what to do but I want to help him. Or at least give him some options so he can help himself. The longer he plays this game, the harder it's going to get for him to come off it.

    What can I do? What can he do? I've never heard of this before but my mum has told me that it happens often and can sometimes split up marriages. I don't want to end it with him, because i know it's not his fault, it's an addiction... But I'm running out of options.

    Thanks in advance

    5 AnswersFriends7 years ago
  • Trying to get a job with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome?

    So I was diagnosed with CFS a few years ago, I'm 18 now and I really need a job. I'm at college part time but I leave in April, and if I don't find a job by then, then my mum will have no choice but to throw me out as she won't be able to afford to keep me. Because I have CFS I'm constantly tired, and struggle day to day with muscle/joint pain. Sometimes, it's so bad that I just stay in bed all day because it hurts so much. I had a job interview last week, and I was really looking forward to it but when the time came, my mind went completely blank (brain fog). My words came out all muttered, I had no concentration or memory of anything I had researched before hand. I have anxiety, so that didn't help things either. I think it's obvious I didn't get the job, but I'm worrying now that I won't be able to get one at all. I mean who wants to hire someone with CFS? I really don't know what I'm going to do when I leave college. I just need/want a job but I'm finding it impossible to get one. I don't know what to do :/

    Other - Health7 years ago
  • Is this a good present for my boyfriend's 21st?!?! GUYS ONLY?

    I was thinking of making something like this for my boyfriend's 21st - Minus the chalk lol

    We've been together 2 years in May. Not just that but I wanted to make him a hangover kit too... and also give him a nuts magazine, as well as buying a nurse outfit for me to wear obv - possibly this one Since he loves nurses lol

    I was also going to get him some things for his car, since he'll be getting his new car at the end of March (and his birthday is March 12th)

    I was also going to make him breakfast, and either take him out for dinner or cook his dinner (naked).

    Would this be okay? I'm not sure and I'm really really struggling with ideas!

    Thanks in advance

    2 AnswersOther - Holidays7 years ago
  • My boyfriend hasn't invited me out with him for his 21st Birthday?

    My boyfriend never goes out at all... for one, he doesn't drink, and he doesn't really have any friends... except his brothers friends. It's his 21st birthday soon, I'm 18 so I'm legal to drink in the UK. I was really looking forward to go out on the town with him for the first time (because i've just turned 18). Not to mention, it's his 21st so it's going to be mad! But he hasn't invited me at all... I don't want to sound desperate and invite myself if that's not what he wants. If he wanted me to come, he would ask me right?

    Well why hasn't he asked me? We're in a long term relationship, it'll be 2 years in a few months. I don't want to go out with him every time, it just would of been nice this one time because it's a big birthday. He's going to Newcastle, and he'll be staying in a hotel. Should I be worried that he doesn't want me to go because he wants to go to strip clubs or dance with other girls? I trust him 100% but this is making me a little paranoid. I dunno what to think... is this right for him to do? or does it seem a little dodgy?

    7 AnswersSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • I'm a cake maker beginner. NEED HELP ASAP?

    It's my boyfriend's 21st birthday soon and I don't have a lot of money, so instead of getting him a ton of expensive gifts or some really crap small ones, I wanted to make him a birthday cake that looks like his car which is a ford fiesta. I can't find the exact same car tin for his car but I have one that's a car, not a sports car just a plain car which looks perfect. I was thinking of using sugar paste to decorate it, but apart from the sugar paste, i have no idea what other equipment I need. If anything I could do with a tutorial on how to decorate a car cake with sugar paste, but i can't seem to find one anywhere :( How do I make the sugar paste stick to the cake? Do I need to leave it to sit over night? I dunno anything about it! All I know is I really want to make it, because I can imagine buying a cake like that would be really expensive so I'd rather do it myself, and if it does go wrong I guess it makes it more personalized and my boyfriend won't be bothered cos it's the thought that counts isn't it? Do I just use a normal chocolate cake recipe? One from a box? Or do I need a certain amount? I just don't know!

    this is the cake tin:

    Any links to blogs or tutorials are appreciated and any advice or help too!

    Thank you :) I'm the UK too, so don't give me ingredients that I can't get here in the UK please. :)

    1 AnswerCooking & Recipes7 years ago
  • I'm so confused?! what does he want?!?

    Me and my fella have been together nearly 2 years. Everything was great at first as it always is, but after a while it started going down hill. He just isn't a loving boyfriend anymore. He's changed completely. Even though he's changed, I still do stuff for him. I cook for him, buy him little gifts, I've been collecting birthday presents for him (even though his birthday is in March - It's his 21st) (I wanted to get him loads of pressies but i don't have a lot of money, so i've been collecting them since September lol). I give him massages, write him little love notes.

    He isn't the romantic type, although when we first got together he was. This has been going on for a few months now, I've waited long enough for something to happen but it's stressing me out because I don't feel like he wants to be with me anymore, yet every time I bring up the fact maybe we should break up, he says that he doesn't want to break up, that he loves me ect... he just doesn't prove it anymore. We're arguing about this because I want a romantic happy relationship, and he doesn't want to be romantic towards me. Yet, he expects me to just let him walk all over me and treat me like ****. He says he's sick of the arguing but he's the one causing the arguments. I don't want him to buy me a car, or a bouquet of flowers every day but I at least want him to kiss me when he sees me, or give me a foot massage when I've had a long day. Just something at least, he doesn't even have to spend any money, but like I said every time I ask him if he wants to break up, he'll say no? I don't understand it at all, please. Can someone give me an insight in to what he's playing at, i'm so confused?

    6 AnswersSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • is this ungrateful ?!?

    So it's my boyfriend's 21st birthday in March. I'm at college, I have no job (college regulations, not allowed one until I leave otherwise my college money stops), and what he really really wants for his birthday is one of them experience days on in a supercar driving it around a track. Now they can cost a lot of money, it's like between £100-£500. I CAN'T afford that. So, I was talking to a few people and I've offered to do a few jobs and in return I get a free passenger ride in a super car on a race track for 3 miles. I know it's not what he wanted, but it's the next best thing and it's free. I went to a lot of trouble organizing this for him. If I could afford it, then I'd get him the driving experience, but until I leave college and get a job, i just simply cannot afford it. It hurts me to think that I can't get him what he really wants but at least I'm getting him the next best thing, and the best part of it is that it's free which means I can get him some smaller stuff too, like 'stocking fillers' but for his birthday obv lol.

    Anyway, I was talking to him about it cos I need to make sure he's free for those days (so he can book them off work) and he turned around and said to me that he didn't want it, he wanted to drive instead. To me, that's extremely ungrateful and it's really upset me. I'm hurt enough as it is knowing I don't have the money to get him what he wants, but for him to turn down something that I've gone to a lot of trouble for is just plain horrible, ungrateful and he's acting like he's spoilt.

    Am I right in saying this about him?

    5 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships7 years ago
  • My cats & my dog have fleas but we can't get rid of them?

    I have 4 cats and a dog and all of them have fleas. They've had them for a while now and every time my mum thinks she's got rid of them, they have them again. We know why, it's because our next door neighbor's cat's have fleas but they can't afford to flea them and so everytime my cats go into their house or near their cats they come home with fleas.

    This is getting serious now, my cats and dog are loosing their fur and coming up in rashes and bites because of their constant nipping at their own skin.

    Not really sure what to do other than pay for someone else' cat to be fleed? Which we won't do because we have enough animals to look after without having to pay for someone else's

    5 AnswersCats7 years ago
  • Anything to help an overactive bladder + alcohol?!?

    I have an overactive bladder and it's so annoying. I've had to stop drinking caffeine, fizzy drinks, alcohol, stop eating certain foods like spices & tomatoes and although this helps incredibly, there's just one thing that bothers me and that's the fact that I can't drink alcohol.

    I've just turned 18, all my friends are going out every weekend drinking themselves silly and I can't even have 1 small glass of wine without needing to pee every minute. Like honestly, I'm not over exaggerating when I say every minute. I'll go for a pee, and before i've even pulled my trousers up, I can already feel my bladder getting full again. & literally before i've even walked out the bathroom door, i'm dying for another wee. Ngl, but I have wet the bed on some occasions. Highly embarrassing considering one of the times I was at my boyfriend's house. He understand but it's still embarrassing. I was dreading going out last night/tonight (new years eve) because i knew everyone would be drinking and I knew that I'd be tempted to do so myself. I've had one small jagerbomb about half n hour ago and I've already been for a pee more than I do in a whole day! It's ridiculous. I'm tired, but I can't sleep.

    I'm staying at my boyfriends, and as annoying as it is his only bathroom is downstairs. So i'm having to sleep on his sofa because tbqh, i'd rather not keep running up and down the stairs every minute.

    I know you can get treatments to help you with your overactive bladder, but do anyone of them work with alcohol? if yes which ones, and if no, then is there anything to help me?

    I'm losing friends, and I'm terrified I'm going to lose my boyfriend as he turns 21 soon and I know for a fact he'll be wanting to go out more drinking as he's said so himself. I don't want to be a let down, this is driving me absolutely insane and I NEED help.

    Thank you in advance

    1 AnswerAlternative Medicine7 years ago
  • How do you break up with someone you love so much?

    me & my fella have been together nearly two years. At first it was great, he treated me like a princess. Did everything for me. I'll admit, I took him for granted. But I realized what I was doing was wrong, and vowed to change for him. I did change. It's weird, the other day he said something to me which really made me think. He said 'Last year, you didn't deserve me, and now I don't deserve you'. This is because, I do like everything for him. I've started to cook for him (which I never even did for myself). I run him baths, I buy him little random gifts every so often. I brought him a 'thank you' card & wrote inside a huge paragraph as to why I was thankful for him, (it even made him cry). I do all these little romantic things for him to keep the spark alive, and although I absolutely adore doing it for him, I kinda feel left out. I know this is how he would of felt, but he knows how sorry I am for all of that and I kinda feel like I've made it up to him now... He's showing all the signs of falling out of love with me, but every time I speak to him about it and ask him if he still wants to be with me, he says he does & that he does still love me. I'm so confused. I'm so unhappy, and I guess I've stayed with him because I'm hoping for that day when he decides to change. I know he isn't cheating on me, apart from the fact that he would never do that to me, he can't anyway lol. My brother works with him, so I'm sure my brother would tell me if something was going on at work, I always check his phone because he lets me... I don't do it to be sneakily, but I don't have a phone atm so he lets me use his. I know his Facebook Password, and he doesn't really have any friends so I don't need to be worried about him cheating on me. He isn't that type of guy. I'm his first proper long term girlfriend. He's kinda new to it all but it's still no excuse for him to treat me like ****. The reason I took him for granted at the start is because of my previous relationship, I was allowed to do all of that with my ex and he didn't mind and I guess I got caught up in it all, and thought this relationship would be the same. But I learned my lesson, and changed my ways for him.

    I have this feeling, that he's doing all of this to me because he isn't man enough to break up with me himself. I know I should break up with him, but it's really hard because I don't want too and I don't know if he does either because he won't tell me anything.

    Anyway, the question is... How do you break up with someone you love so much?

    2 AnswersSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • I have a weak bladder and it's driving me mad, help?

    I have such a weak bladder. I can't drink alcohol or caffeine or anything fizzy, tbh the only thing I can drink is water and even that makes me wee a lot but obviously I need to drink that to keep hydrated.

    I can't go out in cold weather because I'm constantly going for a wee. I need to wear a pad all the time, in case I dribble (sorry for the tmi). At night, I need to go 3-4 times before I actually get off to sleep, and I'm still waking up in the middle of the night for another 1-2 times. I try not to drink for like an hour before I go to bed.

    It's driving me mad all the time. My sex life is going down south because every time we have sex or yanoe (sorry again for the tmi) he fingers me, it gives me a water infection. I'm at loss at what to do.

    I've just turned 18 and so I should be going out, drinking with my friends but I can't. I can't even have a glass of wine with my meals when I'm out because it'll just ruin my whole night and tbh it's not worth it.

    Is there anything you can suggest or anything a doctor would be able to do?!

    Thanks in advance :)

    3 AnswersOther - General Health Care7 years ago
  • Is it a bad idea for my mum to come to my ann summers party?

    I've just won a free Ann Summers Pj Party, and because I live with my mum and it will be happening at her house she's invited herself to join in, which I don't mind.. but is it a good idea? Will it be awkward do you think? I'm 18 btw x

    2 AnswersOther - Beauty & Style7 years ago
  • Not sure what to do? Depression & Anxiety?!?

    I have depression & anxiety, and I know i'm difficult to live with. I've been with my boyfriend for little over a year, I've been open about my mental health since the beginning n he said he could handle it, but we've hit a rough patch in our relationship, and I'm starting to doubt that he can actually cope with me. I asked him tonight, and he said he wasn't sure anymore. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but I can tell that my health is taking a toll on his health. Am I being selfish by carrying on the relationship when I know that he can't handle it? I love him so much, and I care about his health, but then because I love him, I don't wanna lose him. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to hurt him, but I'm doing so by being with him because I'm constantly down, and feeling suicidal. I'm at the doctors tomorrow to see if I can go on medication now I'm 18 but I know that it can sometimes make you worse.

    Do I leave him now even though we both want to be with each other?


    Do I stay with him? & if I stayed with him, is there anything he could do to make life easier for himself? Like counselling or something?

    I just don't know what to do. I'm happy with him, a lot more happy than I am without him. But should I be more concerned about my happiness or his? :/

    1 AnswerMental Health7 years ago
  • I don't see the point in anything anymore?

    I have depression, social anxiety, a sleeping disorder & chronic fatigue syndrome. Every part of my life gets taken over by one of these things. I can't write without my body feeling pain, I can't sleep properly, I have to cancel my plans to catch up on sleep, I can't eat out or meet new people straight away, I have to build my confidence up to that and by then it's too late. I'm depressed all the time, I have spoken to a doctor but he doesn't think it's wise for me to be taking medication even though I've told him over & over again that I think I need it. I do often think about committing suicide. I don't want to take the cowardly way out though, I want to live. I just can't see myself getting better. I started college a few weeks ago, but have only just been put in a new class full of people i don't know. We had to do this painting thing, and something just came over me & I ran out and went home. I'll probably go in today and get told off, but I've explained to them about social anxiety and they just don't seem to care. I'm currently on & off with my boyfriend whom I've been with for the past year... all this that's going on with me, my depression, anxiety, sleeping it's all taking it's toll on him. I really love him, but I understand he isn't able to cope with it because I'm struggling myself. I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel myself questioning everything I do, asking myself why I'm doing it anyway, like what's the point? Telling myself that it's a waste of time. I always think the worst of EVERYTHING & i've had enough. I just need some decent advice, the only person I feel that I can talk to is my boyfriend, but he can't cope with it so I don't want to make things worse for him :/ I've tried counselling, I've been doing it since I was about 5 and I just don't think it helps me in any way, shape or form. So please don't suggest counselling.

    3 AnswersMental Health7 years ago
  • Would working as a sexual health promoter give me the experience needed to work in a sexual health clinic?

    Basically what the question asks! Probably not one of those people who 'investigate' what's going on down there (because I'm guessing i'd have to go to Uni for that), but one of the staff who asks the questions to find out people's sexual backgrounds & does the injections and stuff? I'm just wondering if it would take me anywhere other than being a promoter, because obviously I don't want to do that for the rest of my life, but I'd like to actually work in a sexual health clinic.

    Also, does anybody know the estimated pay rate for a promoter? Because I'd obviously have to use that money to pay board and stuff, so I'm wondering if I'd need a second job or not?

    2 AnswersHealth Care7 years ago
  • Would working as a sexual health promoter give me the experience needed to work in a sexual health clinic?

    Basically what the question asks! Probably not one of those people who 'investigate' what's going on down there (because I'm guessing i'd have to go to Uni for that), but one of the staff who asks the questions to find out people's sexual backgrounds & does the injections and stuff? I'm just wondering if it would take me anywhere other than being a promoter, because obviously I don't want to do that for the rest of my life, but I'd like to actually work in a sexual health clinic.

    Also, does anybody know the estimated pay rate for a promoter? Because I'd obviously have to use that money to pay board and stuff, so I'm wondering if I'd need a second job or not?

    1 AnswerOther - Education7 years ago
  • I'm taller than my boyfriend?!?!?

    So I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 20. He is quite small for his age, but it's nothing I haven't seen before. My ex was the same -.- but anyway, I'm 5 ft 8 and he's a few inches smaller than me, which I've not got a problem with. It's when I'm wearing heels that it bothers me. I feel like I intimidate him, and he feels that too. I can't even hold is hand because I'm that tall against him, I have to like bend down a little to hold it. & I have to bend down to kiss him too. I don't wanna break up with him over his height because I'm not that shallow, but he isn't comfortable with it either. It's like when I see a woman who's taller than her boyfriend, I laugh. Because it does look funny, and I'm nervous to go out with him whilst I'm wearing heels :/ How do I overcome this fear? I do love him, and he loves me too but I'm a shy person, and I'm very self conscious as it is. I just don't know what to do. It's my 18th in 2 months, so I'll be going out a lot after then, and I'll be wearing heels a lot more too. He looks more like my little brother than my boyfriend, and I know that's harsh but that's how I feel :/ I really really want & need to overcome this, so any advice will be helpful? Thank you

    5 AnswersSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • Relationship help please?!?

    I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. We love each other so so much, but I have depression and I have a lot of problems that come with that. Mood swings are the worst, and we always get into stupid arguments about stupid stuff. One minute I'm fine, the next I'm raging. It's so hard for me to deal with, and so I can imagine what he's going through. I've had a **** life, and this last year hasn't been much better apart from the fact I have him, and he's helped me so much with everything that's gone off. But he's saying that he can't take it anymore, my mood swings, my depression & I understand that I really do, I can't take it really but it's something I have to live with so I haven't got a choice, he has though. He wants to be with me but another part of him doesn't want all the stress that comes with having depression. I want him more than anything, but I also want him to be happy. I'm getting counselling sorted in the next few weeks to see if that will help, but I have a mental illness and I'm pretty sure that talking to someone won't help that much. I love him, I honestly do but would it just be better for him if I left him now instead of ruining his life with the stress of having to look after me? I don't know if that's the right thing to do though. I want him to be happy, even if that's without me but I can't imagine him with anyone else, it breaks my heart to think of him with somebody else. I don't know what to do :/