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I would rather live out of reality all the time with a false sense of happiness, than live in reality with short lived happiness that always makes me feel worse when it fades.

  • Juvenile detention center assessment?

    I was arrested for grand theft auto about a month ago and was given a court date for April 2ed. We received a letter in the mail about a week ago saying that I needed to come and have a JDC assessment or something like that. It said something I said or wrote down in a PERT(I think?) thing needed further attention or something in the situation needed attention. I have no idea what this assessment is or anything about what may go on.

    I was previously arrested for a battery charge 2 or 3 years ago, and this did not happen.

    So I guess my questions are:

    What is a JDC assessment?

    What will they do in the assessment?

    Why did it happen this time and not the last time?

    Is there a possibility of me going to a detention center today before my court date on April 2ed?

    Sorry if any of the above questions are stupid. I dont really know whats going on so, ya.

    Thanks!

    1 AnswerLaw & Ethics6 years ago
  • What could I get this this crime?

    Ill give you as much info as possible surrounding the situation. Sorry if some of it is irrelevant, I just want to be thorough.

    So I am 16 years old in Orlando, Florida and a few weeks ago I decided I was going to take my parents car for the night and try to see some friends and pick up my things from their house (I know, very stupid). Well I have never had a license or permit and have never studied for it either. I have driven only about 30 mins practice before then. I took the car and was gone for about 5 or 6 hours (ended up getting lost).

    At the end of the night there was no damage to the car and I was arrested in a wawa parking lot. I did not resist and I had nothing illegal on me. I wast to the JAC and was released a few hours later with a court date about a month away.

    There were people in the car I did not know and people driving the car I did not know (i know, it keeps getting worse. im just trying to see if this will effect any sentence haha)

    I do not work and I do not go to school (looking in to my GED today). I have had one prior arrest for battery/domestic violence but it was expunged.

    So im pretty much asking what im looking at. Probation, community service, juvi (and how long if so)?

    Please let me know and ive been lectured enough about it, so im just looking for answers haha. Thanks :)

    4 AnswersLaw & Ethics6 years ago
  • 16 to 24 law in Florida?

    I am 16 and my boyfriend is 22 and I live in Florida. My parents are very unhappy and say that he could go to jail for statutory rape. So "if" we have had sex in the past, is it possible? Is the 16 to 24 law in Florida and is he in any danger of going to jail?

    4 AnswersLaw & Ethics7 years ago
  • The Deerslayer book reviews?

    Im writing a research paper on the book "The Deerslayer".

    As a part of the paper I need to also write about the reviews. There are no reviews that I can find. Not in the book and not online. Im looking for reviews that are from places like the New York Times, USA today, Entertainment weekly, ect. I've checked on their websites to see if they reviewed the book and they did not. So im looking for reviews from places similar like that.

    I would prefer to not have reviews from a person who reads it and just blogs about it on their website. Such as: "This book was bla bla bla. I think that bla bla bla...." - Jane Doe

    on her website/blog. Please no.

    Hopefully you know what im trying to ask. Please help me look for reviews of this book? I've been searching for 2 and a half hours. Maybe a new set of eyes will find something.

    Thanks.

    1 AnswerBooks & Authors9 years ago
  • Borderline personality disorder - cluster B?

    I have been diagnosed with BPD cluster B for a little over a year now. I've been on so many medications I cant remember all of them for my life. A few have been Seroquel 600mg daily, abilify, cymbalta, prozac, and...thats all I can think of right now.

    Right now im only on 200mg of Wellbutrin, 100mg of Lamictal (morning) and 150mg of Trazodone (night).

    I want to be normal. The "behaviors" they see that put me into the category are what I want to go away. The "black and white thinking, self-image, self-harm, relationship crap, drug use(I kind of like drugs actually...its a love/hate thing sometimes)", and everything to just go away. I have seen these behaviors in myself.

    I have tried medication for about two years. Two years of outpatient psychotherapy and I have a psychiatrist that I see on a monthly basis. I have been baker acted around 7 times. Put into residential treatment for 5 months.

    Im getting sick of this. I have been diagnosed with depression, bi-polar, and BPD cl2. Im tired of this all. I have a history of burning, cutting, and use pot regularly (ive been off it for 17 days. just got out of the hospital). I have attempted suicide 5 or 6 times (pills usually and once hanging. Both attempted recently). Im getting to my breaking point.

    I just want the behaviors to go away. They are tearing me apart and I hate it so much. Medication isnt doing a damn thing and I just want something to work. Im pretty sure this will never go away.

    My main question here I guess....

    How do I fake not having these behaviors? (BPDcl2)

    They are not only hurting me, but others. I don't know how much longer I can do this.

    I'm hoping that maybe if I start fooling everyone else around me that I dont think that way or do those things, that eventually, I will start to fool myself. I don't want to keep thinking this way and doing that crap. It's like I cant control it. I don't think about it when im doing it...it seems normal. After a while, I realized that what I did isnt normal. The way I was thinking isnt normal. I try to numb it with pot...

    How do I fake it???

    I dont care if I dont fool myself, I just want to fool others.

    Please tell me how I can fake it. I seem so messed up. I think everyone sees me as this difficult and crazy person. I seem normal at first, but once you really get to know me...you see all the reasons why I have been diagnosed with BPD. I just want to be normal. Even if I fake it.

    If I fake it so that others can't see the behaviors and the way I think, then I will be happy.

    An extra thing is that I hope it will also fool me after a while. If it doesnt, I dont care. As long as I have other people fooled.

    This probably doesn't make much sense to you...I can't find the right words.

    Just please.

    4 AnswersMental Health9 years ago
  • How do I make myself calm down (long)?

    Lately I have been getting angry. Extremely angry and I don't know how to calm down. I look back on all my past mistakes and burn myself. I say over and over "you deserve this for ____". I wish I could go back and change things. I get so angry with things that I have done.

    I was just released from the hospital after 8 days yesterday. I was in there for attempted suicide, cutting, and burning.

    Friday the 10th I went out to get some drugs. Early Saturday morning on the 11th the dealer molested me. Sunday the 12th my boyfriend left me (he knew what happened). We were together for 4 months and he left me over text message when I needed him the most.

    It seemed like everything came down so quickly. I tried SO DAMN HARD to keep everything from falling down. A few weeks before I saw that everything was crumbling. I tried so hard. It finally came down. It's like everything is a little pebble. Those pebbles built a mountain. The last little pebble fell and everything crashed down around me.

    I tried so hard to keep everything from falling down! So hard! It all finally came down and I didn't know what to do.

    I constantly wish I could go back to February 10th at 8am and change everything. I get so angry at myself and crap that I have done over the past two months. I don't know how to get myself to calm down.

    I have been off pot for 17 days (which I recently found out it was laced with cocaine), but I don't know how much longer I can keep that up. It numbs me. For a few days I don't feel anything. I don't want to feel anything anymore. Ever. It hurts too much. The "happy" times don't make up for the times that I am angry, hurt, and feel like complete crap.

    I have tried all the "breathing" crap and that does not work at all. I just want to stop feeling angry, hurt, and torn. I don't know what to do. 40 hours and 14 minuets. That's how long it took everything to fall down. I never thought it would go that fast. 11:17 on Friday to Sunday at 3:58. It seemed like everything went away so fast...

    I realized a couple days ago that things will not go back to normal, no matter how much I want them to. That probably tore me apart the most. I sat in my hospital room crying for hours and wishing I just had a blunt so I could get the F--- over it.

    I don't know what to do anymore. Drugs seemed to be the answer to my problems. Now my problem is drugs. The only answer that I see to this problem is more drugs. Because thinking about my problems makes me upset....and drugs numb those feelings....I feel trapped. Like no matter how I feel the answer will always be drugs. When I feel trapped...I do more drugs. Im trapped in this cycle.

    Im sick of all of this. I want it all to go away. I don't know how much longer I can take all of this. Sometimes I feel like getting weed and saying "F--- it" and smoking it so ill never feel again

    (I start with a zip-lock sandwich bag and smoke that in 1 or two days. That keeps me high for a few days until I can get another bag and do the same thing over and over). The hallucinations and the numb feeling I get emotionally make me content for once. Everythings off my mind.

    I feel like taking one of my pills (Trazodone 150mg) whenever I feel angry and hurt, and just fall asleep so I dont have to feel anymore.

    What can I do to calm down when I feel that way. Please let me know.

    5 AnswersPhilosophy9 years ago
  • (long...) How can I make myself calm down?

    Lately I have been getting angry. Extremely angry and I don't know how to calm down. I look back on all my past mistakes and burn myself. I say over and over "you deserve this for ____". I wish I could go back and change things. I get so angry with things that I have done.

    I was just released from the hospital after 8 days yesterday. I was in there for attempted suicide, cutting, and burning.

    Friday the 10th I went out to get some drugs. Early Saturday morning on the 11th the dealer molested me. Sunday the 12th my boyfriend left me (he knew what happened). We were together for 4 months and he left me over text message when I needed him the most.

    It seemed like everything came down so quickly. I tried SO DAMN HARD to keep everything from falling down. A few weeks before I saw that everything was crumbling. I tried so hard. It finally came down. It's like everything is a little pebble. Those pebbles built a mountain. The last little pebble fell and everything crashed down around me.

    I tried so hard to keep everything from falling down! So hard! It all finally came down and I didn't know what to do.

    I constantly wish I could go back to February 10th at 8am and change everything. I get so angry at myself and crap that I have done over the past two months. I don't know how to get myself to calm down.

    I have been off pot for 17 days (which I recently found out it was laced with cocaine), but I don't know how much longer I can keep that up. It numbs me. For a few days I don't feel anything. I don't want to feel anything anymore. Ever. It hurts too much. The "happy" times don't make up for the times that I am angry, hurt, and feel like complete crap.

    I have tried all the "breathing" crap and that does not work at all. I just want to stop feeling angry, hurt, and torn. I don't know what to do. 40 hours and 14 minuets. That's how long it took everything to fall down. I never thought it would go that fast. 11:17 on Friday to Sunday at 3:58. It seemed like everything went away so fast...

    I realized a couple days ago that things will not go back to normal, no matter how much I want them to. That probably tore me apart the most. I sat in my hospital room crying for hours and wishing I just had a blunt so I could get the F--- over it.

    I don't know what to do anymore. Drugs seemed to be the answer to my problems. Now my problem is drugs. The only answer that I see to this problem is more drugs. Because thinking about my problems makes me upset....and drugs numb those feelings....I feel trapped. Like no matter how I feel the answer will always be drugs. When I feel trapped...I do more drugs. Im trapped in this cycle.

    Im sick of all of this. I want it all to go away. I don't know how much longer I can take all of this. Sometimes I feel like getting weed and saying "F--- it" and smoking it so ill never feel again

    (I start with a zip-lock sandwich bag and smoke that in 1 or two days. That keeps me high for a few days until I can get another bag and do the same thing over and over). The hallucinations and the numb feeling I get emotionally make me content for once. Everythings off my mind.

    I feel like taking one of my pills (Trazodone 150mg) whenever I feel angry and hurt, and just fall asleep so I dont have to feel anymore.

    What can I do to calm down when I feel that way. Please let me know.

    (I dont know what category to put this in...Ill just put it in the first suggested one. Sorry if that's wrong.)

    2 AnswersPsychology9 years ago
  • Suicide hotline question?

    Im thinking about calling the Suicide Hotline (1-800-273-8255). My main concern is that I don't want the police to come banging on my door and dragging me to a Baker Act center. Is there any chance of this happening?

    Please answer soon. Thank you.

    6 AnswersPsychology9 years ago
  • Why do I feel this way? (long..ish)?

    I feel like I always have to make people happy in order to make myself happy. If I cant make someone happy then I cant feel good about myself. Its not even "people" in general. Just males...I just want to feel wanted. It surprises me when someone wants me because I was bullied all through out middle school. I've changed a lot since then, but every time I look in the mirror I see the same ugly little girl. I have a need to be wanted and to be enough for people. I feel like I just need approval.

    When Im looking for approval and being wanted im not looking for someone to be with. I just want to please someone for a few minuets then move on until the next time. Satisfying them makes me feel so good about myself. Like im good enough for someone finally. If I cant make people happy then I hate myself and feel like ive failed.

    Im with someone (hes 17 im 14) and he know that I feel this way and have a need to feel like this. I just told him this weekend after being together for 4 months. He's scared to let me talk to other guys (which I could understand). Even though I would never do anything with else I still feel like I want to be wanted by someone. Even if its for all the wrong reasons. Its almost as if I need to feel wanted and please someone at all times or im nothing. Im nothing without anyone.

    Whats wrong with me? Why do I feel like this? I feel like a whore even though ive only done things with one person. I've had many opportunities to do things with other people and they express that they "want" me but like I said before, I would never do anything when im already with someone.

    By a guy letting me do things to them it makes me feel good enough. Like im not what I see myself as. Like im worthy and enough for someone. Even if its just for a short period of time. Someone finally sees me as something other than ugly, disgusting, ect. And I like that.

    I feel trapped with the way I think. It's like im trapped in my own mind. I know somethings wrong with me. I want to know why I think this way.

    Another thing...im getting kind of desperate for pot. I do things ive never thought I would do. Such as doing "favors" for males to get some. I have not done that yet, but 2 days ago I almost did. I just didn't want my high to go away. When im high I never want to NOT be high again. Then ill have to deal with everything that im feeling. It takes me away from the way I think and gives me a break from myself. I never thought I would do this to be honest. I thought id stay the little honest, pure, and perfect pastors daughter that I once was (grand daughter actually. My grandparents adopted me and my grandfathers a pastor).

    I dont know what to do anymore. I don't want to turn to sexual things with people I barely know, or don't know at all, to feel good about myself. I don't want to turn to sexual things to get a small amount of pot that will hold me over for another 2 hours.

    I want to know whats wrong with me. Please. Im afraid that I will never know whats wrong with me and I will always feel this way. I dont want to feel this way.

    Thanks...

    Sorry this is long.

    Also im diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and depression. Im on a few meds but I cant remember which ones. I don't know why I added this. Just in case it might help for some reason?

    3 AnswersMental Health9 years ago
  • Insecure and need to lose some weight. Advice please?

    When I was 13 I was checked into a rehab center for a drug, cutting, and alcohol problem. When I was there, I gained 30 pounds...in 5 months. Some of the girls were in there for anorexia problems, so they loaded the food with calories.

    1 year and almost 2 months later, I still have the fat. I went in at 130lbs and 5'4, and came out 167 and 5'4. I was very uncomfortable with my body before I went in, but after I got out my confidence plummeted even more. They let us go to the gym maybe once a week for an hour, and there was not enough equipment for all of us.

    I lost about 10 pounds since i've been out, but I am still disgusted with myself. I carry my weight well, so I do not appear too fat. I would like to make my tummy go away, my thighs to become a little thinner, and some inches to be gone from my waist. I have no idea what weight I want to be, I just know that I want to be thinner. Maybe 120? I have no idea. Also please help with what weight sounds good for my height please.

    I am at this point fed up with everything. I have tried diets and exercising, but nothing works. I would like a plan to help with my weight. Im at a loss at what to do. I have tried to get in shape, but have failed. My boyfriend (who works out daily and is in shape) says that he loves my body. I dont though, and I want to change for ME. to make myself feel better about ME.

    Im not looking for a perfectly flat tummy, but I would like the weight to be gone and the size of the tummy to reduce greatly.

    Will you please help me?

    Thanks.

    3 AnswersDiet & Fitness9 years ago
  • Help returning Nike shoes I ordered online?

    I ordered a pair of LeBron 9 Men's Basketball Shoes for my boyfriends birthday yesterday. He tried them on and they were too small. He said he was a 9.5 so I got that size, and they run very small. It says on the website to:

    Fill out the return form.

    The Return Authorization Form is on the back of the packing slip that came with your order.

    I no longer have that.

    My little sister tore up the box and the sticker on the box that it originally came with.

    I do not know if it is possible to return/exchange these shoes any more. He put them on for a few seconds to test the fit, but did not walk around in them or anything.

    Without the original box is it possible to return?

    If it is, is it possible to get another return form from nike?

    If neither one of these are possible I will just sell them on craigslist. I prefer to return/exchange for the correct size. Please help.

    (I have no idea which category to put this in)

    Thank you.

    3 AnswersBasketball9 years ago
  • How old do you have to be to get birth control from a doctor without parental permission?

    Basically what the question states. I live in Florida if that makes any difference. I want to see my doctor about starting birth control, but I do not want my parents to find out.

    I live in a very christian household with a pastor for a grandfather (who is my legal guardian) and I know for sure he would flip if he even knew I was thinking about it. He knows my boyfriend, and highly despises him not only because of the age gap, but also because we have been known to sneak around.

    I want to get on birth control to avoid getting pregnant. Condoms for me are just plain uncomfortable and I have told him before just not to use one. Its not the smartest thing to do, but I really just...don't care. I know that sounds bad.

    If you could please give me information on how old I have to be to be able to get birth control from my doctor (Florida) I would greatly appreciate it.

    Thanks

    2 AnswersWomen's Health9 years ago
  • Thinking of adding more fish to my tank?

    I have a 30G. A simple easy-to-care-for tank that does not require as much attention as my other tanks.

    This tank includes:

    -1 BRISTLENOSE pleco

    -1 dwarf gourami

    -2 guppies

    -3 platies

    I have only 2 guppies because one just died. I checked the levels.

    They were ammonia-0

    Nitrites-0

    NitrAtes-20ppm

    I checked for signs of illness in the other fish and they appeared perfectly healthy. I checked the dead one and he appeared in good health, except for being dead of course. I am going to purchase another guppy to make the group the minimum of 3 as it should be.

    The 3 platies are 1-2 cm long, I am going to move them to a larger tank when they are the appropriate size and can get to food without fighting over it or being pushed out of the way due to their size.

    I was thinking about adding a type of schooling fish. I would like to keep this tank simple so it wont be too time consuming and without very sensitive fish. I of course do the weekly 30% water change and test the levels 2 time per week. This for me is keeping it very simple compared to the maintenance my other tanks need.

    I wanted to go with a type of tetra. 6 would be how many I would get.

    I was thinking about choosing between these tetras:

    Neon

    Cardinal

    Glo light

    That would come to a total of 10 fish and 1 bristlenose pleco as I am going to move the 3 platies over in a few weeks. I dont take caring for fish lightly, and am very serious about my levels and water changes. I think this would be an okay stocking and still an easy tank for me.

    So let me know what you think.

    Thank you

    7 AnswersFish9 years ago
  • What are some Vitamin B12 supplements?

    I have some things that I want to do in my lifetime and 3 of those things include being a vegetarian for 20 days, then a vegan for 20, then a raw vegan for 20.

    When I am doing the vegan/raw vegan diet I know it will be very important that I get my Vitamin B12 and I would like to know some supplements that I could use.

    Thanks

    5 AnswersVegetarian & Vegan9 years ago
  • Could someome press charges for this?

    16 year old male and a 14 year old female engaged in sex. My father threatened to slap charges on him for lewd or lascivious behavior.

    I would like to know if he could actually do this. Is there really any law against a 14 year old and a 16 year old engaging in sexual activity with each other?

    Please let me know.

    Thank you.

    2 AnswersLaw Enforcement & Police9 years ago
  • Skin around cut turning purple?

    I would first like to say that I would appreciate if you gave me an actual answer instead of preaching your views on this subject as an "answer". Please keep all negative comments to yourself and "jokes" you may have. Stereotypes are often incorrect and the stereotype commonly given in my situation is actually the exact opposite. So please, no negative comments. **Thank you**

    Today was the first time in about a month that I cut, and I noticed something very strange. The skin around 2 of my cuts turned purple. Not the actual cut itself, but the skin immediately around it. I disassembled a NEW shaving razor and used the blades out of that. I didn't sterilize (im not a big sterilizer) and the only place it was set down on was the bathroom counter which was free from any visible dirt and other imperfections you could say. I didnt clean the counter either and am aware that even though I could not see anything "dirty" there still was. This took place around noon or so (its about 6:30pm now) and I noticed it was like that at about 2.

    All of the cuts drew blood, but the cuts on my ankle were not that deep (im guessing because the skins a little thinker then what im use to cutting). Even though they were not too deep, they still drew enough blood to soak 2-3 squares of toilet paper. Not a lot, but im just giving you an idea.

    I know it would be better to include some kind of pictures but I am against posting pictures of my cuts anywhere public to avoid triggering other people. I also do not want to be seen as an "attention seeker". Im not an attention seeker, im just simply looking for answers.

    The place where the skin is turning purple is a few inches about my ankle. I dont cut there often, and the skin is a little thinker. The other areas that I cut (wrist and shoulder) are perfectly fine.

    Could this be an infection? Or is it because the skin a few inches above my ankle is thicker then the other areas? Excuse me if I am sounding stupid right now, but I really know nothing about why my skin is turning purple. If you could please try to give me an answer that would be great and I would appreciate it.

    Thank you once again.

    (I am deeply sorry if I triggered anyone with this question)

    4 AnswersInjuries9 years ago
  • Seriously?! What do you think of this?

    OK. I can not FATHOM how much this TICKS ME OFF. I want to say so much more. I just do not know how to make my severe malice for this inhuman animal comprehensible.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_h_zCfYGuM

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    QUESTION:

    What do you think of the person who did this?

    (I feel like killing him)

    Thanks

    6 AnswersFish9 years ago
  • Why do people use age as an excuse for not taking of fish properly?

    It's like, they go "Dude im only 14 years old! I dont have all this money to spend!"

    Well if you didn't have the money to take care of it, why buy it in the first place?! You want a fish, research it and THEN buy it after you have the proper set-up.

    I mean, I have 6 tanks up all cycled and with good fish in there. I do something called 'chores' to pay for all of the stuff I need.

    Age is NOT an excuse. Guess what dude, im ALSO 14 and you don't see me being stupid with fish. Like really?

    Anyway. QUESTION:

    ***Why do people use age as an excuse for not properly taking care of fish???***

    So yeah. Answer the question if you want. Thanks.

    ~A 14yr old girl who is pissed at people on here for using age as an excuse.

    7 AnswersFish9 years ago
  • Filter cartridge fell apart. What do I do? Urgent..ish. I guess?

    So I turned off my filter and got a bucket of dirty tank water. The flow was very minimum, so I was going to clean them off a little bit. Well I put them in the bucked of dirty tank water and started GENTLY swishing them in it. I saw that it was starting to fall apart, so I lifted it out of the water. Next thing I know, the filter pad started falling in pieces off of the part that is goes around.

    I had a cycled tank, and now my filter pads that have been in there for months have just become unusable.

    I have no filter pads here with me because you are never supposed to change them!

    -My fish are without a filter now.

    -I have no more filter pads to replace them.

    -The filter that had all my bacteria on is now destroyed.

    What do I do?

    I have:

    -9 Betta's

    -7 Platies

    -6 Cories

    -Baby and adult mystery snails

    -Platy fry in a breeding net

    55G

    So:

    -Is there anything I can use instead of a actual filter pad? Or do I need to go get new ones? I can run to the store, but it will be maybe 2-3 hours.

    -What can I do to avoid cycling all over again!? I am totally against fish in cycling, and I will be angry if I have to recycle after this. I had a very established tank -.- But yeah.

    Urg. This is confusing. OK:

    Should I just go to the store in 2-3 hours and buy a new filter pad? Or use something at home?

    ***What can I do to keep the beneficial bacteria that is on my destroyed and goopy/dissolved filter pads so I will not have to cycle***

    Sorry if this is confusing. I am a little stressed.

    Thanks

    5 AnswersFish9 years ago
  • Wil this thing that I use for MEDICAL reasons hurt my fish?

    I am a MEDICAL MARI.JUANA user. Will thw smoke hurt my fish in anyway? 55G that i.s not fully covered. I just wnat to know if the mar,ijuana that I use for MEDICAL purposes will harm my fish.

    I understand thaat this was most likely deleted because I did not specify that it was for medical purposes. Whatever. But will it?

    THanks.

    4 AnswersFish9 years ago