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  • Boyfriend currently doing basic training for raf?

    I just wondered if anyone knew how often they get to make phone calls during there training?

    3 AnswersMilitary7 years ago
  • Boyfriends moving away?

    My boyfriends just joined the raf and leaves today to start his training. I won't see him for another 6 weeks now, I'm really happy for him following his dreams but I'm so upset I can't see him for so long. I should also add that I'm 28 weeks pregnant, so I'm sure my hormones are making me a lot more emotional than usual. The pregnancy was unplanned and he had already started his application to the job when we found out about baby and agreed he'd still carry on with it. I'm just starting to feel a little overwhelmed about everything now he's gone and there's not much longer until my due date. After his first 6 weeks he'll be back home at weekends for the next 7 months, then after this depending on where he gets based I should be able to move with him. Any tips on how I can cope a little easier for then next 6 weeks that he's gone?? Thanks

    2 AnswersSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • Pregnant always worrying?

    I'm now 22+5 and have been feeling baby start to kick the last couple if weeks. But I have days where I don't feel him at all and can't help but worry something is wrong! When do the kicks become regular? I haven't really felt him today or yesterday. I see my midwife on Wednesday so hopefully all is good then.

    1 AnswerPregnancy7 years ago
  • Worried about becoming a mum?

    I'm 24 years old and 4 and a half months pregnant. The pregnancy was unplanned but I decided to continue with it as I felt I couldn't abort and I'm old enough to take the responsibilities. My boyfriend did not want me to keep the baby as its not a good time as he's trying to join the raf at the moment and will be away for long periods of time if he gets in. We're still together but things have be tough the last couple of months. I'm scared about him going away and thinking of all the things I won't be able to do once the baby gets here as I won't have him around. I don't doubt my decision, but one moment I'm excited to find out the sex of the baby and the next I'm worrying about how life will change so much. Is it normal to have these fears in the beginning? In some respects I feel I will almost be a single parent and that terrifies me. Any advice from first time mums or anyone else having worries during pregnancy?

    7 AnswersParenting7 years ago
  • Boyfriend joining the raf?

    My boyfriend is about to do his final test for the raf and as long as all goes well he'll be leaving to start basic training at the end of June. I completely support his career dreams but I am worried about how long he'll be away for in the beginning as I'm 4 and half months pregnant. The pregnancy was not planned and at one point he wasn't sure if he should continue joining but I said if its what he really wants then he should carry on. I just wanted any advice from other families in raf? And how long the training goes on for exactly? Will I be able to move with him once his training is complete?

    3 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships7 years ago
  • Should I tell him to leave?

    I'm 4 months pregnant and it was unplanned. My bf said from the beginning he did not want a baby right now, he trying to get into a new career and would away from home a lot. I can understand his reasons for saying this but I just couldn't abort my baby and decided to keep it (by the way I am 24 he is 26). He said he wouldn't run away from his responsibilities and that he still wanted to be with me so we stayed together. Since then we've had a lot of issues involving his family towards my pregnancy and its put a lot of strain on the relationship. We have ended up arguing a lot and to point where I said we should take a break for a few weeks to get some space, he's very difficult to get to talk about his feelings and he didnt say much when I brought this up and just agreed with me. We said we'd still stay in contact over the phone if either one of us wanted to talk. Well it's been about a week and I called him yesterday to discuss something and he sounded very unhappy when I spoke to him and I said this to him and he replied that he wasn't happy, when I asked him to explain he said he couldn't talk because he was with a friend at the time. But I'm so confused about how make things right, I haven't tried to make him feel like he's trapped, I've said to him before if he didnt want to be involved in this then he didnt have to be but he didnt leave. But he's clearly not happy in the relationship and I don't know what to do. I think maybe he doesn't want to split up and leave me pregnant alone and perhaps he wants me to initiate the break up for him. I don't want to lose but I can't go on in the relationship knowing he's so unhappy. He's agreed to meet me tomorrow so we can talk then, but I just don't know what to do anymore?! I'm so stressed and I've been a complete wreck the last week and ended up being signed off work and put back on antidepressants. Should I tell him to leave or carry on trying to work things out? I'm exhausted though and don't feel like he even wants to sort things out anymore, Which is why I get the impression he is waiting for me to break up with him. Any advice please?

    6 AnswersSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • Angry and aggressive with boyfriend during argument?

    I have been under a lot of stress recently due to the fact I'm pregnant, my bf doesn't want it and recently told his ex because he has kids with her, she went mental and tried to get him back to hurt me. He also told his mum and she called me stupid. Anyway all of this has been getting on top of me and the last couple of arguments I've had with my bf I've gotten so angry I end up pushing him quite aggressively. Obviously he's not been happy about it and I know it was wrong of me to do so. I just don't understand why I've suddenly become like this, I've never been aggressive or violent with anyone before. Could my outbursts be caused by stress? I am wondering if I should speak to my doctor as I'm worried I might do it again. Any advice please?

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating7 years ago
  • Angry and aggressive, stress related?

    I have been under a lot of stress recently due to the fact I'm pregnant, my bf doesn't want it and recently told his ex because he has kids with her, she went mental and tried to get him back to hurt me. He also told his mum and she called me stupid. Anyway all of this has been getting on top of me and the last couple of arguments I've had with my bf I've gotten so angry I end up pushing him quite aggressively. Obviously he's not been happy about it and I know it was wrong of me to do so. I just don't understand why I've suddenly become like this, I've never been aggressive or violent with anyone before. Could my outbursts be caused by stress? I am wondering if I should speak to my doctor as I'm worried I might do it again. Any advice please?

    1 AnswerFamily7 years ago
  • His ex sending me nasty msgs on fb?

    First off let me say I am 24 yrs old my boyfriend is 26 yrs old, this is not some high school drama but I do need some advice please. So I am 13 weeks pregnant, the pregnancy was unplanned and I decided to keep the baby. My bf was not happy about this but sticking by me. He has 2 kids with his ex and is understandably concerned about a third one on the way, money wise and so on. He decided that he should tell his ex and did so yesterday. At the moment I don't know exactly what he said to her, I will find out later today when he finished work. But this morning I wake up to find a msg from her on fb (we are not friends) calling me a silly little girl for getting pregnant and that I'm basically ruining all of there lives! They split up just over 2 yrs ago, she cheated on him and never told him, he eventually found out and left. He still sees his kids twice a week. Anyway I think it was completely out of order the way she spoke to me and aside from their kids having a new brother or sister, it is not her business to get involved in. How do I deal with this? It is causing me a lot of unnessasary stress right now. Any advice please?

    13 AnswersMarriage & Divorce8 years ago
  • Problems with boyfriend?

    I just want to get some issues off my chest really and maybe some advice. So me and my boyfriend have been dating about a year and did break for a while in between because he had issue coming out of another relationship and wasn't really ready at the time to start seeing someone new. I was upset but moved on from it, then months later he started getting in contact with me again and apologised for the way things were before and explained how he did really want to be with me. We began dating again and everything was going well until I fell pregnant a few months ago. I decided I just couldn't terminate the pregnancy and he explained how he didn't want to have a baby right now but has stayed with me despite this. He already has 2 kids from his previous relationship so it has been a big worry for him to now know he will have another child to support and guess I have been selfish in thinking he should be happier about our baby when he isn't. I also told friends about it after having my first scan and now some people he knows have found out which he was very angry about as he then explained he wasn't ready to tell people. I realise what I did was wrong and apologised but he's still very annoyed, I'm just trying to give him space now. We've also been arguing a lot recently, and it is mainly me picking the fights and pushing him away but I don't know why, the last thing I want is to lose him as I do love him. I'm worried he'll have had enough now and not want to be with me anymore but I want to make this work. I plan to explain all of this to him when he's ready to speak to me. Any advice on how to save this relationship before its too late??

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating8 years ago
  • In trouble with boyfriend?

    So I'll be 13 weeks pregnant tomorrow and just had my first scan last week. Everything is fine with the baby and got a few scan pics. Happy about this I posted one on fb forgetting that a couple of my bf work mates are also friends with me on there. Just got an angry call from bf saying people are congratulating him at work when he wasn't ready to tell people yet. I feel awful and never meant to upset him I was just excited to let my friends know. I've apologised several times but he's so angry with me, I don't know how to fix this. He's worried his family will find out now and his ex who he has 2 kids with already. I feel so bad about it, I obviously should have spoken to him about it first. Any advice how to put things right??

    4 AnswersSingles & Dating8 years ago
  • He has kids with his ex?

    So I started seeing this guy in 2011 for about 6 months but it ended because he wasn't over his ex and was going over her place every day apparently only to visit the kids but I think he wanted to check up on his ex as well. Also he would say we were in a relationship and keeping me a secret from his mum and stuff. After about 6 or 7 months he got in contact with me again and at the time I had no interest in seeing him again but eventually I met up with him for a drink. After meeting a few times and talking we started seeing each other again and he told his mum about me straight away and now he has two set days a week where he see his kids and does not hangout at his exs place with them anymore. He's also introduced me to the kids as well now. The only problem is I'm starting to think it was a bad idea to get involved again as I can't help but worry he'll suddenly decide he wants to get back with ex, as it took so long for him to move on. And I hate it whenever she calls or texts him, which is every week because of the kids. What's even worse Is that I am now pregnant (accidental). Maybe it's just the hormones playing up as I have been having a lot of mood swings recently. Will I ever be ok about him and his ex having kids, I don't feel like I'll ever be ok with it and don't know wht to do now. Any advice please?

    4 AnswersMarriage & Divorce8 years ago
  • Pregnant feel ill all the time?

    I'm 7 weeks pregnant and the last couple of weeks I've been feeling unwell most of the time, but not just like morning sickness, just generally unwell. My stomach feels empty all the time even though I am trying to eat often. Can't tell if this is just pregnancy symptoms or if I'm actually ill. Still waiting to see the midwife, until then just wondered if anyone else felt like this while pregnant?

    4 AnswersPregnancy8 years ago
  • Pregnant, pinkish discharge?

    I'm about 6 weeks pregnant and when I went to toilet earlier today I noticed some pinkish discharge left in the toilet and on the toilet paper, I'm a bit worried this could be the start of a miscarriage? I've got some slight cramping as well. I'm going to go to the doctors tomorrow but just wondered if this is normal or not?

    2 AnswersPregnancy8 years ago
  • Pregnant and boyfriend joining raf soon?

    So I found a couple of weeks ago that I'm pregnant and it's the worse timing because my boyfriend is in the process of joining the raf and says he can't join now because he won't be around for me and the baby. But I don't want him to give up on his dreams and there must be so many other people in the raf who also have families. Any advice from anyone in similar situation please?

    2 AnswersPregnancy8 years ago
  • Pregnant, boyfriend doesn't want me to keep baby?

    I found out unexpectedly that I'm pregnant 2 weeks ago and my boyfriend has said from the moment I told him that he doesn't want a baby right now. However I have been through an abortion before and can't face doing that again and have decided to keep the baby (just to add I have been on the pill the whole time we have been together). I told him this last night and been thinking it through since I found out. He was not happy with my decision which I was already expecting. His main issue is that he is currently trying to join the RAF and will be away training for about a year ( I'll still see him some weekends) and he's worrid because he won't be around to help me, and has now said he's not sure if he'll still join. But I know how excited he was about joining and I haven't once asked him not to go ahead with it. We had already discussed that once his training is over I would move with him to where ever he gets based, providing I can! I don't know what to do now, partly feel like he's saying he won't go to make me feel guilty and change my mind. Any advice please??

    12 AnswersPregnancy8 years ago
  • I don't want to be me, lonely, depressed?

    I feel like my life is going no where and I barely have any friends left, I don't know what's happened to me. I have no motervation to do anything, I just want to sleep all the time. I wish I had a different life but I don't know how to change things. I've always been quite shy so I find it difficult to be myself around people, and I don't really like myself to be honest. How can I change my way of thinking?

    4 AnswersMental Health8 years ago
  • How to get over anxiety?

    Sometimes i get really anxious in certain situations like when i go out i'll be fine and then suddenly i start feeling really sick and panic, also i have a fear of being sick so when i get like this i freak out even more that i'm going to be sick!! Also i get this really empty feeling in my stomach like i haven't eaten for hours even when i've just eaten a meal, and a feeling like a lump is in my throat similar to when you feel like you're going to cry. This has been going on every so often for years now but recently it has got worse and i just started seeing someone new and i get very nervous when we meet up which makes me feel sick and sometimes when he stays over mine i can't ever sleep properly then feel like crap the next day! Has anyone else suffered from anything like this? My doctor has told me see a councilor so i'm hoping this will help. It's starting to drive me crazy and stopping me from enjoying normal things in life!

    1 AnswerMental Health8 years ago
  • how can i stop being so self conscious?

    I'm really self conscious about the way i look and it's ruining my sex life. I'm not over weight, i'm a size 8-10 but i just hate my body because i have stretch marks and cellulite on my thighs. Also i hate making eye contact during sex, i can hold it for a few seconds then i have to look away, i find it makes me feel very uncomfortable but my boyfriend likes to keep eye contact. I have told him how i feel and he tries to make me feel better by telling me he loves the way i look but i just can't seem to get past my issues and sometimes it ends up ruining the moment! any advice on how to be more confident? Thanks

    4 AnswersSingles & Dating9 years ago
  • How can i get over him when i have to see him all the time?

    I was seeing this guy for awhile, he had 2 young kids and pretty much saw his ex everyday to see them. I thought i could deal with it but i couldn't and now he's said he just wants to be friends. I'm really gutted because i was really falling for this guy and i'm finding it hard to move, and to make matters worse i have to see 5 days of the week at work. Any advice on how to move on and try to forget about him?!

    1 AnswerSingles & Dating9 years ago