Ok, so long story short. My girlfriend and her mom got in a fight, and her mom took her phone away. She's 20, but her mom did buy the phone...so yeah, I dunno, whatever, that's besides the point
So, me being the helpful me that I want to be, wrote her a FB message(she can get FB in class or starbucks) and yeah.
Yahoo community! Tell me if you think that this is good advice. It's a very...no, extremely long read, so you can just skim through it if you like.
During the next few days, when you're at home, instead of just chillin most of the time, you should clean the entire time. Also, since you wont be talking to me much, thats extra cleaning time.
Think about where your mom is most, or what she'll see. The front room, which is easiest to clean. She'll also see the hallway, the kitchen, and the garage.
Big hint. The garage. It will be a major pain in the ***, but clean the living **** out of that garage. Put all the clothes in the hamper, bring a trash bag out there, and clean up. -SWEEP- the garage(it will make a difference, though it will still be very dirty), take every bag of cans, put them in the middle of the garage(you'll have to do this in between classes, or tomorrow morning when you dont have class. and clean that corner, put any loose cans in bags, sweep out any crap there, and then put all the bags back in a nice pile.
Take a broom or something to dust/wipe, and wipe down the front wall of the garage, and the bench where the water heater is, and the actual water heater itself if it doesnt burn you(if so, just take a broom to it) and wipe down all the dust and grime there.
Remember, your mom sees the garage when she gets home from work, it's the very first thing that she sees.
Next, the walkway to the garage, where the vacuum is, move that vacuum out of there, and sweet that area, and the entire hall. Vacuum the entrance to your room(the part she can see. It doesn't really matter if you vacuum your whole room, cos she wont see it all anyways, but if you're already vacuuming, why not....up to you...
Whatever's in the front walkway of your room... push it to the side by your computer desk/closet. Clean that later. Anything in front of your bed, do the same, you will clean that later.
Now, this will make a difference. The coffee table. Take everything OFF of the coffee table, and.. Take the blue sheet off, and turn it upside down. You now have a fresh clean looking blue sheet! Your mom WILL know that you flipped it over, and it will register in her mind "oh, she just flipped it over and didnt clean it". But that's no problem.
Cleanliness is psychological.
put everything back on the coffee table.
At this point, you'll probably have to leave for school soon. So just put your stuff in your bag, and have a good night in class. Make sure you have a good night!! When your mom picks you up. Act happy(even if your arent) and bubble. Whether or not it effects her, emotions ARE contagious to some degree, for EVERYONE. It's biologically built into us. It may make a tiny bit of a difference, but at this point, you want that. Just act happy. DONT argue, talk back, have an attitude, even if shes really getting at you. If you're pissed. Just be silent. I know you're not the best with anger n stuff, but you rly have to try... hold it in for the time being.
I talked to NAME, and shes cool with letting you call me on her phone. Take the anger out on me. ***** about everything to me, take it all out. I'll listen to you :).
p.s. NAME did say it was cool to let you talk to me on her phone...but be reasonable!! don't say 'GIVE ME THE PHONE'. just say 'hey NAME, can I call Sean?'
She has the right to say no! so respect that. She may talk back, or act like she doesn't care, or anything. just say k thnx, or can I ask your in an hour? or something.
ALL IN ALL, just be passive, around your family during the next week. I know it's not you to be silent and passive, but just do it anyways. Be nice to your sister as well! Even though she's not your mom, if you and NAME are yelling at each other...do you think your mom wants to hear it? No matter who's at fault, or whatever the reason or how used to it she is. It is very annoying. So just be extra nice. You dont have to be a complete kissass, but yeah.
Also, when you do eventually get your phone back... the next couple days after that, still be extra nice. DONT LET THIS BECOME A PRECEDENT. If you get mad at her or disrespect her after she gives it back. That sets a precedent, whether consciously or unconsciously, it will equate to NAME without phone = good. NAME with phone = bad. So keep that in mind.
All in all, just keep everything on your mind. Dont stress. Be nice. It's a major pain in the *ss. That's why you want to move out right? Exactly. Just wait, and one day, you will be moved out,